When you have low self-esteem, feeling great about yourself can be pretty difficult. Feeling more confident in general is hard enough as it is… feeling more confident when you’re naked and rolling around touching having someone else touch your whole body? It can feel almost impossible.
Being confident during sex is tough, but it’s not impossible – and if you want to have a good sex life, it’s something you absolutely need to learn. You can’t have a fantastic hookup if you spend the whole time worrying about what your stomach rolls look like or wondering if he’s actually enjoying himself or just faking it. You have to learn how to feel more confident in order to have the best hookup ever.
But how do you do that? Don’t worry, the tips are surprisingly easy. Follow these steps, and remember to give yourself some time. Here are 10 tips on how to feel more confident during sex. Good luck!
Masturbate For PracticeIt's much easier to feel confident during sex when you know what you're doing or when you know what you want him to do to you. Plus, practice makes perfect! Figure out what you like by experimenting on your own. Masturbation allows you to really get into things without feeling self-conscious, because no one is there to judge you. It also helps you figure out what feels good for you. Source: ShutterStock
Shower Before You Do ItA lot of the time, girls don't feel confident during sex because they're worrying about how their bodies look or how they smell. You can't change how you look overnight, but you can ensure that you smell delicious. Plus, a shower will leave you feeling fresh and clean, and what's sexier than that? Use a nice body wash, then moisturize with a yummy-smelling lotion. You can fix your hair the way you like it if that boosts your self-esteem too. Once you're done, you'll feel clean and ready to go. Of course, you can't always shower before sex, but in the beginning it should help with confidence. Source: ShutterStock
Wear Sexy LingerieNever underestimate the power of sexy lingerie. Even if the guy barely notices it, you should wear it for you. Lingerie that fits correctly and looks good on you will make you feel like the sexiest woman alive. Go to the store and pick out lingerie that is comfortable - this is key. If you're wearing something that doesn't fit right, is poking you in the boob or just feels awkward, you're not going to feel confident, you're going to feel weird! Find something comfy and something that makes you look in the mirror and go, "Dayuuummm." Then rock it in bed! Source: ShutterStock
Kiss Passionately During ForeplayIt's hard to not feel confident when you're making out with someone hardcore. Don't just have sex without foreplay, and don't just have foreplay without kissing. Spend a few minutes just making out with your partner to get you both really in the mood. Once things are super passionate, you'll be so into it that you'll barely remember you were supposed to be self-conscious. Source: ShutterStock
Keep The Lighting DimThe right lighting can really make you feel better about how you look, if that's what you're nervous about. You don't want to be in a pitch-dark room, because you literally won't be able to see anything, and that's not fun. You don't want to be in a room with crazy bright lights because that's uncomfortable. Pick dim lighting, because it's the best. Put on one small lamp or if the lights are adjustable, just dim them down. If neither of those options work, turn the lights off and put the TV on mute. Ahhh. Nice. Source: ShutterStock
Keep One Piece Of Clothing On If You WantIf you're really, really uncomfortable about your body, then there's no rule that says you have to be 100 percent naked during sex. Leave a shirt on if you want, or your bra, or a skirt... whatever makes you feel more comfortable. Keep it on until your confidence goes up, then eventually take it off. Source: ShutterStock
Make Him Feel GoodI know that may sound slightly anti-feminist, but hear me out: making your partner feel good will make YOU feel good. It will make you feel like you're doing the right thing, and what could be a better confidence booster than that? Of course, sex should never be about only one person, so once you're done making him feel good and you feel like a total rockstar, let him make YOU feel good. See? You both win, and you've proven you're awesome. Source: ShutterStock
Find A Position You Feel Comfortable InThere is no right or wrong way to have sex. Figure out which position makes you feel the best about yourself. Maybe it's you being on top, or maybe it's him on top. Maybe it's from behind or something completely different. Whatever it is, do it! Source: ShutterStock
Play Some Sexy MusicIt's nice to have some noise in the background sometimes - it's not nice when that noise is the news channel talking about someone who just got murdered. Pick some sexy tunes and play them in the background. Music can really change your mood and it may help you get more into the situation. Source: ShutterStock
Give Him DirectionDirty talk can boost your confidence, but when you have low self-esteem, dirty talk can be really hard! Start slow by just giving him direction: "Put your hand here," or "Go a little slower." This will make it feel better for you, which will get you more into the mood, which will keep you less focused on your anxieties about yourself. And eventually, it will lead to full-on dirty talk. Source: ShutterStock
How do you feel more confident during sex? Which of these tips did you disagree with? What did I forget? Tell me in the comments.