Whether it’s your first time or your tenth time, kissing someone can be a nerve-wracking experience. It’s scary to smooch someone for the first time, especially if you either haven’t done it before or haven’t done it in a while. You start to wonder if you’ve forgotten what to do, or if the other person isn’t going to like your style, or if you’re going to mess something up completely.
All of these anxieties can quickly lead to a lack of confidence, which can lead to a lackluster kiss, and then the cycle is just endless. Feeling awesome about your kissing abilities is a really important part of being a good kisser, and it makes things more fun. Here are 8 tips on how to be more confident when kissing someone:
Make Sure Your Breath Smells GoodThe more comfortable you feel, the more confident you'll feel. And if you're stressing about your breath because you just ate a bag of spicy Dorito's, you're not going to be comfortable. If you know you're about to have a serious makeout sesh or even just a little kiss might happen, chew some gum or suck on some mints. Knowing that you smell and taste minty and delicious will help you feel a little bit better. Source: ShutterStock
Prep Your LipsAgain, confidence about kissing comes from confidence in yourself. If you know a kiss is coming, prep the night and/or day before. Exfoliate with a little lip scrub to make your lips super soft and smooth, then apply chap stick or a similar lip remedy (my absolute favorite is Fresh Sugar) up until the big moment. You'll feel like a rockstar with the softest, most kissable lips ever. Source: ShutterStock
Remember It's Harder To Think About Than Actually DoThinking about kissing someone is really stressful. Actually kissing someone? Not as bad. It's one of those things that when you're doing it, you're like, what the heck am I supposed to do? And then when you are doing it, it all just comes naturally. Remind yourself of this before it happens so you're not as nervous. Source: ShutterStock
Make Sure You're In A Comfortable PositionAgain: it's easier to be confident when you're comfortable. If you're in an awkward position in a place that makes you nervous, it's going to be hard to feel a boost of self-esteem. Sit or stand in a way that leaves you feeling relaxed. Source: ShutterStock
Remember This Person Is Kissing You Because They Want ToChances are, no one is forcing this person to kiss you - they're doing it because they want to. This person thinks you're sexy, awesome, beautiful, whatever enough to want to put their tongue in your mouth. That should make you feel super confident! Just keep repeating it to yourself. Source: ShutterStock
Tell Yourself You're A Good Kisser Until You Believe ItFake it till you make it! If you're nervous, just keep telling yourself that you're a great kisser and anyone would be lucky to kiss you, even if you don't believe it. Just keep repeating it in your mind until you really do believe it. Source: ShutterStock
Don't Be Afraid To Be PassionateLastly, don't be afraid to get into it! If you want to do something, try it. Go with your gut feeling, and do what you think is right in the moment. In other words, don't over-think it. Source: ShutterStock
How do you feel more confident when kissing someone? Which of these tips have you tried? Tell me in the comments.