As you probably have already heard, June is officially LGBTQ Month. We’ve been celebrating here at Gurl by attempting to debunk some of the unfair stereotypical myths that are out there about different kinds of sexuality. Not only are these myths incorrect, they are also mean – and I’m sure something that everyone is sick of hearing.
For example, there are a lot of myths about being a lesbian that simply aren’t true. For some reason, most people have this preconceived image in their head of what a lesbian should look and act like – and they’re almost always wrong. That’s why it’s great to see shows like Orange Is The New Black give us a more realistic point of view. Forget everything you think you know about sexuality. Here are 10 myths about lesbians that aren’t true.
All Lesbians Are Feminists Who Hate MenFor some reason, there is this idea that because a woman likes other women sexually, that means she hates men. A lot of people think "lesbian," and associate the term with a stereotypical bra-burning feminist who wants all men dead. This is completely not true and so unfair. You don't have to hate men in order to be a lesbian! All the term means is that you're attracted to other women. And being a lesbian doesn't automatically mean you're a feminist, either - the two are completely different things.
Lesbians Are All ButchWhen some people think of a lesbian, they think of someone who's "butch," which Urban Dictionary describes as "an overtly/stereotypically masculine or masculine-acting woman." I'm not sure where that idea came from, but it couldn't be further from the truth. Sure, some lesbians choose to dress and look this way, but definitely not all of them. Lesbians come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. You can't tell who is a lesbian just by looking at them.
In A Lesbian Relationship, One Women Has To Be 'The Man'Saying that there has to be a "man" in a lesbian relationship makes it seem like two women can't just be together. It's like saying someone HAS to act like the man, because if they don't, it can't be a real relationship. It's silly and ridiculous. Why are we even focusing on gender roles at all? That shouldn't matter in a relationship. Never ask a lesbian couple who the "man" is.
All Lesbians Get Comitted and Serious Really QuicklyThere is a stereotype out there that when lesbians get together, they make things serious really quickly. I have no idea where this idea came from, but it's not true. First of all, again, not every lesbian is the same or wants the same thing. Second, it's not like lesbians get together and, that's it, they're together for life. That's ridiculous.
Lesbians Are Attracted To ALL WomenJust like people assume that bisexuals are attracted to all people, some assume that lesbians are attracted to all women. That doesn't even make any sense. So, because you're a heterosexual girl, does that mean you're attracted to every dude you see? The answer is obviously no. Just because lesbians like women doesn't mean they like every single woman out there.
Being A Lesbian Is A Choice You MakeYour sexual preferences aren't a choice. A woman didn't wake up one day and decide that instead of dating men, she wants to date woman from now on. Sexuality is not a decision you make, like when you try to decide what flavor of ice cream to eat. To say it is is offensive, and makes it seem like it's something that needs to be fixed or changed. And it isn't.
Lesbians Actually Want To Be MenSimilar to the idea that being a lesbian is a choice you make, some people wrongly assume that lesbians actually just want to be men. Um, no. If a woman felt that her real gender was a man, she would be transgender.
It's Easier To Date As A Lesbian Because Women Understand Each OtherI absolutely hate when girls say things like, "Ugh, guys are so annoying, I should just become a lesbian because girls are so much easier to date." Uh, what? That doesn't even make any sense. Lesbian relationships can be just as complicated and messy as heterosexual relationships. All relationships can be hard! I mean, just look at Piper and Alex in Orange Is The New Black if you really think dating a woman makes things easier.
All Lesbians Have Short HairAgain, people seem to have this idea of what a typical lesbian looks like, and that idea usually includes short hair for some reason. Maybe it's because those same people wrongly feel like lesbians really want to be dudes. This is such a dumb stereotype. Source: ShutterStock
Every Lesbian Is A VeganI have no clue where this came from, but for some reason, it's a stereotype that lesbians are also vegans. I have a lesbian friend who once told me that whenever she goes out to eat with people, they automatically assume she doesn't eat meat because she likes girls. What sense would this even make? Source: ShutterStock
Which of these myths have you heard? What did I forget to include? Tell me in the comments!