Female orgasms are sort of a thing of mystery. While dudes can sit down with their hand, some lotion, and maybe some visual stimulation, and leave 20 minutes later sexually satisfied, a little sleepy, and maybe hungry, the same can’t be said for women. It takes a lot more than that to bring the the majority of women to orgasm. Despite the fact that this is common knowledge, females everywhere still feel shame and confusion as to why they can’t feel pleasure just as easily as their male significant others do, especially during intercourse.
Girls: it’s probably not your fault. Our down-there areas are complicated, and so orgasms are harder to have. That’s probably why there are so many different studies out there on female orgasms. Researchers are trying to get the bottom of what the heck is going on down there (although, according to one study, they’re not doing a great job). The result? Lots of information on achieving The Big O that may just help you to improve your sex life.
Curious about how to have an orgasm? Want to know why you’ve never had one during sexual intercourse? Read on. These 12 studies about female orgasms might help you figure some stuff out.
Erotic Thoughts Are The Key To OrgasmsWhen having orgasm troubles, women are constantly told to participate in more foreplay. And while this is definitely helpful, research has just found that erotic thoughts are probably more important. A recent study found that women who have more orgasms also have more erotic thoughts. This would explain a lot about the incredible popularity of Fifty Shades Of Gray. So, the next time you're hooking up and having trouble getting there, start thinking! The power of your mind is impressive. The best part? You can think about whatever you want, and no one will judge you, because no one will know. Source: ShutterStock
Penis Size May Play A PartSorry dudes - penis size matters, at least in some cases. Research recently found that women who can have vaginal orgasms (not through clitoral stimulation) are more likely to have them when having sex with someone with a large penis. However, the researchers weren't entirely convinced, because so many women have different preferences and want different things. Source: ShutterStock
You Can Have Orgasm From ExercisingSexual play definitely isn't the only way women can have orgasms. A recent study confirmed that many women are experiencing "exercise-induced orgasms." It's not as simple as jogging - this kind of orgasm is brought on by almost anything that engages your abs, specifically biking, weight lifting, and climbing poles or ropes. It sounds pretty great, right? Wrong. Most women who experience these orgasms feel really self-conscious about them, and feel like they have no control over them. Think about it: would you want to have an orgasm while working out in a public gym? Source: ShutterStock
The Size Of Your Clitoris MattersEarlier this year, a study found that women who had orgasm problems also had a smaller clitoris that was located farther in the vagina. So, it's not just penis size that matters sometimes - it can also be clitoris size. Since many women can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation, it would make sense that if the clitoris is harder to find, it would be harder to have an orgasm. Source: ShutterStock
Distracting Thoughts Prevent OrgasmsA few years ago, a study found that women who reported having negative thoughts during sex also reported having trouble with orgasms. This makes total sense, especially when coupled with the study that stresses how important erotic thoughts are. Like I said, the power of your mind is pretty incredible. If you spend your whole sexual experience thinking about negative things, wondering when you're going to have an orgasm, or imagining what you're going to eat later on, you're way less likely to have an orgasm. Just picture something that turns you on! Source: ShutterStock
Women Fake Orgasms To Have Real OnesWe've spent a lot of time on Gurl encouraging you guys to never fake orgasms. But still, studies regularly report that up to 80 percent of women are doing it. And let's be real, we'd all be lying if we said we never did it, right? There are a lot of theories as to why women do this, but one of the newer ones is that women fake orgasms to have real orgasms. Recent research found that a lot of women fake it because faking it makes them have a real orgasm. There are a few reasons why this makes sense: it may contribute to better erotic thoughts. Seeing your partner more turned on might turn you on even more. Or it could just be the power of positive thinking! Source: ShutterStock
Vaginal Exercises May Not Improve Your Sex LifeAlthough women are always encouraged to do vaginal exercises like kegels to improve their sex life and increase their chance of having an orgasm, one small study found that they might not actually help your sex life. While the exercises seemed to help with anxiety, they didn't improve sexual function. This doesn't mean kegels aren't still helpful - they are! But they're not the solution to every problem.
Some Women Fake Orgasms If They're Worried About InfidelityLike I said, there are other reasons women fake orgasms than just trying to have a real one. Research has found that some women fake it because they don't want their partner to cheat, or they're worried that their partner will be unfaithful. They think that showing him that they're having an orgasm shows that they're in love and happy - and this will make a guy less likely to cheat. Does it work? Who really knows. Source: ShutterStock
Premature Orgasms Can Happen To Women TooWe all know that guys (especially young ones) have to worry about premature orgasms - you know, finishing way too quickly. It's considered really embarrassing to orgasm under a minute. Well, this doesn't just happen to guys... it can happen to women too. Research has found that a small percentage of women have a chronic problem of having an orgasm before they wanted to. Source: ShutterStock
There Are Two Types Of Female OrgasmsUnderstanding orgasms can sometimes be the key to figuring out how to have an orgasm. Earlier this year, research ended the debate on whether or not there are two types of female orgasms, saying that there definitely is. You can have a vaginal orgasm (usually happens during penetration), or a clitoral stimulation orgasm (it happens from clitoral stimulation). The majority of women experience clitoral orgasms. Source: ShutterStock
Some Women Can Orgasm During ChildbirthIf you thought having an orgasm during exercise was weird, wait until you read this: a small percentage of women can have an orgasm during childbirth. Research confirmed this, but scientists weren't surprised. That's... cool, I guess? Source: ShutterStock
Science Doesn't Help Women EnoughNo matter what is going on, one thing is for sure: doctors and scientists aren't doing enough to help women achieve sexual pleasure when they want to. While men have Viagra to help them along when their bodies aren't cooperating, women don't have anything that even compares to that. One report showed that many people felt that science hasn't done enough to help women out. I kind of have to agree. Source: ShutterStock
Which of these studies did you think was the most interesting? Do you have trouble with having an orgasm? Tell me in the comments.