I’m currently in a relationship, but a few years ago, I was single for a while. At one point, it felt like every friend I had had a boyfriend… except for me. I was the only single one in our group, and it definitely wasn’t the best feeling in the world. While my friends gushed about the nice things their boyfriends had done for them, I sat there thinking about all of the guys who weren’t texting me back.
But there were some moments that made me realize that things really weren’t that bad… like when my friends got vulnerable and told me they missed being single sometimes, or when I realized I would rather wait for someone great than settle for someone just so I could have a boyfriend. I know that being the only one not in a relationship can be really tough, but trust me – you can get through it. Here are 8 tips on how to deal when you’re the only single friend.
Don't Be AshamedThere's nothing wrong with being single, but I understand how it's easy to feel embarrassed about something when you're the odd one out. Don't let yourself feel weird about it. You're not the first person to be the only single friend, and you certainly won't be the last. Source: ShutterStock
Bring A Friend As Your Date To ThingsIf you're going to an event where everyone else is bringing a date and you don't have a date, see if you can bring a friend instead. Recently, my group of friends and I had a dinner with all of our boyfriends, and my one friend is single. She brought along a work friend as her date and had an amazing time. Ask the host if it's okay, especially if it's something like a wedding. Source: ShutterStock
Get Closer With Your Single FriendsIt might make you feel better to spend time with other people who are single as well instead of constantly being surrounded by couples. Get closer with girls you know who are also single and bond about that. They'll understand you in a way your coupled up friends may not be able to. Source: ShutterStock
Be Honest About How You Feel With Your FriendsIt's okay to feel awkward as the third, fifth, or seventh wheel. You don't need to hide that from your friends - in fact, you should be honest with them about it so they know what they're dealing with! If they invite you to something and you feel too uncomfortable to go, that's okay, just be honest with them. Source: ShutterStock
But Don't Avoid Your Coupled Up Friends EntirelyIt's fine to spend a lot of time with other single people, but that doesn't mean you should give up on your coupled up friends altogether. That's not cool! Don't ruin a friendship with someone just because you're both in different places in your lives. Source: ShutterStock
Realize The Grass Isn't Always GreenerIt's easy to look at things we don't have and romanticize those things as if they're the greatest. In reality, that's not always true. Sure, some of your friends might be in genuinely great relationships, but not all of them are. Don't assume that being in a relationship is 100 percent better than being single, because that's not true. Everything has it's ups and downs. Source: ShutterStock
Take Advantage Of Your Friend's BF's FriendsIf all of your friends have boyfriends, that means one thing: they all have guy friends, and that's plenty of guys for you to choose from! Don't be opposed to being set up. Take advantage of your BFF's boyfriend and try to hang out with them and his friends to get to know them more. Who knows, that could be the way you meet the dude you're really into! Source: ShutterStock
Enjoy Being SingleIn the end, you just need to be happy being single. There are so many advantages to doing things on your own, and you just have to take advantage of it while you can! Source: ShutterStock
Are you the only single friend? Can you relate to this? How do you deal with this? What did I forget? Tell me in the comments.