Yesterday, my ex texted me to tell me that he was thinking about me. We had a terrible breakup about ten months ago, and it took me a long time to get over what happened. And here’s the thing: I am over it. I didn’t realize it until he texted me because my heart didn’t skip a beat, I didn’t get a lump in my throat, and I didn’t want to talk to him. Six months ago, I would have told you differently.
That moment was hugely important for me. It’s not that I’ve even been thinking about my ex because I’ve spent this year focusing on myself. It was more the fact that I hadn’t thought about him in so long that when he contacted me, I didn’t care. It wasn’t necessarily a surprise, but that feeling of being completely free from your ex after a while is just plain refreshing. When you’re finally over your ex, a few things will definitely happen: