As you all know, bullying is something that affects thousands of kids everywhere. October is National Anti-Bullying Month and putting an end to this awful form of abuse should be on the top of everyone’s to-do list. Bullying is something that is so common that sometimes we don’t even notice that we’re actually hurting people. For example, when I was in school, I would repeat mean things that I heard because I thought that it was funny. I soon realized that even though I wasn’t the person starting the rumor, I continued to spread it, and that made me a bully. No one ever wants to feel bad about themselves and you should never be the person that is contributing to someone’s pain. Here are 8 ways that you’re perpetuation bullying without realizing it.
1. Laughing When You Notice That Someone Is UpsetLaughing at someone when you can visibly see that they are upset is considered bullying. When someone sees that you are laughing, it makes them feel that their pain is actually funny. You have no clue what is going on in their minds and they could actually need someone to talk to. Be the person that asks what is wrong instead of laughing. Trust me, it will go a long way. Photo source: Shutterstock
2. Spreading Rumors That You Hear"Did you hear about what Rebecca did at the party last night? Let me fill you in." Spreading the rumors that you hear is a form of bullying. Just because you are not the person to start the rumor does not mean that you are not contributing to the bullying. This form of bullying goes unnoticed because people think that they are just telling others what they hear. How would you feel if people were spreading lies about you and there was nothing you could do? Think before you speak and continue to spread rumors. Photo source: Shutterstock
3. Making Rude Comments About Someone's AppearanceWe've all made a rude comment about someone's outfit because we thought that we were being funny. None of us has been appointed the fashion police and the age old saying that if we don't have anything nice to say don't say anything all still applies. Photo source: HuffingtonPost
4. Saying Verbally Abusive ThingsCalling someone a "slut, whore, tramp, too fat, too skinny, ugly, etc" is a huge form of bullying that must be stopped. If you are saying mean things to hurt someone's feelings, you are being a bully and that is not okay. Photo source: Shutterstock
5. Freezing Girls Out For Something That They DidHaving a group of friends where everyone does not agree with everything is normal. But, when someone goes against the group mentality and you all decide to exclude her from things, this is bullying. There is nothing wrong with having a different opinion and voicing it. You should never stop talking or freeze someone out because of how they feel. Photo source: Shutterstock
6. Creating A Group Of Friends Who Are Mean To Other PeopleIf you're in a group of friends whose main activity is to make fun of people, you're a bully. Your group of friends should never try to embarrass or humiliate others just for fun. Even if you are not the one who is saying or doing the act, you are grouped with your friends in the act of bullying. If you notice that your friends are starting to have bullying tendencies you should stop them ASAP. Photo source: giphy
7. Retweeting Funny Things That Are Actually MeanWe all know that the internet can be a mean and scary place. Gossiping, retweeting or liking something mean about someone is a form of cyber bullying that everyone can relate to. If you are the person who is feeding into this, you are a bully. It is never okay to perpetuate mean things that are being said about someone. Be the bigger person and steer clear of this. Photo source: Shutterstock
8. Trying to Embarrass or Humiliate Someone In A Joking WayTeasing and joking around with friends is something that we all do. But, when you purposely try to embarrass someone, you've crossed the line into bullying. Covering up a mean comment with a joke is not funny, especially to the person who is being made fun of. Make sure you notice how the person is reacting, if they seem ashamed, or if they're not laughing with the group, you might be causing harm without knowing. Photo source: Shutterstock
Are you guilty of any of the things on this list? How do you think that you could stop bullying others? Let’s chat about it in the comments below!