In the wake of a month of viral promposals, we’ve been reintroduced to the notion that men making the first move is romantic, charming and the way things ought to be. Well, that’s cute and all, but sometimes girls want to make the first move to ask someone out. Yes, believe it or not, that’s a thing that you can and should do if you’re so inclined. Break out of what’s expected of your gender in a hetero relationship and get things going yourself!
Here are seven things you need to remember before you make the first move, ladies. Trust, you’ll be a lot more satisfied than you would be if you waited for something to happen yourself.
Throw Out Those Old, Gendered Norms Of Who Should Ask Out WhoOkay, I'm not implying that you should burn your bra on top of that (unless you want to, of course), but asking a guy out is so much easier when you stop wondering if it is your place, as a girl, to ask a guy out in the first place. This is 2014. Don't worry about chivalry, just try to be forward. Source: Daria/MTV
Have A PlanThis doesn't have to be a huge thing, but it's a lot easier to say, "Hey, want to go to the movies this weekend?" than just say, "I like you" and leave it at that. Having some sort of direction leaves a lot less limbo and a lot less confusion. Your intentions are clear: You like this dude and you want to hang out. Now the ball is in his court. Source: VEVO
If He Really Likes You, He Won't Care About You Making The First MoveSeriously, he won't worry about the idea that he--as a dude--should have asked you out first. He'll just be happy that you two are both on the same page about your feelings for each other. Source: Shutterstock
This Doesn't Have To Be A Huge DealIf you make asking a guy out into the biggest, most nerve wracking thing in the universe...it's going to feel like the biggest, most nerve wracking thing in the universe. You don't have to over-analyze how you're going to make your move. You like this guy. You want him to know that you like him. It can seem scary but when you break it down like that, it's a little easier to take in. Source: Shutterstock
Don't Bother With A Guy Who Is Bent Out Of Shape About You Making The First MoveSeriously, guys who think that it's their job to initiate a relationship are likely guys who think that it's their job to steer a relationship. If a guy can't deal with a girl being gutsy and making the first move, don't bother with them. It's time for them to swallow their pride! Source: Shutterstock
It Might Not End WellRejection happens. It just does. And it's going to suck, because we're human and we hate when people who we like don't like us back. But no matter how awful you might feel, you will bounce back. You will. You will. Trust us. Source: Some Girls/BBC
Remember: Life Is Too Damn ShortSeriously, life is honestly too short to wait for something to happen between you and your crush. This advice applies to everyone, regardless of sexual orientation. Besides, what if your crush likes you back but they're too scared to make the first move, too? Then you're both just floundering and missing out on a potentially great opportunity. Don't let that moment pass you by, girl! Just do it! Source: Clueless/Paramount
Have you ever asked a guy out? If not, would you? Tell us in the comments!