Sex on the first date is a tricky subject. I personally have no problem with it because, hey, you do you. I’ve had sex on the first date, but it’s not something I like to make a habit of from a safety perspective. It worked out for me, but I know a lot of people (men and women) that it hasn’t worked out for. If you feel comfortable with it, go for it. If you don’t, then hold off until you feel ready!
I’ve been on a lot of first dates so it’s pretty easy for me to tell now if a guy is just looking to get me home at the end of the night. Like I said before, sex on the first date isn’t something I do on the reg. If I feel like a guy is just trying to have sex with me, I’ll peace out early. I don’t have time for that. If you want to find out if you’re date is looking to get busy at the end of a first date, check out these signs:
He Switches Things Up Without Warning
Some people really do get busy and have to cancel or make different plans at the last minute. But a guy who's trying to actually get to know you will keep the plans that are already set unless there's a serious emergency. Spontaneity is fun, but it's also something to be wary of, especially if he's trying to plan late at night on a whim.
He Invites You Over Versus Taking You Out
If a guy invites you over to his place to "hang out" versus taking you somewhere, you better believe he's trying to get in your pants. I don't care if he's the greatest chef in the world and wants to cook you a four-course meal. A "date" at his home where his bed resides is not a first date with any potential past getting it on.
He Touches You A Lot
Touching on a date is pretty normal since it's a good indicator to let someone know you're into them. But be aware of the kind of touching. Trying to hold your hand or gently touching your shoulder is one thing. Grabbing your thigh or the small of your back is a pretty solid "I want you in bed" move.
He Doesn't Really Pay Attention
There's a difference between a guy not paying attention to you because he's not interested and because he's just looking to get lucky. If he's trying to get you in bed, he'll likely not seem very interested if you bring up any serious topic. He'll ask you things like "Do you like to have a good time?" and other questions that feel a little more sexual in nature.
He's Rushing To Get You Away
If he's trying to wrap things up fast on a date so you can leave the date spot, he's definitely looking for a quickie. Be on the lookout if he's trying to get you to go somewhere secluded or "for a drive" or back to his place.
He Uses Casual And Vague Wording
If you're talking to someone–whether via text, phone or in person– and they drop a lot of vague wording, that's a sign they're not trying to commit. He might say that he's not looking for something serious or that he's trying to "have a good time," which is a sign that he's probs looking to hook up.
He Talks About Himself Too Much
Of course, you're supposed to talk about yourself on a date. But the player type LOVES talking about themselves. They're more interested in talking about them than getting to know you. Watch out!
He Asks Sexual Questions Before The Date
Texting before a date is perfectly normal and is a great way to get the conversation going before the date actually happens. However, they should be typical "get-to-know-you" questions. If he's asking you what turns you on or pointed sexual questions before your first date, he's trying to hookup.
Have you ever been on a first date with a guy who was just looking for sex? Do you think first date sex is okay? Tell us in the comments!
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