When I first got braids a couple of months ago, I was riddled with compliments. It was a huge change from the curly auburn afro I’ve been rocking for the past few years, so it was easy enough to see why people were excited about the change. But while most of my friends were telling me that my hair reminded them of Janet Jackson’s in Poetic Justice, the guy I’d been seeing was bemused when he saw me in person with my waist-length new do.
“Wow,” he said, eyes wide. “I didn’t know your hair was…so long.”
Let the record show that this dude is incredibly intelligent, but it was clear that black hair confused the hell out of him. Let the record also show that this dude is white. I would never have to explain to a black dude that I was clearly wearing braided hair extensions!
Hair is just the beginning. Here are 10 things you’ll only understand if you’re a black girl dating a white dude.
1. You have to teach them everything about black hair.
And I mean everything.
2. Getting weird looks from old white people walking down the street.
Stop staring, please. This is not 1965.
3. And sometimes from black folks too.
Oh the shade!
4. That moment when you stop being reluctant to talk about race issues because, get real, you’re not dating an ignorant jerk.
And if they’re not prepared for it then bye.
5. People assume that just because your BF is white that you’re only into white dudes.
Uh, no, hotness has no skin color.
6. Wondering if people are judging him for dating a black chick in the first place.
Obviously those people can eat dirt.
7. You’re a little self-conscious about wrapping your hair at night in front of them for the first time but pfft, they better get used to it.
Make him help!
8. Coming to terms with the fact that there are some things about being black that they will just never get, no matter how empathetic they are.
Frustrating but true.
9. Hoping their parents aren’t racist.
That would be, er, awkward to say the least.
10. Sometimes there are moments where you are super aware that they are white
But hey, let’s try to make this work, right?
Are you in the same boat? Have you experienced any general interracial relationship weirdness? Tell us in the comments!