Regardless, it happens. One of our lovely readers wanted to know how to respond to the “Why are you single?” question.
Let’s see what y’all had to say:
“I’m not sure how to respond to most when I am asked this question. Currently my answer is, ‘Not sure.’ But I kind of want a new answer. I don’t really make it a choice to be single. It’s not like I’m thinking ‘You know what? No boyfriends for me.’ I guess I am just at a period in time in which I am thinking that maybe I’m meant to be the cat lady. Not sure. My question to you all is… How do you respond to the question, ‘Why are you single?’ And my own question is, is that a choice or just what’s happening in your life now?”
“My own personal opinion is because I just got out of a bad break up and want to focus more on my new job and learning to drive. I’m not lying, it’s true. Try using something similar that’s true.”
“Well I just got out of roller-coaster relationship. I just need time to be back being happy with my ex, to stable myself again, and to focus on learning how to drive and to look for scholarships to pay for college. You can always try to say something that you want to focus on etc.. “
“I prefer ‘between boyfriends’ rather than ‘single’…”
“I also am trying to think of a better answer. I can’t say between boyfriends because I have never had a boyfriend. I think you should just have to explain you haven’t found any guys you like, and in my situation I don’t know where to meet guys.”
“Say you’re just focusing on yourself! Like personal growth.”
First of all, I want everyone to know that there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being single. If you’re single, it doesn’t mean no one likes you or that something is wrong with you. It just means you’re not in a relationship. Being single is a great opportunity to really get to know yourself, figure out what you want and do the things you want to do.
Second, if someone asks you why you’re single, you don’t owe them an explanation. Frankly, that’s a rude question to ask. It’s not like anyone goes up to couples and asks why they’re in a relationship. Why is it okay to ask single people why they’re single?
You don’t need a default answer to respond to this question. You don’t need to make up andexcuse or have an explanation because being single is not a problem! You don’t owe anyone anything. If you are single, take the time to enjoy it! When you do get into a relationship, there are aspects you’ll certainly miss from your single days. Use your singledom to find out what you really want in a partner and to do the things you love doing!
Have you ever been asked why you’re single? Tell us in the comments!
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