Everyone in this world deals with insecurities, even those people who just seem to ooze confidence with every step they take. Whether it’s about their body or their personality, every single person out there can relate to that feeling of not being good enough in some way. Some people have enough self-confidence to ignore those insecurities, while other people don’t have self-confidence at all. As someone who has always been insecure, I can very much relate to the feeling of desperately wanting to love myself more.
And, judging from the questions I get from you guys every day, so can a lot of you. Becoming confident after spending a lifetime putting yourself down is difficult. But it’s not impossible! I was really glad to see this Reddit thread on Ask Women about how to deal with insecurity – all of the tips are so helpful, and they’re coming from real women, so you know they work. Want to start feeling great about yourself? Here are 10 tips on how to deal with insecurity and be more confident:
Fake It Till You Make Itoceloter: Fake it til you make it, bro. I've felt unattractive and lame my entire life. Then at some point, someone told me that one day they decided they were pretty, went with it, and their confidence soared. Sure it doesn't make you gorgeous just to think that you are, but hey, it lets you hold yourself a little bit higher. It's like Kate Nash says: Wake up every morning and tell yourself that you're a badass bitch and no one can f*** with you. Then don't let anyone f*** with you. Love this! Confidence is all about attitude, so make your attitude about yourself positive. Convince yourself that you're awesome, and you will be. Source: ShutterStock
Do Things That Make You Feel GoodSoWunderFall: Do nice things for everybody (yourself, your friends, family, strangers, animals) without expecting anything in return. As you keep doing this, you'll start respecting yourself. You'll see yourself as a good person, someone who has value in this world. I guess what I'm trying to say is, learn to like yourself. When you think thoughts in your head, don't ever demean yourself, or call yourself names. The way you treat yourself sets the standard for the way you let other people treat you. Do things that make you nervous. And do them a lot. If you're scared to smile at an attractive stranger, do it. If it makes you uncomfortable, acknowledge that feeling and remember that it only makes you uncomfortable because you are outside your comfort zone. But also remember that being outside your comfort zone is one of the best ways to learn. If you keep trying new things, eventually you'll learn to love new things and new adventures. You'll crave that feeling, and holy shit, the I'm-uncomfortable-but-learning is one of the best feelings you can crave/get used to. Confidence isn't just about thinking you're hot. It's about genuinely liking who you are. Do things that make you feel good about yourself, so that you WILL feel good about yourself. Source: ShutterStock
Put Things In Perspectivebeeeeea: I sometimes imagine I'm myself as an old lady, imagining things I wish I'd done differently. One of these thing would undoubtedly be regretting not loving my body, and then BAM I've "gone back in time" to now, and I basically realise how I look the best I will ever look, so may as well appreciate it. It sounds lame, but it's really true: years from now, you'll look back on yourself and be like, "Wow, I was a babe. Why didn't I take advantage of that?" Don't let that happen! Source: ShutterStock
Embrace Your FlawsPinkAlienSlut: Embrace your flaws and admit that they're there. If you can't do anything to improve them, learn to accept and love those flaws. Confidence isn't about not having any flaws. It's about accepting and living with those flaws. It's okay that you're not good at everything! Just accept what you can't change, and then you can become okay with it. Source: ShutterStock
Surround Yourself With Good Peoplecookiecatgirl: Go over a list of your great qualities in your head, or get together with supportive, NON-toxic pals. Makes a world of difference to surround/immerse yourself with people who respect and believe in you and what you stand for You know those frenemies you have who always put you down and make you feel bad? Get rid of them! You don't need people like that in your life. Surround yourself with positive friends who like you and lift you up higher. Source: ShutterStock
Remember That No One Cares As Much As You Doanswerthisquesss: "No one gives a sh*t because they're too busy worrying about themselves." No one is watching etc. Exactly. No one cares as much about what you look like or say as much as you do. So, you may notice those pimples on your face, but that doesn't mean everyone does. Remind yourself that people aren't examining every little bit of you - they're too busy worrying about what they look like. Source; ShutterStock
Think About How You See Otherswhat_a_cat_astrophe: Whenever I'm struggling with confidence and insecurity, I always try to remind myself that I myself barely notice the flaws of my peers. Do I look at Sally's big pimple and think much of it, or can I relate? Do I gape at Maria's unfortunate hair day and feel disgust? Do I watch Brian stumble over his words while he is making a speech and think, "Hah! What an idiot!" No, I don't. Because I've been there, and there, and there too. And so have they. I know it's hard to wrap your head around sometimes, but never forget that people are far more concerned with themselves and their own flaws than noticing each and every one of yours. Still not convinced that not everyone is examining you? Think about how you see others. You think your BFF is gorgeous? Well, she has her own insecurities you don't even realize. You see what I'm getting at? Source: ShutterStock
Compliment YourselfLindyBadger: When I get out of the shower, I stand in front of a full length mirror on the wall and I watch myself put lotion on. I watch myself get dressed. I watch how my body moves, how it bends and folds and curves. It's really easy to look in the mirror and only focus on the negative things, so I make a point to compliment myself the whole time. Yeah, my legs are nice. And so is my butt. And I have such lovely collar bones. It's weird at first, but it's now such a part of my routine that I feel like there's something wrong when I don't get to for a few days if I go out of town or something. Every day, make it a point to give yourself a compliment. Don't pay attention to the stretch marks. Instead, focus on the fact that you have amazing calves. Do this every single day, not just once in a while. Eventually, you'll believe it. Source: ShutterStock
Remember There Will Always Be Someone Who Doesn't Like Youfreeslurpeeday: This has more to do with fear of rejection, which is the usually the root of my insecurities, but: "You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, but there's still going to be someone who doesn't like peaches." - Dita Von Teese Feeling down in the dumps because your crush doesn't like you back? Remind yourself that it is impossible to please everyone. There will always be people who don't like you - that doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. Source: ShutterStock
Take Things Slowbrowncoatgal: When you have low self-esteem, it's hard to jump right into loving yourself. I took baby steps. Instead of looking in the mirror and going "I am a beautiful person" (in the case that you don't believe yourself), instead think "I am a decent looking human being". Build up from there. "I am a decent looking person with pretty eyes". When it comes to being confident, it's easier to wade in than it is to dive in head-first. Exactly. Don't just be like, "I'm the hottest girl in this world" and expect to believe it. Take things slow. This is a process that won't happen over night. Source; ShutterStock
Do you think you’re an insecure person? What makes you feel more confident? What tip do you think is the best? Tell me in the comments!