7 Reasons Why You Should Ditch Your Boyfriend If He’s Not A Feminist

We obviously love Emma Watson because she brought Hermione Granger, one of the best characters ever, to life. Emma shares a lot of qualities with Hermione like intelligence, determination and bravery. Just like Hermione, Emma has become an incredible role model for women and girls. Over the weekend, Emma jumped into her duties as the new UN Women Goodwill Ambassador delivered a speech about gender equality at the United Nations headquarters.

Her speech tackles the idea that feminism is assumed to be a bad word associated with man-hating and extremism. Emma isn’t wrong. The word feminism has a bad reputation, but people don’t understand that feminism is for everyone. One of the misconceptions of feminism is that it doesn’t help men’s issues, which is simply untrue. People are just so turned off by feminism that they don’t even want to give it a chance. In reality, feminism literally is the fight for gender equality. As Emma puts it, “For the record, feminism, by definition, is the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. It is the theory of the political, economic and social equality of the sexes.”

Emma expressed how necessary it is for men to get involved in the fight for gender equality by launching the HeForShe campaign, “a solidarity movement for gender equality that brings together one half of humanity in support of the other of humanity, for the entirety of humanity.” You can watch Emma’s full speech below:

Emma poked fun at herself, “You might think, ‘Who is this Harry Potter girl? What is she doing at the U. N.?’ And it’s a really good question — I’ve been asking myself the same thing. All I know is that I care about this problem and I want to make it better.” And she also noted, “I am inviting you to step forward to be seen and to ask yourself, ‘If not me, who? If not now, when?'” If Emma Watson doesn’t inspire you to be a feminist, I don’t know who will. She’s right. If not us, who?

Whether you label yourself or not, if you believe in gender equality, you are a feminist. And if you’re dating someone who isn’t a feminist, here are some reasons to ditch them:

 
What do you think about Emma’s speech? What about HeForShe? Do you think men should be feminists? Tell us in the comments!
 
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  • Being a feminist does not make you a crusader for gender equality, being an egalitarian does.

  • Bri

    Straight from dictionary…
    the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men.

    Emphasis on EQUALITY TO MEN
    Not, “Women are better than those scumbags in power”
    PLEASE get your facts straight.

  • AJ

    S/he is saying…

    -You do not understand what feminism is so you are therefore unable to make a logical argument for or against it, so either educate yourself and come back with a real argument or leave it alone.

    -Women do have it worse. That’s not to say that the straight, white male is not faced with serious issues (this is not sarcasm, they really are), but that women are the largest methodically oppressed group in history seeing as they make up 51% of the population. That’s not to say that men’s issues aren’t pressing and don’t need to be addressed, but that’s not what this article or discussion is about. Feminism is about women’s rights, just like the Civil Rights Movement was about African Americans’ rights and the gay rights movement is about gay rights. And yet you don’t see people bashing Martin Luther King, Jr. for “hating white people,” now, do you? Even though some of his peers such as Malcolm X did support black supremacy, they were outliers and didn’t define the movement. Why do so many men (and women) such as yourself see the few feminist outliers that “hate men” and jump to the conclusion that the whole movement is sour? And by the way, if they hate men as you claim, they’re not actually feminists since the definition is that women are “equal” to men, not “superior.” Simple semantics.

    -I don’t think s/he understood your question. I believe the interpretation (understandably) was that men should have an equal say in abortion, women’s birth control, etc, which would be ridiculous regarding that the man isn’t the one giving up nine months of his life. When you figure out to impregnate yourself, you can make all the reproductive choices you please. Once the child is actually born, however, anyone stating that the man doesn’t have the choice to be in his own child’s life has some serious issues to work through, and any feminist or civil rights activist of any kind worth their two cents would agree with that statement. Unfortunately there is a historical bias towards the mother in custody courts, and while this is getting better, it is still an important issue.

  • Mandy

    Feminism was never about equality. Hell, equality doesn’t exist. Just look throughout nature to see that. Everything is made up of polar opposites that create balance when they come together. Yin and Yang. If people truly care about the rights of all people then they would be either a humanitarian or a humanist because they care about ALL humans.

    I’ve been seeing more and more people(both men and women) calling out feminism for what it really is especially here in the west and it’s great to see. Feminism is about female superiority. Once people realize that neither sex is superior and that both are made to compliment each other than this world would become a better place.

  • crazy5150

    this shit is driving me crazy (pun intended if you read my username) feminism id being socially politically and economically equal to the fucking male population the all we live in rape culture and male patriarchy and women were intentionally made superior because they try to control women is complete and utter bullshit rape culture never existed rape was never tolerated and there are rare cases of victim blaming (which are mostly among the third world) the male patriarchy does not exist and men trying to control us is not true , women were put in such positions due to their child-bearing abilities and superior physical strength (and yes men are physically stronger it’s a fact in biology) then later on the thought became more sunk in society’s head but over time we evolved, environments around us evolved and we can re-claim our rights to be equal to men . and you cant blame your bf for not being a feminist because many people are giving the wrong and worst idea about feminism. feminism was meant for women who want to be equal to men . it was not meant for men hence the name feminism is wrong because if we want equality between the genders it goes that way women have the right to be independent and men have the right to show emotion and vulnerability and not be judged. period end of the fucking discussion.

