First dates are hard, no matter how old you are or how many of them you’ve been on. It’s a time when you have to vulnerable and ready to try to make a good first impression, all while dealing with lots of nerves and maybe butterfly feelings in your stomach.
If you want to ace your first date with someone, there are certain things you just can’t do. Sure, awkward and embarrassing things may happen, and that’s fine – but in the end, you have to act like a decent human being. Here are 10 first date mistakes you need to avoid making:
Being LateAs a chronically late person, I know how hard it can be to arrive early or on time somewhere. But sometimes you just really have to make the extra effort, and a first date is one of those times. Being late might make your date think that you're disrespecting him, that you don't care, or that you're really not interested, all of which might not be true. Source: ShutterStock
Texting Or Being On Your PhoneThis shouldn't need to be said, but I still see people on first dates who go on their phones. Once I went on a first date with a dude who texted almost the entire time. It was incredibly rude and really turned me off. I didn't even want to finish the date. Unless you're dealing with an emergency, put your phone away, and leave it away. Source: ShutterStock
Acting Like You're Already In A RelationshipBe weary of coming on too strong, even if you really like this person. There's being honest about your feelings, and then there's being a little too aggressive. Remember that this is only a first date, and you need to give things time. You don't want to totally freak your date out. Source: ShutterStock
Not Offering To PayIt's 2015. The guy doesn't have to pay for everything. Even if he insists on paying, offering is just really polite and something he'll appreciate. Source: ShutterStock
Monopolizing The ConversationSometimes people get over-excited or nervous and end up talking about themselves the entire time. I get it, but it's not ideal. I've been on dates with guys who monopolized the entire conversation and barely even asked about me. I felt like they weren't interested in getting to know me and left feeling kind of exhausted. Remember to pause every once in a while and ask him questions too. Source: ShutterStock
Not Speaking At AllAt the same time, you don't want to be totally silent. As a shy girl, I know it can be hard to swallow your nerves and talk a little bit, especially on a date. But you have to do it! If you don't talk, he's going to think you're really bored. Source: ShutterStock
Being Rude To Him or OthersVery few people want to continue to hang out with someone who's rude. Make sure you're being polite to your date and also to those around you, like the waiter, barista, whatever. Also this should just be a general rule of life. Source: ShutterStock
Pretending You're Into Something You Actually Know Nothing AboutIn the awkwardness of a first date, you might end up saying you like something you don't to try to impress the person. Don't do this. If things continue with you two, it will come up again, and you might be like, uh what? Just be truthful and be yourself. Source: ShutterStock
Being Really PassiveBy this I mean: not offering up suggestions on where to go or what to do, saying you don't care when he asks what you want to do, not speaking your opinion on anything really, or just being very vague. Let your personality shine. If a guy asks what you want to do, he genuinely wants to know! Source: ShutterStock
Mentioning Your Ex, Even OnceYep. This is still a big no-no. Source: ShutterStock
Which of these mistakes have you witnessed or made? What did I forget? Tell me in the comments.