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Like I said, I want to help you all as best as possible, but sometimes we are not going to agree and that’s okay! I love a good dialogue, and if going back and forth with some of you can help anyone who has a question, I’m happy to do it! However, I want to note that these answers may not be the hearts and flowers that some of you are looking for. They will be quick and to the point. These are real questions and I want to give you all real answers. So with all that being said, lets get into this weeks topic: Does he like me?
How Can I Make My Friends With Benefits Like Me?
Hey, so I’m only 16 and I met this guy who was 18. He is cool and cute and sweet and funny, but he sleeps around with a lot of girls. A week after we met, we agreed to just hook up and not catch feelings, but I think I like him. He’s sending mixed signals though. He calls me Baby and Babe and we text a lot (not as much anymore cause he’s a couple hours away working for the summer) and he has kissed me in front of our friends before too. He acts like he really cares about me, but he will randomly ignore me sometimes. And sometimes after sex he just takes me home and we don’t just hangout or talk as much anymore. Its becoming less and less about just sex. How can I fix this? And how can I get him to actually like me? – From Faith
First, I want to state that you can’t force him to like you. Changing anything about yourself in order to get anyone to like you is a no-no. You are who you are, and either he likes the real you or he doesn’t. Second, guys are very literal about everything, so if you agreed to be just hook up buddies, that’s all he’s going to think of you as, someone he hooks up with. This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t like you, but he could just like you because you guys are hooking up, nothing more. Since you know you have feelings for him, I think you should talk to him about it. Let him know how you feel. It could go two ways: he could tell you that he likes you as more than a hook up too and you guys could develop a relationship, or he could want to just stay hookup friends. Either way, talking to him about it is going to be your best bet!
Does He Like Me Or Not?
I had a guy who became my friend. He is the one that made me his friend. He smiles wen he sees me, always stares at me, but sometimes whenever he sees me around him, he tries to stay out of my sight… Is he into me or not? – From Anonymous
I’m not sure what you mean by “he made me his friend.” Hopefully you are friends with him because you like him as a person and like spending time with him. As far as the staring and not staring part, he might like you and just does not know how to act when he sees you. Guess what? Guys are just as shy when it comes to talking to girls they like as we are with the guys we like. It’s nerve racking for everyone. My best advice would be to spend some more time with him and see more of how he acts. He might just want to be friends or he might want to be more, but you won’t find out until you get to know him a little bit better.
He Sent Me A Picture Of His Penis – Does That Mean He Likes Me?
This guy and I have been going to school together for four years now, and we only just started talking last week. We flirt a lot on Snapchat and texting. One day, he said “send me a picture of your legs,” and I did not really pay any attention, and he then said “what picture do you want me to send?” So, jokingly I said “d” for, well you know what I mean. Well, I wasn’t expecting anything because we don’t know a huge amount about each other, yet he sent me a picture of him masturbating in front of the camera close up. To be honest I was pretty shocked, but I kind of liked the guy before all of the penis pictures. What do I do? Does he like me or is he just being one of those stupid boys? – From Rachel
To start off, all men are obsessed with their penises. Seriously, they love showing it off to anyone who will look, especially through texts and Snapchats. So in that sense, yes, he is “just being a stupid boy.” Also, he probably didn’t know you were joking when you asked for that picture – he probably thought you really wanted it! If you’re not comfortable with that, you can tell him to stop, but for the future, don’t joke around in that way with someone you don’t know very well. So, does his sexting mean he likes you? It’s hard to tell. A lot of guys will sext with girls they aren’t interested in simply because they want naked pictures. The next time he texts you, ask if he wants to hang out (not in one of your bedrooms). If he wants to go on a date, that’s a good sign. If all he wants is some more pics, that could mean he’s only interested in hooking up.
He Always Stares At Me – Does He Like Me?
Every time I stare at this guy, I catch him staring at me too, but then he looks away quickly. Some of his friends say that he doesn’t like me anymore (he used to like me), but I don’t believe them because he’s always staring at me. Does he like me or not? – From Amy
Staring boys are super annoying. You can’t tell if they “like like” you, if they just think you’re pretty, or if they’re not actually looking at you at all. All scenarios are confusing. He could like you; guys don’t usually know how to communicate their feelings. They would rather stare at you from across the room instead of just telling you. I would try and make a joke out of it with him. Tell him, when he’s alone, not in front of his friends, that you’ve caught him staring and ask what’s the deal? Be super nice about it and see what he says. He could very well like you, and is just too shy to say anything.
I Told Him He Liked Me, But He Didn’t Say He Liked Me Back
I told a guy I like him over text and he replied that he kind of already knew and he wasn’t sure exactly what to say, and then he said thank you for being honest. He is really flirty in person and over texts, so I mean, I didn’t just tell him because there were no signs he liked me back. So does he like me and he’s too shy to say? Is he not sure? Is he trying to let me down easy? HELP! – From Hope
You started off on the right foot. Letting someone know you like them is half the battle, so a high five to you for being upfront with him! While it’s possible that he likes you back, to be honest, it doesn’t sound too promising. If a guy likes a girl, he’ll probably say more than “thank you” when she confesses her feelings for him. When he said he wasn’t sure what to say back, that could have been his way of nicely rejecting you. If you’re super confused, just ask him what the deal is. If he doesn’t give a yes or a no the next time, move on. He’s clearly confused.
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