  • gabby

    My boyfriend has read a lot more than me on feminism and he has said out loud he is a feminist. I think it’s the most wonderful thing ever.

  • Klem

    “Because Men Need Feminism Too”.
    Then stop calling it feminism

    “Because Your BF Should Support You For Being Strong And Independent”
    Being “strong and independent” means that you do not need support. Again, typical feminist wanting it both ways

    “Because Men Who Aren’t Feminists Don’t Respect Women” Feminism does not equal women. This false equivalence makes it impossible to be critical of feminism.You know it and it serves you well. It equates to “People who are not white power are anti white people”, or “if you are not pro-jews you are antisemitic”, or the good ol “why do you hate america” by conservatives every time one disagrees with them

    “Because He Should Feel Uncomfortable And Upset If You Get Catcalled”.
    She should as well when I get catcalled (it happens, yes, but in double-standard-feminism world, it doesn’t)

    “Because Your Body Is Your Body”. and my body is my body. men have no reproductive choice nor body integrity protection.

    • Jessica Booth

      Your comment literally makes no sense.

      • Klem

        What part?
        Can you develop your thought?

        • Jessica Booth

          Well, to start, being strong and independent most certainly does not mean that you don’t need support. Being your own person and doing things on your own is completely different than having a loved one support you and your beliefs. Also, what exactly is your definition of a “typical feminist?” It sounds like you’re just reading into stereotypes here, and judging an entire group of people based on something you heard or a few types of feminists you might have experienced, which, I don’t know… just doesn’t seem very intelligent to me.

          It also seems like you don’t understand the definition of feminism, which is the belief that men and women should be equal. I’m not sure where the rest of your argument is coming from, but it’s good to know what feminism actually is before you critique it so harshly.

          No one said a woman shouldn’t feel uncomfortable about a man getting cat-called. However, you can’t argue that women don’t experience this kind of street harassment more than men.

          Lastly, men don’t have reproductive choice because they aren’t the ones who have to carry a baby in their body. When you guys can do that, and when your body has to change completely in order to do so, please let us know and then you can have a reproductive choice. But really though, I don’t even know where that argument came from, because it wasn’t even mentioned in that slide.

          • Klem

            So basically you are saying :
            -You do not understand what feminism is so shut up
            – Women have it worse so shut up
            – You do not deserve to choose to be a father

          • crazy5150

            what klem means about the reproductive choice is that he has the right to be a father that the woman is also carrying HIS baby as well meaning that if she doesn’t want it she should give him custody.

  • Michelle

    “Believe in my political cult or else i’ll dump you”

    Really shows the hypocrisy and intolerance these black-white “either you’re for or against us” rhetoric feminists like you spout. One does not need to be or identify as a feminist to be in favor of equality and holding a political view that has demonized men as rapists, pigs, scumbags and privileged assholes should not be a requirement for a relationship.

    Face it, feminism hasn’t been about equality. Feminism has turned into a cult of lies, slander, false statistics, conspiracy theories and hysteria over a fake patriarchy and rape culture. Not exactly a movement i’d subscribe to.

    • Another Michelle

      It’s more, “believe I’m a human being and that women are not fundamentally inferior to men, or I’ll dump you.” That seems a reasonable screening process to me, and it’s honestly not that stringent.

      The whole man-hating thing: def watch Emma’s speech! She’s sure to remind all that feminism means gender equality for the benefit of both men and women, for humanity.

      You will of course find people that say, “kill all the men!” for feminism and other such things. But do those people in any way diminish your own belief in gender equality?

      I’m an atheist, and sometimes I see atheists say really sexist and racist stuff and it really embarrasses me and I don’t want to be associated with those voices. But I still don’t believe in God. Labels, man.

      That said, I think feminism is SO good and has moved us forward so much, and that we still have SO MUCH to do. I like it. 🙂

      The cult of husband-leaving, witchcraft-practicing, rape-conspiracy lesbians is just how it’s shown on tv

      http://s3.amazonaws.com/dk-production/images/64963/large/feminism.jpeg?1389627214
      😉

    • Jane

      I believe the key statement in what you said is “Feminism has turned into…”. Just because an idea turns into something bad or into an extreme, doesn’t mean that it isn’t a good idea. While I do not have all the facts on feminism, I do know that the tagline of it all is gender equality. Extremists give a bad name, no matter what the subject (many religions are shadowed by their extremists), but the base of feminism is gender equality. I understand where you are coming from; I do believe that you don’t necessarily have to label yourself as a feminist, but I think this article was less about the label and more about the beliefs. They don’t need to ‘be a feminist’ but they should have those ideals that show their respect to women and men alike.

  • Red

    Love Emma Watson’s HeForShe campaign, and I love this! I wish more of my friends would use these reasons in their dating prospects – might weed out the bad ones a bit more! 😉