When you have a very close friendship with someone, it’s only normal to start to develop deeper feelings for them at some point – even when that someone is the same sex as you are. Best friendships very often turn into something more, because it’s easy to feel physically and sexually attracted to someone who you can talk to and spend a lot of time with.
But, admittedly, things do get a little bit more confusing when you’re a girl who develops a crush on her best girl friend… especially if you’ve never had feelings for another girl before. Even if you have, it’s still an awkward position to be in. So, what are you supposed to do if you find yourself wanting to take things to the next level with your bestie? Here are 8 tips on how to deal when you have a crush on your best girl friend.
Don't PanicSo you have a crush on your best girl friend. Don't freak out, even if this is the first time you've ever had a crush on a girl. First of all, it doesn't automatically mean you're a lesbian or even that you're bisexual. You might just be experiencing a harmless crush. Or, you might be bisexual or a lesbian - and that is absolutely okay. This is a confusing time, but you need to give yourself time to think about all of this and come to terms with what you're feeling. Talk to someone you trust, or go to a therapist if that feels necessary. Don't put any pressure on yourself to come to a conclusion immediately. Sometimes these things take time. Source: ShutterStock
Consider The Pros and Cons Of Making A MoveOnce you've figured out how you feel, think about what you want to do. You need to realize that making a move on your BFF could mess up your friendship - especially if she doesn't have feelings for girls. Consider the pros and cons of coming clean about your feelings. Pros: you'll feel a weight lift off your shoulders, you'll know how she feels, you might have a chance with her, something great could happen. Cons: you might lose her as a friend, you might alienate her, things might get really weird. In the end, it comes down to what YOU want to do. Source: ShutterStock
Figure Out If She'd Be Open To The IdeaTry to get a sense of how your bestie feels about a possible relationship with another girl. Ask vague questions like, "Would you ever hook up with a girl?" "What do you think about bisexuality?" or "Have you ever had feelings for another girl before?" If you guys are close, this conversation shouldn't be very difficult. From there, you'll get a better idea of how she feels about everything. Source: ShutterStock
Flirt To Feel Her OutIf you think your friend might be open to the possibility of doing something with another girl, try flirting with her a little bit. It will probably feel a little bit awkward, and I'm not saying you have to go all out here. Just be a little bit more touchy, compliment her, do some of the same things you would do if you were flirting with a guy. See how she reacts. If she seems weirded out, that might be an issue. If she's receptive, that might be good. Source: ShutterStock
Make A Move When The Time Is RightIf you feel like you have a chance and you feel like you really want to make a move, then go for it. You only live once, right? When the time feels right, make a move by either telling her honestly how you feel or trying to kiss her. I'm not saying it will be easy, but I know you'll feel better once you come clean, even if the response is negative. If she seems to feel the same way, great! Congratulations, you can stop reading. If she doesn't, I'm sorry 🙁 Source: ShutterStock
Accept It If It Can't HappenIf your bestie isn't interested, you need to accept that. Maybe it's because she doesn't want to have a relationship with a girl, or maybe she just doesn't feel that way about you. Either way, you can't hold that against her. You need to accept how she feels and begin to move on. Source: ShutterStock
Decide Whether You Want To Continue The Friendship or NotNow you need to make a pretty big decision: Do you think you can continue your close friendship with her? If so, great. Take things slow, accept that it will be weird and uncomfortable for a while, and try to get past it. If not, that's okay too. You might just need some time to process everything. Do what feels right for you. Source: ShutterStock
Let The Awkwardness GoIf you decide to stay friends, you eventually need to let go of the awkwardness that might be around you guys. That's easier said than done, but really, giving things time will make everything a lot more comfortable again. Remember: this girl is your best friend. If you can't go through these things with her, who can you go through them with? Source: ShutterStock
Have you ever had a crush on your best girl friend? What did you do? What tips did I forget? Tell me in the comments!