So imagine this: You’ve recently become sexually active when trouble strikes. Maybe you suddenly have a super intense itch down there or you have discharge that looks like something out of a horror movie. Maybe you’ve even skipped a period. All you know is that you had some sexy times and now something isn’t right.
Bad, right? Now let’s up the ante: How the hell are you going to go to the doctor without your parents knowing that something is up? This is especially daunting if you aren’t comfortable talking to your mom, dad or whoever that you’re having sex. What if you want to go on BC? What if you need medicine to clear up an STD? What if you need an abortion? The way to go about this varies from state to state and country to country, but here are the seven basic things you need to know before heading to the doc without your parents permission.
If Your Only Way Of Getting Checked Out Is By Asking Your Parents To Take You To The Doc, Be VagueWe're not saying to lie to your parents! But if you want to get their permission to get you checked out with your doctor, you can just tell them that you think something is going on down there that might require medication. Hey, you aren't technically lying. Could just be a yeast infection after all. Photo source: My So-Called Life/ABC
You Can Talk About All The Sex Stuff You Want At Your Next Checkup Without Your Parents Knowing A ThingLet's say you're going in for a check up with your doc. You have all the power in the world to tell them about your sexual history and concerns without your parents ever finding out. There's a little something called doctor-patient confidentiality that keeps all your dirty little secrets, well, a secret. Photo source: That 70s Show/Fox
Hit Up Some Clinics To Get TestedYay for clinics like Planned Parenthood. At many of these places you can get tested for STDs for absolutely free or an ultra low cost. This can usually occur without your parents getting contacted but you should double check with the clinic before you get down to business. Photo source: Planned Parenthood
Know The Laws Of Your State/Country When It Comes to What Services You Can Receive Without Parental PermissionSome states allow you to get birth control without parental consent, others don't. Some allow you to receive an abortion while underage, others don't. Before you jump into anything you need to look up the laws of your state or country and find out what you can actually get done. A simple Google search will give you all the information you need, but don't hesitate to check out PlannedParenthood.org, too. Photo source: The To Do List/CBS
Watch Out For InsuranceIf you live in a country in which health care depends on insurance (groan) you might be freaked out about this fact: If you're on your parents insurance and you need birth control or a procedure paid for, that can be the only way to pay for it without blowing tons of money! But you can't do that without your parents potentially getting a heads up about it in the mail at the end of the month. So much for keeping things on the DL, right? The only way around this is to either collect enough money to pay out of pocket or talk to the clinic, hospital, or wherever you're considering getting treatment whether there is a way to keep it as private as possible. Photo source: Shutterstock
Check All Of The Privacy PoliciesPrivacy is the goal here, right? So I cannot reiterate this enough: Double and triple check the privacy policies of any clinic you roll up into before planning on getting birth control, an STD test or an abortion on the DL. Some states require parental knowledge to varying degrees, others don't. You don't want any surprises. Photo source: Shutterstock
Try Not To Freak Out Too MuchDon't feel too guilty! This stuff is scary but the most important thing here is the fact that you're taking charge of your sexual health. If it means being a little sneaky about it, fine. It's better than ignoring it just in case you get in trouble. Folks at clinics, doctors, etc are there to help you, not shame you or tattle so as long as you get all the information you need and understand their privacy policies you'll be good to go. Photo source: My Mad Fat Diary/E4
Have you ever had to go to the doctor without your parents knowing? Did you eventually tell them what was up? Tell us in the comments!