A few weeks ago, I wrote about tips on how to deal if you have a crush on a girl who’s your friend. One of you commented asking what you should do if your girl friend has a crush on you, and I thought that was a really awesome question. Things can get confusing when you’re straight and you realize another girl likes you, especially when that girl is a close friend.
So, what are you supposed to do when you’re getting unwanted attention from another girl? First of all, there’s no need to freak out. Second, read on for all the advice you need. Here are 8 tips on how to deal when your girl friend has a crush on you:
Treat It Like Any Other Un-reciprocated CrushYour friend likes you and you don't like her. That's it. Don't make this into a bigger deal than that... it's basically the same thing as if a guy friend liked you and you didn't like him back. Treat her the same way you would treat a guy friend who you weren't interested - be honest and respectful. Source: ShutterStocK
Don't Just Assume She's A LesbianIf your friend has never shown an interest in girls before (to you at least) and this comes as a surprise to you, don't just assume she's a lesbian because she likes you. She could be bisexual, or she could just be experimenting and trying to figure out her feelings. The point is, don't try to define her sexuality without talking to her first. Source: ShutterStock
Don't Gossip About ItIf you think your friend is crushing on you, talk to her about it, not other people. Don't run around spreading rumors or telling everyone who will listen to make yourself feel less uncomfortable. That's not a nice thing to do and is going to make your friend feel horrible and embarrassed. Source: ShutterStock
Be Sure Before You Speak UpIf you plan on talking to your friend about her crush, try to make sure you know what you're doing. If she's been a little flirty with you once or twice, that might not mean she has a crush on you necessarily. Try to pick up clues and hints, and speak up if you're sure. If you accuse her of something that isn't true, she'll probably get really annoyed. Source: ShutterStock
Don't Make Her Feel Bad About ItIf you're sure she likes you, don't make her feel like she's a freak or a weirdo because of that. If your friend has never said that she's a lesbian or bisexual, she may be dealing with some really confusing feelings right now. Even if she has come out as a lesbian, she might still feel really confused because she has a crush on her friend. Don't make her feel like she's doing something wrong here. Source: ShutterStock
Let Her Know You're Not InterestedIf you think it's time to say something, then you should - and you should be honest. Gently tell your friend that you care about her so much, but you just don't feel that way about her. If you want to continue the friendship, say that. But don't give her false hope just because you feel bad, and don't string her along because telling the truth is hard. Source: ShutterStock
If You Feel Uncomfortable, Be HonestIf things are getting awkward and your friend is coming on a little too strong, feel free to speak up. You shouldn't be made to feel uncomfortable by anyone who won't take no for an answer. Tell her you don't want to ruin your friendship, but her advances are too much and you need her to back off a little. Source: ShutterStock
Try To Keep The Friendship IntactIf possible, try to stay friends with this girl. If she hasn't come out as a lesbian or as bisexual, she needs friends right now. Try to support her. But at the same time, realize that if she really likes you and you've told her you don't feel the same way, she may need a little time away from you to move on. Try to understand that and respect her feelings. Source: ShutterStock
Have any of your friends ever had a crush on you? What did you do about it? Have you ever had a crush on a girl friend? Tell us in the comments.