During my senior year of college, I was in a long-distance relationship for a few months. We broke up for a lot of reasons, but the distance was a big factor. After that relationship ended, I pretty much vowed to never do that again. LDRs are really hard and require a lot more work than regular relationships. If you and your partner aren’t both willing to put in the effort, the relationship will fall apart.
But then I met someone who lives about 900-miles away from me. Ironically, of course I would meet someone who lives up north when I recently moved back down south. He’s from where I live and was home for Christmas. He told me where he lived when we met, but I couldn’t shake how well we clicked. So I gave him my number anyway. We went out, kept talking, and before I knew it, he came back to visit me. Cut to a few weeks later, and I’m now visiting him surrounded by piles of snow.
I was skeptical of relationships that started off long-distance until I found myself in one. It turns out that I know more about my new boyfriend than I did about my last boyfriend during our entire relationship. We’ve spent so much time talking about everything, and in turn, it’s put me in the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had.
I won’t lie though. It is difficult to spend weeks apart, but it also makes the time you do spend together way better. If you’re in a LDR, you can totally relate:
1. You’re more thankful for your phone than you ever thought you could be.
You’re also devastated if you have a bad signal.
2. You live for Skype dates.
I MISS YOUR FACE.
3. You’re perfectly fine staying in to talk to your boo.
Your friends might think you’re lame, but whatever.
4. You text them things you would never text if they lived near you because you want to tell them about your day.
Like what you ate for lunch.
5. You have to work to ignore people who tell you you’re going to break up.
Wow, thanks. I really appreciate your support.
6. And sometimes you think they could be right.
But you try not to think about that.
7. You really love mail because it means you might have a care package or card from your significant other.
Your mailman is your new BFF.
8. You like having space to do your thang.
You don’t have to worry about making time for yourself because you have plenty of it. Your hobbies won’t suffer either!
9. But you also get super sad that you can’t do things you love WITH the person you love.
10. Seeing couples together in public when you’re separated can make you either really depressed or disgusted.
GET A ROOM.
11. You count down the days until you get to see them.
You mark them on your calendar and everything.
12. And you make sure to plan the next visit before the current one is over.
Seriously do this otherwise you’ll end up in constant “So when do you think you’re coming here?” chats.
13. You have to have serious trust skills.
Trust is one of the most important things in an LDR.
14. Single people of the opposite sex tend to put pressure on you just because your SO lives far away.
“Different area code…” How about no?
15. You get thirsty AF.
I mean… thank goodness you have hands and an imagination, right?
16. You have to be careful about your budgeting so you can actually see each other, especially if you have to fly.
Say goodbye to your online shopping habit.
17. You get to spend a lot more time with your friends.
But you wish your boo could be there too.
18. You’re always trying to find new ways to make your LDR better.
Skype-movie dates, anyone?
19. You feel pretty incomplete a lot of the time.
Like your other half is missing.
20. But you always have something to look forward to.
Because when you finally see each other, it’s the BEST!
Are you in a long-distance relationship? Do you relate to any of these things? What else happens in LDRs? Tell us in the comments below!
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