I’m in a long-term relationship right now, but before I met my current boyfriend, I was single for almost four years. At first, I had just ended a five-year relationship, and the idea of being single terrified me. I didn’t want to be alone, I felt like a loser, and I was convinced that I would never meet another person who wanted to seriously date me. For a little while, I was so miserable that I had to start going to therapy.
Eventually, I adjusted to my single life… and I started taking advantage of it. Instead of sitting in my room alone, I made new friends. I started going out and doing things almost every night, where I let myself have a really good time without worrying about getting in touch with a guy. I made the most of my lounge time as well by taking long naps, watching tons of TV shows and movies, and reading a lot of good books. I realized that when I was in a relationship, I had never had this much time to devote to myself and my friends. It was nice!
Honestly, I look back on my single years with a smile. I had so many experiences (from bad to good) where I learned so much. I built incredible bonds with my friends, and I really pushed myself to be a better person during that time.
I hear a lot of you girls complaining about being single and not having a boyfriend. I know it sounds patronizing to say, “enjoy it!” but I don’t mean it that way. I honestly want you to enjoy this alone time! Once you enter a relationship, things will be different. You won’t have as much time for yourself or your friends. You won’t be able to do some of the things below. So why not enjoy them now? Here are 12 things every single girl out there should do before she finds a relationship… if she finds one. Because they’re not for everyone, and that’s okay.
Do All The FlirtingFlirting is fun! Unfortunately, it's something that you have to stop doing so much when you start dating someone. But when you're single, you can flirt with whoever you want, so take advantage of that. Flirting doesn't always have to have an end game. In other words, you don't need to hook up with or try to date every person you flirt with. You can just do it to play around and have a good time. Source: ShutterStock
Spend As Much Time With Your Friends As PossibleWhen you enter a new relationship, it's inevitable that you may lose some friends, or at least not have as much time for them anymore. So when you're single, make your girl friends the most important people in your life. Hang out with them all the time, talk to them about stuff, give them advice... do whatever you'd like. The bond you'll develop with your friends will make you wonder who really needs relationships anyway. Source: ShutterStock
Say No SometimesSometimes when you're single, people make you feel like you should be grateful for any male attention that you get. They make you feel like you should yes to every single date, and every single potential relationship opportunity. That's bulllsh*t. You can say no whenever you want. You do NOT have to go on a date with someone you're not interested in just because you're single. That's ridiculous! Learn how to say no, and don't feel like you need to lower your standards. Source: ShutterStock
Save MoneyBeing in a relationship usually means spending a little more money, whether that's because of your turns paying for date night or the gifts you have to buy him/her for anniversaries, birthdays, and holidays. Use this time to save your money for your future. Source: ShutterStock
Go For Casual Hookups, If You'd LikeCasual hookups get a bad rep, but there's nothing wrong with them. If you want to kiss or have sex with people you're not seriously dating, that's fine! Do you, girl. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for that. You can have as much fun as you'd like while you're not attached to anyone. Source: ShutterStock
Binge Watch Every Netflix Show You WantBeing in a relationship takes up a lot of time... time that could be devoted to binge watching crappy reality shows while eating popcorn. I'm so busy that I barely have time to watch TV seasons on my own, so I watch them with my boyfriend. Does he want to watch my guilty pleasure, Keeping Up With The Kardashians? No. So we have to compromise. See what I'm saying? Source: ShutterStock
Experiment To Find Out What You WantAgain, I want to stress that you don't have to say yes to every single date or flirting opportunity just because you're single. But you should also try experimenting a little bit. Try talking to someone who's different from your usual type. Attempt a friends with benefits relationship if that's what you want. Do you feel like maybe you're bisexual? Find out! Experimenting when you're single is a great way to figure out what you really want from a future partner, or just from life in general. Source: ShutterStock
Relax!Generally, you have a lot more alone time when you're single. Don't do what I did in the beginning, which was to mope around and feel sorry for myself. Instead, spend time relaxing or doing your hobbies. Take long naps, go for walks on your own, read a stack of books, start a blog... whatever you want. Source: ShutterStock
Go Somewhere Fun On Your OwnIf you're over 18, consider traveling somewhere on your own. As a student, you can look into study abroad programs, which can be as long as a full year or as short as just one month. It's a really amazing way to meet new people and see new things. You don't have to worry about having anyone to answer to or miss. You can just enjoy yourself! Source: ShutterStock
Make The First MoveIs making the first move easy? No, not unless you're super confident. Should you do it? Yup (just read here for why). It could lead to something, it could lead to nothing. Whatever! It's a great way to boost your confidence and become more independent. Source: ShutterStock
Be SelfishRelationships are about compromises and sacrifices. Basically, you can't be selfish when you're seriously dating someone. But you CAN be selfish when you're single. Do whatever you want! You have no one to explain things to. You don't have to worry about what anyone else thinks. You don't need to consider someone else's feelings. It's nice! Source: ShutterStock
Stop Feeling Ashamed About Being SingleI've said it before, and I'll say it again: there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. Don't let anyone make you feel like there's something wrong with you, which some people will do. Relationships should never make or break your happiness. Enjoy yourself! Source: ShutterStock
Are you single? Do you agree or disagree with this list? What do you disagree about? What did I forget to include? Tell me in the comments!