Just like all girls have a general idea of what makes a great boyfriend, guys have a general idea of what makes a great girlfriend. Even though no one can be “perfect,” and you shouldn’t strive to be, it’s nice to be successful in relationships. Being a good girlfriend sounds easy, but it’s actually a lot more tough than you would think. That’s because relationships are frustrating, and they take a lot of work (I know. Aren’t you sick of hearing that too?).
So what are guys really looking for in a girl? What can we do to make our boyfriend think we’re the best things since sliced bread? Well, first of all, we should always be ourselves. This list of qualities isn’t meant to change who you are, or to get you start doing things just to please your man. That’s so not what we’re about at Gurl. It’s hear to inspire you to be a better person in general. Here are 10 not-so-obvious qualities of a great girlfriend, according to real dudes over at Reddit. And, girls: you’ll be happy to know that these have absolutely nothing to do with the way you look, or how you hook up.
Let Him Help You With ThingsPM_ME_UR_SOMETHING: Also let him do things for you. My gf has this thing where she doesn't want to feel dependent on people (her mom's first husband died so her mom had to fend for herself, so my gf doesn't want to end up unable to take care of herself), If he offers to do something for you, don't shut him down. It makes him feel useless for even asking and it can really hurt a man in many ways. It's so important for you to be independent, and to be able to handle things on your own. But let's face it: everyone likes to be needed, so it's okay to let your BF help you with stuff sometimes. Think about it this way: how would you feel if every time your BF was upset, he shut you out to deal with it on his own? You'd be pretty frustrated, I'd imagine. Don't act like you can't do something just to be the damsel in distress, but it's okay to let him take the reigns sometimes. Source: ShutterStock
Show Affection, But Also Be Your Own Personlordsleepyhead: It's great when a girl shows affection, wants your company and support, and wants to know your opinion and feelings, but it needs to be balanced with independence and a degree of autonomy. I don't want to be joined at the hip, and when doing some fun activity with you, I want it to be something we both enjoy, otherwise find someone else to do it with (as will I) Find the balance of showing your BF that you need him and love having him around, but also that you're still your own person. Have your own interests (even when they aren't his), have your own friends, and be able to do things on your own. It's sexy! Source: ShutterStock
Be PositiveIbex89Male: Positivity. Maybe that's an obvious one, but seeing opportunities rather than roadblocks is an attractive quality in anyone. It's hard to date someone who is always negative about everything. You don't always need to have a smile on your face, but learning to be a little more positive will make you happier as well as your S.O. Source: ShutterStock
Go With The Flowknowses: I love a woman who isn't petty. If a woman shows me she can tolerate when things don't go as planned, I respect that. Everyone appreciates someone who is able to deal when things don't go exactly as planned. Of course it's okay to be upset if something gets messed up, but for your happiness and his, allow yourself to readjust. Source: ShutterStock
Learn Things Togetheravantvernacular: Learn things with me. Doing something new together is exciting! It's a chance for you both to try something different at the same time, which is a real bonding experience. It's also new from your usual routine, which is exciting in itself. Source: ShutterStock
Realize You're Not The Only Important Thing In His LifepyrobyroMale: One year for my birthday, my SO took me out to dinner, and when we got there, a couple of my best friends were there. I thought that was awesome. I don't get to see some of my friends often because we're all super busy, so I'm always happy to see them when I can. I suppose the quality there that made her so great is that she realized it's not all about her. My SO is incredibly important in my life, but I have other friends that I care deeply about. She recognized this, and showed it pretty damn well. Don't be too possessive over your BF, or you will lose him fast. Its important to acknowledge that you aren't the only important part of his life. He doesn't always have to put you first. Source: ShutterStock
Don't Hold Things Against Himjeni1122: Having the ability to get over the small sh*t quickly and not hold on to it forever. talk about it, work it out and move on. There should be no point system or tally in a relationship. Of course there are things you don't need to get over. But small things? Don't bring them up in future arguments if you guys have already solved that problem. Be able to move on. Source; ShutterStock
Allow Him To Have Spacedancingham: Giving an appropriate amount of space without the guy having to force it/start an argument to get some alone time. Everyone needs a little space, even when you're crazy in love. Give your BF space without him having to ask for it - it's good for you, too! You should definitely have time for yourself. Don't give him a hard time for having a boy's night once in a while, and leave him alone when he's hanging out with his family or just having a little alone time. Source: ShutterStock
Have Good Communication SkillstheMostProductivePro: In the relationship I am currently in I have come to find that a quality in my girlfriend that I have absolutely come to love is that she is very good at communicating her feelings in a constructive and positive way. This actually is pretty obvious. Communication is a huge part of any relationship, and you need to learn how to talk to your partner in order for anything to be successful. This means telling him what's actually wrong instead of making him guess, and being honest even when it's hard. Source: ShutterStock
Do Fun Things TogetherPhancy_Pants: Do things together. Not like sitting on the couch watching TV while the other is reading or playing WoW or something... I mean strive to find actual activities that the two of you enjoy together and do them regularly. Do you both like to cook? Maybe you can make dinner and he can make dessert. Or play some games together, or go for a bike ride... just things that are interactive between the two of you. Does that make sense? The things that really made my BF and I bond were the fun things we did together. Sure, cuddling on the couch while binge-watching TV shows is nice, but our relationship is always at it's best when we're doing something different. It doesn't even have to be huge - just be open to doing new things once in a while. Source: ShutterStock
Which of these do you disagree with? Do you think you’re a good girlfriend? What are qualities you look for in a good boyfriend? Tell me in the comments!