A little bit of jealousy is normal in every relationship. It’s hard to find someone who never, ever gets jealous, not even once in a while, and that’s okay. But there is definitely such a thing as too much jealousy, and that can absolutely jeopardize your relationship. When someone gets too jealous, they also become controlling and possessive. Both behaviors can easily lead to an abusive relationship, but even if they don’t go that far, they can certainly lead to a lot of fighting and unhappiness.
How do you know if your boyfriend is way too jealous or just jealous enough? It can be hard to figure out, especially because most guys won’t come out and say they’re jealous. They’ll try to beat around the bush and act like they don’t care, which makes you second guess yourself. I’ve been there, girl. So, here are 10 signs that your boyfriend is too jealous. I’m not saying you have to immediately dump a dude who’s like this – but you definitely should do something about this.
He Doesn't Like You Talking To Any Other Guys At AllJust because you're in a relationship doesn't mean the opposite sex doesn't exist. It's understandable for your boyfriend to get upset if you're flirting with another guy, but it's not okay for him to get angry about you just casually chatting with another guy. Your boyfriend should trust you enough to talk to other dudes without thinking there is something else going on. Source: ShutterStock
He Always Accuses You Of Flirting With Other PeopleIf your boyfriend accuses you of flirting with every guy you talk to, that's not okay. A guy who is too jealous will read into everything, whether it's the smile you gave a barista or the conversation you were having with a guy you've been friends with for years. That's not cool. Again, you're allowed to talk to the opposite sex even if you have a boyfriend - and he shouldn't be constantly accusing you of something else. Source: ShutterStock
He Gets Mad When You Don't Text Back Fast EnoughI once dated a dude who got annoyed when I didn't answer his texts fast enough. He would send question marks until I answered, and if I didn't answer for a while, he would give me some annoyed response. I knew I had to end things when I ignored his text while having dinner with my brother and he called me 15 times in a matter of 30 minutes. 15 times! That's insane. This is not okay behavior. Your boyfriend should understand that you can't always answer a text right away without thinking you're doing something shady. Source: ShutterStock
He Monitors What You Do On Social MediaRemember AIM? Yeah, well that same guy from before pulled something weird there too. I once put up an away message saying "At Nick's soccer game" (Nick is my cousin). This dude left me a ton of IMs saying, "Who's Nick?" "Oh, I get it." "Um WTF?" It was so annoying and really made me angry. If your boyfriend does stuff like this - questions any one who writes on your wall or leaves a comment - he's too jealous. He shouldn't be watching everything you do online. Source: ShutterStock
He Grills You About Everything You DoDoes he ask you questions about every single detail of your day when he talks to you? Does he want to know about every moment after you go hang out with your friends? Does he ask you to repeat stories, accuse you of lying, or act like you're keeping something from him? If so, he's too jealous. It's one thing to ask how someone's day went - it's an entirely other thing to ask for a play-by-play. He's trying to keep track of you. Source: ShutterStock
He Gets Mad If You Don't Call Right awayWhat does your boyfriend do if he asks you to call him when you get home and you forget, or call a little later than you were supposed to? Does he flip out and start a huge argument with you, accusing you of lying and demanding to know where you were? If so, he's too jealous. That's not normal behavior. Source: ShutterStock
He's Really Suspicious Of Your FriendsA boyfriend who is too jealous will always be really weird about your friends, even if he has no real to be. My ex-boyfriend was very jealous and hated when I hung out with my single friends. He didn't want them to "influence" me, which is ridiculous! A BF who isn't too jealous will give you girl time without acting like you're doing something shady. Source: ShutterStock
He Gets Mad At You About Things You WearWhat you wear is your choice - no one else's. Your boyfriend doesn't have the right to tell you what you can and cannot wear, whether it's revealing or not. If he trusted you, he would be okay with you wearing whatever you wanted. Source: ShutterStock
He Never Believes You Even Though You've Never Given Him A Reason Not ToThis is a big one. If your boyfriend never believes what you say and always accuses you of lying despite the fact that you've never given him a reason to feel this way, he's too jealous. He's obviously carrying something else around with him and is taking it out on you - or he just has a very controlling personality. Either way, he needs to learn to trust you and give you a chance, or things will never work. Source: ShutterStock
You've Caught Him Going Through Your PhoneNo one should ever go through your stuff, even if that person is your boyfriend. Snooping through text messages or recent calls isn't normal couple behavior - it's wrong and invasive. If your BF feels like he has to check up on you, that means he doesn't trust you. Source: ShutterStock
Do you think your boyfriend is too jealous? How would you deal with it? What did I forget? Tell me in the comments.