I hate the term friend zoned because I think it is associated with a ton of entitled garbage, especially when it comes from hetero dudes. But for the sake of this post, I’ll reference it: There might come a time in your life in which you’ll need to put your guy friend in the friend zone. Maybe you’re just not attracted to them, maybe they’re not your type, maybe you’re a lesbian and you haven’t come out yet, who knows! Either way, you only want to keep this guy in your life as a friend–just a friend–and that’s okay!
But before you relay this news to him, you’ll want to be a little prepared for potential awkwardness and drama. So here are seven things you might want to keep in mind before you reject your guy friend.
You Might Feel GuiltySo, you broke someone's heart. It's natural to feel a little guilty, especially if you two are great friends. Congrats, you have a little something called empathy! But don't let it sway your decision or make things weirder than they already will be between you two. Acknowledge that you feel funky about it and move on. It's not the end of the world for either of you. Photo source: Some Girls/BBC
Your Friendship Could Get Weird For A WhileYou could have been the nicest rejection giver of all rejection givers, and things could still feel weird between you two for a while. Just try to keep things as normal as possible and hopefully it'll pass. Photo source: Pretty In Pink/Paramount
Avoid Immediately Trying To Set Him Up InsteadThis is not the time to start a real life game of Mystery Date, girl! Don't suggest that he checks out your friend Tanya or your home girl Brooke. Honestly, not only will your suggestions go over his head, it might make him feel even worse. You might think that you're helping him move on by doing this, but you'll only make the situation weirder. Resist! Photo source: Mystery Date/Orion Pictures
Be Prepared To Defuse Any Potential AwkwardnessAvoid drama! Avoid weirdness! Avoid awkward silences of doom! Seriously, if you really, truly value this dude's friendship then you'll want to make everything as normal as possible as quickly as possible. Invite him to some concert you're going to soon. Ask if he wants to grab a slice of pizza. See if he wants to go troll the mall with you. Anything to bring back a semblance of normalcy will be appreciated by everyone involved. Photo source: Shutterstock
He Might Try To Negotiate With You"What about just one date!" Nah, son. If maybe this or maybe that isn't going to sway your decision, you need to be firm about that. If he keeps on doing it, he's clearly not respecting your feelings. Photo source: Clueless/Paramount
He Might Want To Stop Being Your Friend All TogetherAnd if that's the case, then he was never your real friend to begin with. Kick this dude to the curb, he officially sucks. Photo source: Shutterstock
Caution: You Might End Up Falling For HimOkay, so sometimes this happens: You reject your friend, but then you find yourself developing feelings for him the moment he starts giving another girl attention. Listen, you need to figure out if those feelings you're suddenly developing are actual feelings and not just jealousy. If it's the latter, then you need to find some way to get over it. If it's the former then, well, you're in a bit of a pickle. But if you rejected him, he has every right to move on regardless of your new feelings for him. That's just the way the cookie crumbles. Photo source: Lizzie McGuire/Disney
Have you ever had to reject your guy friend? Has it ever backfired? Tell us in the comments!