Being single can be tough… but as with any situation, it’s really what you make of it. If you absolutely hate being single, and you’re determined to be negative about it, it’s going to suck. On the other hand, if you don’t focus on your lack of a significant other, and you decide to make the best of it, being single can be really awesome. Seriously!
What I want all of you single ladies to do is exactly that – make the best of your situation. Being miserable about not having a boyfriend or girlfriend will get you nowhere. In order to make yourself happy, you may need to change some of the stuff you’re currently doing. I’m not saying that every single person does this stuff – or that every single person does all of it. I think this is helpful as a general guide. Here are 10 things every single girl needs to stop doing ASAP.
Feeling Sorry For YourselfListen, I know that being single can be hard sometimes. Before I met my boyfriend, I was single for almost four years. I know that a lot of people are rude about it, and I know that sometimes it can be lonely. But you have no reason to feel sorry for yourself! That's because there's nothing wrong with being single and just doing you for a while. The more you feel sorry for yourself, the more miserable you'll feel. And how does that do you any good? Instead, consider yourself #blessed for having time for yourself. Source: ShutterStock
Feeling Completely HopelessWhen I was single, I spent a few months thinking that no one would ever love me, that I was a lost cause. I felt like there was something wrong with me, like I wasn't good enough for anyone. It sucked! I know it's easy to feel like this sometimes, but you really need to bring yourself up. You're not hopeless because you've been single for a while. Sometimes it just takes time to meet the right person, and that's okay. Source: ShutterStock
Settling Because You Feel Like You Have ToDon't be friends with benefits with a guy you really like because you would rather do that than be alone. In other words, don't be FWB with someone if it makes you upset or hurts too much. A lot of people do this, and it's not worth it. If you're okay with just casual hooking up, go for it! But if you're not, don't do it just to be less alone. I promise it will make you feel even worse. Source: ShutterStock
Playing It SafeWhile you should never go for people who you know aren't going to make you happy, you also shouldn't be afraid to take chances once in a while. I took a chance when I met my boyfriend, and now we've been together for almost four years! Sometimes it pays to go outside of your comfort zone. Keep that in mind! Source: ShutterStock
Complaining About Friends In RelationshipsWhen I was single, my friends and I always used to complain about our friends in relationships - how they were never around as much anymore, how they were so in love, blah blah blah. But now that I'm in a relationship and can see the other side, I can also see that we weren't being very fair. I have some friends who roll their eyes at my relationship stories or just aren't interested at all. It hurts my feelings! Be happy for your friends who are dating someone who makes them happy. Source: ShutterStock
Avoiding Situations Just Because You Don't Have A DateI once got invited to a wedding with a date... and I didn't go because I didn't have a date. My friend who was getting married was furious at me, and didn't talk to me for months. In retrospect, I feel pretty stupid for doing that. I should have just gone anyway, and I would have had a good time. It's silly to avoid going somewhere just because you have to go alone. That's how you miss out on fun stuff! Source: ShutterStock
Lowering Your StandardsRight now, I have a few single friends who are hooking up with or dating dudes who are SO not good enough for them. They've even straight up told me that they're doing it because they'd rather be with someone than be alone. Don't do this! It's so not worth it. It's always better to be on your own than to be with someone who doesn't truly make you happy. Source: ShutterStock
Looking For Love EVERYWHEREI have a single friend who makes every single one of our outings a manhunt. Everywhere we go, she barely pays attention to me as she searches for a dude to flirt with. And once she finds one, she ditches me for said dude. It's really annoying. I hate using the word desperate, but seriously... don't be that way. When you look too hard, you'll never find what you really want. I know it sounds cliche, but you'll meet someone when you least expect it. I met my BF when I was wearing sweats and walking into a food store. I obviously was not looking for my future BF at that moment. Source: ShutterStock
Being Too Shy To Ever Make A MoveMaking the first move isn't for everyone. I'm not saying you need to run up to your crush, confess your feelings, and ask him on a first date. But you shouldn't be afraid to text first sometimes, or ask if a guy ever wants to hang out, or even just start a conversation. It's liberating! And just like trying too hard is bad, not trying at all is also negative. Source: ShutterStock
Thinking There Is Something Wrong With YouAgain, there is nothing wrong with you because you're single. It doesn't mean you're unattractive, or that you have a terrible personality. Every single person out there likes something different in an S.O. You will never please everyone, it's impossible. Just because you have to wait longer to meet the right person doesn't mean it's because of you. Source: ShutterStock
Are you single? Do you do any of these things? Do you agree or disagree with me? What did I forget? Tell me in the comments.