Why I Think Every Girl Should Watch Porn

Yup, I said it. I think watching porn is something every girl should do. Whether you’re straight, gay, bisexual, transgender, even asexual… you all should watch porn. Now, I’m not saying that you have to watch it for hours everyday all day, or even consistently, but I think you should view it at least once in your life. Before you go nuts about how porn is gross, perverted, only for boys, or even that it’s against feminism, hear me out.

My first experience with porn was with my best friend at 13. It was in the days of celebrity sex tapes, and we were curious as to what all the fuss was about. So we looked it up, sat back, and had our first view of porn. It was an eye opening experience, to say the least. I thought porn would answer all of my questions, but after watching, I actually had more questions then when we started. I had no clue about half the things they were doing, and I was concerned that all porn was similar. However, what I did learn from my first time was that my sex questions could be answered by porn. It also made the act of having sex less of a mystery and made it more relatable to me.

Still unsure? First of all, there is nothing wrong with watching porn. It is legal and accessible to anyone who has an Internet connect. Please do not think of porn as a shameful act that should be frowned upon. It isn’t. Actually, it’s quite the opposite. It’s normal to be curious about sex, oral sex, same gender sex, hell, just sex in general! Trust me, you will not be the first or the last person to have a thought about sex and want to investigate. It is completely natural to want to see what the hype is all about, and watching people who you do not know have a go at it is actually quite freeing. Think about it: is there any other way to view a sexual act without actually doing the act besides porn?

Second, have you ever had a question about what goes where? About whether or not you’re normal for wanting a specific thing? Is that something that other people find enjoyable? Well, guess what – porn is your ultimate learning guide to questions you are too afraid to ask. Everyone’s body looks different but, at the end of the day we all have the same parts that do the same things. Porn is a healthy way to tackle myths you might have heard, learn different positions, and what you may or may not like.

How can you be totally against an act if you’ve never witnessed it? Sex is very personal, and having as much knowledge about it as possible can help you tremendously in your personal sex journey. Being able to visualize sex might make it easier to talk about, do (or not do), and make sex something that isn’t as weird and scary as it sounds. We are all humans and humans have sex.

Lastly, watching porn is a way for anyone to get in tune with their bodies and see what things you might like, definitely do not want to do, and everything in between. It’s a safe, nonjudgmental way to learn about the female and male bodies without being laughed at for your curiosity. Also, it shows you different ways that people have sex. No two people have sex the same way, and watching porn allows you to see a variety of scenarios, points of views, and situations.

Taking your first step into porn is not as scary as it sounds. There are tremendous amounts of ways to view porn. If you feel more comfortable behind your computer with the door locked, that’s perfectly fine. If video is too fast too soon, try getting a magazine. It’s easier to control what you are seeing. If you and your closest friends are comfortable with each other, watch something together. Having someone there with you will make it less serious and you guys can talk through what you are seeing. There are also female friendly porn sites that feature personal masturbation and are way less intense then the male driven sites. So go out there and explore porn – I think you will learn a little something that you didn’t know.

Do you watch porn? Are you completely against watching porn? Let us know in the comments below!

 

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  • angelajb

    Part 1:

    Porn is not empowering for women or, while we’re on the topic, healthy for men. I realize that this is not the currently popular opinion to argue. When dealing with the emotional and relational (and mental) health of a society and culture, though, I am loath to overlook actual research in favor of general opinion.

  • angelajb

    Part 2: Let’s look at where
    the porn industry is today: its estimated income in the United States alone is
    $13 billion dollars (bigger than Google, Yahoo, Microsoft, Apple, Amazon, eBay,
    and Netflix combined). So yes, that makes the porn industry big business, and
    like most big business, they are focused on profit, certainly not female sexual
    empowerment, sexual creativity, or men’s sexual satisfaction. This can be seen
    through porn’s increasing violence toward women.

  • angelajb

    Part 3:

    The sex that porn depicts has no visible difference from assault: all parts of a woman’s body are forcibly and painfully used by one or more men all in physical positions of power over her, the words being spoken at her are almost always hateful and degrading, and her attempts to communicate discomfort or pain are, at best, ignored. In fact, porn consistently reinforces rape myths (men know better what women really want and need sexually, women are “sluts” who get what they deserve, and that all women are “whores” and want it by any available man). Max Hardcore, a pornographer, says it best to show the porn industry’s view of women: “Women are much more understanding and aware of their true purpose in life than ever before. That purpose, of course, is to be receptacles of love; in other words, f*** dolls.” This might seem harsh or unbelievable, but while writing this, I purposefully tried to not include disturbing details or quotes. What’s worse is that what I politely described above is the common form of porn—what people would find by simply typing “porn” into a search engine.

  • angelajb

    Part 4:

    Research backs up that porn isn’t healthy for men’s mindsets either. This isn’t because porn makes them go out and rape or abuse—research shows no clear increase in reported violence from men who watch porn versus those who don’t. However, men’s views of themselves, their emotions, and their abilities to connect with half the population—women—are degraded by the viewing of porn. Research does prove all this. For the same reason women feel they have to remove body hair (porn started that trend) or be able to be amazing at sex every time, all the time (thanks, porn), men are learning who they should be from porn. This does not lead to good self-esteem or healthy views of sex. Besides that, research has continuously found that men who watch porn are increasingly cut off from their own emotions as well as their ability to enjoy sex with an actual woman. More than that, men who watch porn repeatedly report that, when around women, they find it harder to concentrate on who she is or what she is saying rather than her body, sexual fantasies, or videos they had recently watched. In my opinion, anything that decreases someone’s ability to connect with their emotions, their thoughts, or other people is more dangerous than it is worth.

  • angelajb

    Part 5:

    While a “new style” of porn is emerging—feminist porn—I would still argue that the results are more damaging than any potential instant gratification of desires. People are sexual beings, but we are also emotional beings who thrive on connection. Both men and women thrive on feeling valued and respected. Lusting after a woman because of her body hijacks a woman’s natural ability to trust her partner, and a man’s consequences are even worse because they do not change depending on the kind of porn he views.

  • angelajb

    Part 6:

    My point in all this is this: Porn is not
    empowering to women. It is not empowering to men. Let’s drop the charades that
    porn is sexually creative and accept that people will be creative on their own
    time frame with people they trust when they are comfortable being creative. And
    please, let’s stop pretending that porn whets anyone’s sexual appetite—it is a
    business. They want you coming back for more, and if there is anything research
    has proven without a shadow of a doubt, it is that porn is addictive and never
    satisfying. There is never enough. But I’ve certainly had enough with how porn
    is smothering women and men’s sexualities and, more importantly, their ability
    to connect with each other as people first, sexual beings second.

  • jesus is my jew

    do you imagine yourself doing stuff with girls or just watch it? and totes, it’s all fair game

  • katy

    What porn do you recommend?