This week on the message boards, one girl wants to know what to do about her boyfriend sending a naked picture to another girl. He owned up and apologized, but should she stay with him?
Let’s see what y’all had to say:
“My boyfriend of 8 months admitted that he had send a naked picture to another girl a few weeks ago. Other than this he has always been so perfect, never stepped a toe out of line. Even done crazy romantic things like dinner dates in Paris and asking me out on top of the Eiffel tower while giving me the most beautiful necklace, and this is just one thing of many.
While he told me what he had done, he shook and cried the whole time because he thought I’d break up with him and he’d lose me. I want to stay with him but I really don’t know how to deal with this.”
“For me the real test of a person’s character is are they emotionally affected when they realize they’ve screwed up. A jerk won’t care and won’t have an emotional reaction. A good nice sensitive guy will… well what you just described. And is he really emotionally affected, or is he just acting (hoping to get an Emmy for best ‘pretending to be upset after you’ve sent a naked picture to another girl and your girlfriend finds out’).
If it’s real then you’ve got a nice guy who’s a good person, because good people feel bad when they do bad things. What you do about it is up to you. It’ll be an interesting test of your relationship. Best wishes!”
“Honestly, get rid of him. If you’re having a problem like this with him at 8 months then it will only get worse. You deserve better.”
“A similar thing happened to me. I dumped him immediately as I was so upset and angry. It still makes me mad when I think about it now! It is up to you if you stay with him, but for me I wouldn’t be able to trust again, and without trust there’s no relationship. I am really sorry for you though.”
“Well, look at it this way..he did admit to it..so he must have felt guilty..some people wouldn’t even admit it. However, I would want to know why he sent a naked picture to her, because there must have been some sort of reason. Personally, I don’t think I would forgive my boyfriend if he did that to me.”
“For me, if my boyfriend didn’t admit it and own up to it, I would have broken up with him. While sending a naked picture to another girl is something totally unacceptable, the fact that he owned up to it and told you and even felt sorry for it shows that he has a lot of guts. Hopefully he will be able to make it up to you.”
Honestly, I would be done. Sending a naked picture to someone isn’t a mistake. Like, someone can kiss you in the moment if you’re alone with them. That is a mistake. Taking a nude photo and sending it to someone is a deliberate act.
I get that this guy apologized and feels terrible, however, he was clearly looking for something outside of this relationship. I would have a really hard time ever trusting my boyfriend if he sent naked pictures to another girl. I’d constantly be worrying what he was doing on his phone and if he was trying to cheat on me.
It’s a tough call because I do believe in second chances as well. Maybe he won’t ever do something like this again, but I think personally I’d be done. I feel like this sort of behavior at the beginning of a relationship just means it’s a gateway to other things. Good luck!
What do you think? What would you do if your BF did this? Tell us in the comments!
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