I remember thinking about college when I was a senior in high school. My friends and I were all convinced that the college dating scene would be so much different. We wouldn’t be going on dates to get cheap slices of pizza, we wouldn’t be trying to sneak in sexy times without parents knowing, and we definitely wouldn’t be dating a dude who thought it was funny to fart while cuddling. We would be with mature guys who took us on real dates, bought us real presents, and treated us perfectly.
Obviously, we were basing all of the ideas off of all the oh-so-realistic movies and TV shows about college out there.
The truth is, dating in college isn’t nearly as great as you think it will be. Sure, some people meet the love of their life in college. But a lot of people stumble along, meeting tons of Mr. Wrongs, wondering when guys will actually grow up. I heard this a million times in high school: “College guys are so much more mature and better, just wait.” Um, no. Most of them are not.
But it’s fine. I was single throughout most of college, and I will never regret that. So don’t sweat it! Here’s what dating in college is really like: expectations vs. reality.
Expectation: You think the guys will all be SO much more mature than they were in high school.
Reality: Most of them seem to have regressed in age, maybe. WTF??
Expectation: You’ll go on sophisticated dates where you go to a fancy restaurant wearing something fabulous (like in the magazines).
Reality: This is college. You guys go to a frat party and then pass out in a cramped bed in a tiny dorm room.
Expectation: Things will get serious quickly, because you’re older and more mature and ready to settle down.
Reality: No guy wants to get serious because they’re in college… they want to be single.
Expectation: You’ll meet a super smart, cute guy in glass who wears glasses and loves reading.
Reality: You won’t meet anyone in class because you’ll be doing work. You’ll meet guys when you’re both tipsy at a party.
Expectation: The guys in college will dress way nicer than the guys in high school. Goodbye sneakers, hello button-down shirts!
Reality: Dudes show up to class in sweats and graphic tees. If possible, they are more slobby.
Expectation: Guys will be better at communicating because they’re older and will have a better idea of what they want.
Reality: Guys will keep you confused and waiting for hours… for a one-word response.
Expectation: You two will cook together in your cute little college apartment, and basically play house.
Reality: LOL you guys live in dorm rooms.
Expectation: Sex will be better because you’ve both had more experience.
Reality: You’ve both probably been drinking before you start hooking up, making things… weird. And blurry.
Expectation: You and your dates will have way more privacy because you don’t live with your parents.
Reality: Your roommate regularly walk in on you having sex.
Expectation: You’ll go to college thinking you’re going to meet totally different guys than you knew in high school – maybe this will be your year!
Reality: Every guy is just a slightly older version of a dude you knew in high school. Or middle school.
Expectation: You’ll have fun, casual one-night stands where you’ll walk home carrying your heels in the morning, giggling to a friend about a sitcom-worthy awkward moment.
Reality: You’ll wake up next to a random person, try to sneak out, and get caught by 10 people in the dorm room.
Expectation: You’ll meet your soul mate, the person you’re going to marry.
Reality: You’ll be single all four years of college (besides those weird, casual in-between “relationships”).
Do you agree or disagree with these? What do you disagree with? What did we forget to include? Tell me in the comments!