I’m a shy, introverted girl, which is something I’ve written about many times before. I’ve accepted myself for who I am, and I’ve become more outgoing throughout the last few years, but growing up as a quiet girl wasn’t always easy. I spent most of my time second guessing myself, because I had no confidence at all. I was always afraid to talk to people, and making conversation was really scary and difficult.
It took a long time for me to feel comfortable approaching people or talking to people I really didn’t know. In fact, I still feel painfully awkward when I have to make small talk, and I hate being by myself in social situations. I’m still known as a quiet person, and I doubt that will ever change.
A lot of you are like me, and I say, we should own being shy! But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t work on some stuff too. It’s fine to be a quiet, awkward person, but to improve your own life, you have to learn how to get out of your shell just a little bit. Here are 10 new year’s resolutions all shy girls should make ASAP:
Talk To One New Person Once or Twice A MonthAs a shy girl, I know how hard it is to talk to new people, no matter who they are. Challenge yourself to become friendly with a new person at least once a month. You don't need to be their best friend, but just say something to someone new! You can even just give a random person a compliment, no matter how much you blush. Doing little things like that will help you adjust to talking to people even when you don't feel super comfortable. Source: ShutterStock
Pay Attention To Your Body LanguageOur body language reveals a lot about us, and sometimes we don't even realize what we're doing. I'll never forget something that someone I once dated said to me. We were out together, and he suddenly stood in front of me and said, "Stop crossing your arms!" I hadn't even realized I was crossing them and I was obviously surprised. He continued, "You don't look approachable like that. You're such a nice person, you should show that more!" He was one of the most outgoing people I ever knew, and his advice has stuck with me. Pay attention to any little things you may be doing that are making you look closed off. Source: ShutterStock
Stop Doubting YourselfA big part of being shy is feeling insecure or constantly feeling like you're doing the wrong thing. When I was in school, I was SO shy. There were plenty of times I considered raising my hand in class to answer a question, but then I would think, "What if I'm wrong? What if I embarrass myself? I'm probably wrong." I wouldn't do anything, and then the next person would give the exact answer I was going to, and they were right. Stop second-guessing yourself! You're probably fine. Also, if you are wrong, it's not a big deal. Source: ShutterStock
Do Something That Scares You Once A MonthAnother big part of being shy is not doing a lot of things because you're too nervous or scared. I missed out on a lot because I was anxious and scared and couldn't stop thinking about what would happen. Make a resolution to push yourself into doing things that scare you. You don't need to do anything crazy, as long as you're doing something different. Source: ShutterStock
Make Some Kind Of Move On Your CrushI'm not saying you need to declare your love and ask your crush out, but you should make some kind of first move on him/her. You can do something small, like wave when you walk past them, add them on social media, send them a message, whatever. Just do something! Source: ShutterStock
Tell People When Something Is Bothering YouAs a shy girl, I've always had a problem with confrontation. I used to bottle up all of my feelings and never tell people when I was angry or upset with them. I just didn't want to talk about it. But I've learned that that has gotten me nowhere. Work on confronting people more, even if it's uncomfortable. Source: ShutterStock
Stop Relying On Friends At PartiesBranch out on your own a little bit! The next time you go to a party in 2015, don't just stand by your friend's side and do whatever they do. Separate from the pack and approach someone on your own. It's scary but really liberating. Source: ShutterStock
Learn How To Make Polite ConversationSmall talk is awkward no matter how outgoing you are, but sometimes we need to make conversation with people we don't really know that well. Learn how to do it. Practice in front of the mirror or with your parents. Just get a little bit more politely talking to people when you have no idea what to say - you'll need to do this for the rest of your life. Source: ShutterStock
Pick One Thing To Be Confident AboutBecoming confident in yourself can take years. Take it one step at a time. This year, pick at least one thing about yourself and work on being super confident about it. It doesn't matter if it's a physical attribute or something about your personality - it could be your sense of style, your skill in a certain sport, whatever. Just build up your confidence about that, and work from there. Source: ShutterStock
Own Your ShynessBeing shy doesn't just go away one day. You'll probably be at least a little shy forever. But that's okay! I used to hate being shy, and I wished I could be someone else. Now I've just accepted that it's part of my personality. I know how to work around it, but I don't beat myself up for it anymore. Source: ShutterStock
Are you a shy girl? Which of these resolutions do you want to make? What did I forget? Tell me in the comments.