15 Things All Shy Girls Do When They Have A Crush On Someone

There are some girls who have no problem going up to the person they like and flirting aggressively until he/she is just as obsessed with her as she is with him – if not more. These girls aren’t terrified to make the first move, the thought of rejection doesn’t paralyze them, and they don’t spend a conversation blurting out awkward things and then trying to backtrack.

I am not one of these girls.

I’m shy, and I always have been. I’ve gotten a lot more outgoing than I used to be, but I still describe myself as a shy person. I’ve never made the first move, ever, and when I was single, the idea of a first date made me want to crawl under a rock. Trying to get the attention of my crush was a mix of embarrassing and pathetic moments that usually ended in him hooking up with another girl because he had no clue how I felt. So, it’s safe to know that I know what it’s like to be around the person you like when you’re shy. I wrote this for all the other quiet girls out there. Here are 15 things all shy girls do when they have a crush on someone:


1. Stare at your crush until they notice you, then look away really quickly and act like you weren’t just staring. 

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2. Wait for your crush to talk to you rather than approach them, even when you’re dying to talk. 

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3. Blush the entire time you’re talking to your crush even though you have nothing to be blushing about. 



4. Go places you know your crush will be at, not trying to stalk him/her, but just in the hopes that he/she will talk to you. 

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5. Hold eye contact for a few seconds because you read you should do that, then freak out about it. 

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6. Talk to him/her online a lot but when you see them in person, clam up completely. 

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7. Say something extremely awkward. All the time. In every conversation. 


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8. Laugh or giggle when you’re at a loss for words, even if it doesn’t make sense. 

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9. Try to think of something witty and smart and wonderful to say when talking, but actually think of it three hours after you spoke. 

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10. Make sure you’re in a group setting with him/her because it’s easier to talk that way. 

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11. Refuse to flirt unless you’re almost positive he/she is flirting with you. 

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12. Only tell him/her any kind of true feelings through text messages. 

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13. Fidget like a manic when talking to him/her, whether you’re tapping your feet, playing with your hair, or cracking your knuckles. 

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14. Get to a point where you avoid him/her because you’re so nervous. 

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15. Tell everyone how you feel about you crush… except, you know, your crush. 



Are you a shy girl? Can you relate to these? What can you relate to the most? What did I forget? Tell me in the comments.

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  • Waiting for Superman

    I’m a shy girl. My crush goes to my school.. His name is Dustin. I’ve known him since second grade. Started liking him in 4th grade, after my previous crush Michael , and his friend who I told in person, started bullying me. So I’m in 8th grade now. I still really like Dustin. I told him on YouTube, on one of his videos. That I have a crush on him.

    Every week In school I see him staring at me, profusely. So yesterday, on Friday. I actually sat behind him(table behind the one he was sitting at). So Karen, my friend comes and asks me if I wanted to sit at a different table.. We sat at the table in front of his. When 8th grade got called to the gym. We got up. Dustin was walking behind us. I felt super nervous cause he knew I had a crush on him… “Hi Dustin” Karen says. “Hi Karen” Dustin says. “Hi Laurel” he says to me causing me to feel more nervous than I was. “Hi” I said. I was trying to make Karen walk faster, so I would walk faster, so I wouldn’t feel nervous.

    I want to tell him in person how i feel.. But I’mmmm nervous.

  • King Troll

    shy = cowardly

  • Aaron Krell

    There is a shy girl I know, and she has done most of these things that you mentioned, and well I’m still not sure. I mean now even some of her friends are telling me that she has feelings

  • Kman_99

    As a shy guy, i must say this is me in every way. There was a time when i had a crush on a girl and my friend gave me an ultimatum. If i didnt go talk to her in ten seconds he would do it for me. Of course i did not have the courage to approach her so he went and i ran away. I thought i would be safe sitting at a table with my other friends. But then my friend approach our table with the girl close behind. So i did the best thing i could think of. I closed my eyes, covered my head and waited for the horrors to go away. It was terribly embarrassing.. She just kept saying “hello?” but by then it was too late. I was to embarased to open my eyes.

    • RicketyRick

      LOL. I know this might sound harsh but this comment made me feel not as shy as I thought I was. But atleast you don’t become a sarcastic dbag like I get when I am unexpectedly approached by women. But it gets better with practice.

  • Gigi

    I think somebody followed me and wrote this article.
    13957081% accurate

  • Mikayla MacQuarrie

    I’m an extremely shy girl and am currently crushing on this one guy and this whole article is sooo true!

  • Jen

    All but the last one is true for me

  • Ugh.. All of these describe me perfectly

  • Andrew Gramling

    Feelings don’t lie. If you want to know how someone feels about you, just listen to your feelings. Not logic, not mannerisms, not how much they smile around you, just feelings. They tell all.

  • Cass

    Or instead of actually talking to them online, you just stare at their name mentally willing them to initiate the conversation

  • Annon

    Reading some of the comments makes me feel like I’m losing IQ points. Jesus Christ.

    On the topic of “shy girls”, it might be true they are cute/attractive at the first glance, but beneath the surface; many of these girls ends up very disappointing. They lack the sufficient self-confidence to further a relationship in a healthy manner. They leave it almost completely up to the guy to do all the work. While that may sound like a good idea at first (she is letting him be in control. awesome!@!@), as time goes on, the guy would get burnout for being the one to take the first move for the majority of things, where he would either ends up breaking up with the girl, stay in the relationship unhappy and snap later, or cheat on her (not because he is a bad guy, but because he is sick of the constant feel he is being taken advantage of, which such feel would develop at later stages of the relationship, as I implied earlier).

    My advice to the shy girls: Simply quit being a cowardly leech. Start forcing yourself to take risks and take the initiative, and your mind chemicals may as well change and you get rid of all the awkwardness that you can’t stop thinking about. Things are rarely as scary as your mind makes them out to be. People with a poverty mentality plays it safe (and remains poor). Don’t be that person.