Every person on this planet has something they are insecure about, no matter how confident they might seem. Some of us have more insecurities than others, and while that’s okay, it’s also something that we should work on. When you’re so insecure that it’s stopping you from doing things or making you unhappy, that’s when it becomes dangerous.
We get a lot of questions from you girls asking things like, “Do guys care about boob size?” “Do guys notice when I have a giant pimple?” “Do guys really care that much about weight?” The truth is, everyone has their own personal preferences when it comes to the opposite sex. But the other truth is that most dudes out there don’t care about your insecurities nearly as much as you think they do.
Seriously! Take this Reddit thread as proof, which asks guys what they wish girls weren’t insecure about. Now, I know it can be a little frustrating to hear someone tell you not to feel self-conscious about something that has always bothered you. It’s not that simple to get rid of an insecurity! But it’s helpful to know that dudes don’t mind these little things that we all get stressed about. Here are 12 surprising things guys wish girls weren’t insecure about, straight from their mouths:
A Little Extra FatDajbman22: That tiny paunch that sometimes forms when the're sitting down after a full day of eating, drinking, whatever... or the little bit of a jiggle in their butt or thighs when they walk... or that their hips aren't flat flush against the waist strap of their jeans to within a millimeter, etc. Despite what a vocal contingent of very opinionated guys on the internet say, we're not all Patrick Bateman-types searching for "perfect hardbodies" and recoil at the slightest hint of anything resembling body fat. Women are supposed to have deposits around the chest, hips and thighs, and most guys appreciate some of it, and even more still will find you drop dead gorgeous in person even if he has a preference towards a completely toned swimsuit model look. Human bodies are imperfect machines, and even healthy and athletic people have a little bit of extra somewhere, that in reality most other people never even notice. Yup! Exactly. Source: ShutterStock
The Way Your Labia LooksMcPhatiusJacksonMale: Apparently their labias. There was a period of about 2 weeks here where about a dozen self conscious people came asking about their labias. It was maddening. I don't love how this guy phrased this, but I like his intention. Seriously, dudes don't care if your labia isn't "perfect." They don't care if your vag doesn't look like a porn star's. Everyone is different down there, so please don't stress about what it looks like. Source: ShutterStock
When Large Boobs SagI_Cum_Blood_666: Large breasts that sag. I appreciate large natural breasts. They sag, naturally. And that's perfectly fine by me! I don't think guys expect all boobs to look fake and perky. And if they do, they need a reality check! Source: ShutterStock
Having A Lot Of Body HairI_WAS_THE_BULGARIAN: Being hairy. Seriously, it's normal, and it's attractive. Almost all women are naturally hairy. The idea that it's "masculine" is ridiculously absurd - since when is being female masculine? Lots of men will love your hair - all of it, on your arms, legs, armpits, butt, you name it. It feels good, it's a great texture, and it looks good. If you don't want to waste your money and your time every week engaging in a stupid ritual, just stop. You'll pave the way for more women to embrace their bodies, until eventually it becomes normal. Hairy women are not only physically attractive, but they are also confident, and they are the pioneers of our society. Exactly! If you want to shave, go for it. If you don't, don't. It's up to you. Source: ShutterStock
A Lack Of A Thigh Gapdizzi800: Thigh gap. I wish there was an explanation here, but seriously: not having a thigh gap is not the end of the world. I wish this never became a thing. Some people have them, some people don't. There's nothing you can do about it.
Being Honest About Your FeelingsCardinalsFanatic: Approaching guys they're interested in, and rejecting guys they aren't interested in directly/honestly/respectfully instead of being indirect and giving mixed signals. Yes, I realize that some guys are douchenozzles and don't respond well to rejection, but the same can be said for shitty women who get shot down, so it's not gender exclusive. It also doesn't mean the opposite tactic is any better, as it perpetuates the negative stereotype that people are rarely upfront and honest with their rejections and feelings on attraction. I know a lot of girls who have trouble making the first move, and that's something we've talked about a lot. Just do it! But I also know a lot of girls who have trouble being honest if they don't like a guy. They don't want to be too "mean" or hurt them. Girls, we have to start being honest about our feelings! Source: ShutterStock
When A Guy Has Female FriendsLEIFey: Female friends. Men are capable of having friends that they don't want to cheat with. Not every single guy out there wants to have sex with his best girl friend. Don't automatically assume that they do! Source: ShutterStock
When Another Girl Is Around Your BFMisunderstoodPsycho: Other women around their man. I'm choosing to be with you if i wanted another woman, I'd get another woman. So yes i may look every now and then but I'm programmed too, there isn't really anything I can do about it. But they are not the owners of the smile that lights up my morning every day. Right. Don't feel insecure if you catch your BF checking out another girl. He's just looking - it doesn't mean he doesn't like you. Source: ShutterStrock
What Your Boobs Look LikeJaxxxis: Their boobs, it's like pizza, even when it's bad it's still pretty good 😉 In general, dudes love boobs. So even if they might prefer larger ones and you have smaller ones, they'll still appreciate and love them! Source: ShutterStock
PimplesHeterosexual_OPMale: One or two zits on the face. I barely notice, and when I do, I never think of girls as uglier because of it. We all get acne! I'm sure he can relate - if he even notices it to begin with. Source: ShutterStock
If You're Wearing Matching UnderwearGrampappyJoe: I can't imagine this thread being very constructive or well received by women. Telling someone their insecurities are silly and they should just stop being insecure about it is ridiculous. And I'm sure the same will hold true in the askwomen thread about men's insecurities. That being said, if we're to the point where they are exposed, guys don't care if your bra and panties match. I like the way this dude thinks! Source: ShutterStock
Wearing The Same Thing As Someone Elsechmbrs: Wearing the same thing as someone else at an event. I get that this is really annoying, but if it happens, don't let it ruin everything. Go with it! Source: ShutterStock
Which of these insecurities have you experienced? What are you insecure about that wasn’t included? What do you think about what these guys had to say? Tell me in the comments!