For whatever reason, many men think they’re entitled to a woman’s affection, whether she agrees or not. Such was the case with Eliot Rodger who went on a murderous rampage because he hated women for not having sex with him. He felt rejected by women, and thus it was the fault of all women. In this guy’s mind, women were the enemy. This misogynistic mentality isn’t new, and even after that horrific massacre, it hasn’t really changed.
This past Sunday, Italian cyclist Vincenzo Nibali won Stage Two of the Tour de France. While accepting the yellow jersey, he leaned in to kiss one of the podium women. She turned her head because, well, she did not want to kiss him.
But people (read: misogynists) are freaking out because HOW DARE SHE?! The Bleacher Report’s headline says, “Vincenzo Nibali Is Denied a Victory Kiss.” Denied. No, he wasn’t DENIED. He was simply told “No.”
BroBible’s Kyle Koster explained:
“Let’s not lose sight of what’s really important here: this woman is a jerk. Nibali wasn’t going in for some tongue-on-tongue action. He was going in for a European double cheek peck…Sure, Nibali probably smelled a little sour after the demanding ride, but that’s no reason to humiliate him.”
Let’s not lose sight of what we’re assuming here: we don’t know that he was going in for a European double cheek peck. Not kissing someone when that kiss is unwanted isn’t humiliation. It’s just someone not wanting to kiss someone else. Sure, rejection hurts, but that’s no reason to claim that you deserve someone’s affection.
The DailyDot cited some YouTube comments from the original video (which has since been removed) that said everything from “What a bitch lol” to much more vulgar statements.
This kind of response to this type of situation really irks me. Was it awkward for this cyclist because he was on television when this happened? Yeah, probably. Patriots quarterback Tom Brady is left hanging for almost every high five he tries to give on the sideline, and no one calls the other players jerks or bitches for rejecting him.
Rejecting someone does not make you a bitch. If you do not like someone, rejecting them is the appropriate thing to do. Leading them on and then revealing you don’t like them is a little shady because you shouldn’t lead people on. But if someone is making an unwanted move on you, you have every right to say no. You do not owe anyone anything. No one automatically deserves your attention.
This woman is being dragged through the mud because she didn’t want to kiss a man who she didn’t know on television. I say he’s the jerk for trying to kiss her and assuming she would accept. But if someone wants to call you a bitch or jerk for rejecting unwanted moves, fine. Then I’m a huge bitch for asserting my right to say no.
What do you think about this situation? Should this woman have accepted the kiss? Do you think someone is wrong to reject someone else? Tell us in the comments!