Warning: this post will make you think about things in ways you never have before. Or, at least, that’s what happened to me. I went into this Reddit thread on odd social norms that we never question thinking it would be full of funny answers that I could agree with. Not even halfway through, I found myself pondering the existence of the entire universe. It was a little overwhelming.
But I had to share with you guys. I know that every culture is different, but here in the United States, there are some social norms that are actually really weird when you think about them. Why have we never questioned these before?? Here are 12 of the weirdest social norms that make no sense. A lot of these can apply to everyone, but some are more culture-specific. So, I want to know, what is normal in your culture that you find strange? Check these out and then tell us more in the comments!
Wearing Bathing Suitsc0mbobreaker: It's perfectly acceptable for a woman to wear a bikini and you will even see this on children's programs on television. However, bra and panties which appear to be the exact same thing and show the same amount of skin are a no-no. The only real difference is that we decided in our minds that one is for swimming and the other functions as undergarments. I have always thought the same thing. Why is it considered okay to wear a tiny bikini in public, but it's not okay to be seen with just your bra or underwear on? Sometimes, your bra and underwear may even cover more than a bathing suit does! It kind of makes no sense. Source: ShutterStock
Drinking Alcoholbakester14: Drinking alcohol. It's so culturally ingrained at this point you're in a stark minority if you don't do it, which should be surprising for a drug of any kind, but especially one that alters your mind/mindset. But it isn't surprising, it just... is. Alcohol is basically poison to your body, which is why you get a hangover or get so sick if you have too much. But for some reason, it's more than socially acceptable. Why? Why can we all drink alcohol, but other drugs are illegal? I don't get it. Source: ShutterStock
Birthday Candlessunlight_on_swords: the fact we put flaming sticks of wax and string on top of a cake, symbolizing each year of a person's life then have them blow them out has always struck me as weird, and a little morbid. I've never thought of birthday candles this way, but now that I have... there's no turning back. Source; ShutterStock
Working Hoursguaca_molly: Working 9-5 (five days a week). Why does everyone have to be at work at the same time? If you work 9-5 you are NEVER able to go to the bank, post office, anything like that because they are also opened 9-5. But there are people out there who think that you don't have a "real job" unless you work 9-5 and it's never questioned WHY they think that way. This is such a good point, and something I have never understood. Working 9-5 in general has never made much sense to me. Why do we have to work ALL day? Wouldn't everyone be happier and less stressed if we all had more time to ourselves? Source: ShutterStock
Not Being Able To Talk About SexLovableContrarian: Treating sex as so taboo. There are literally things that .001% as many people do, and they are treated as less taboo. Damn near 100% adults have sex, yet you are a f****** weirdo if you mention it in most social situations. This is SO weird, and something we always talk about on Gurl. Why are people so ashamed to have intelligent conversations about sex? Source: ShutterStock
The Fact That We're So Embarrassed About Going To The Bathroom10_KG_VALUE_PACK: Literally everything to do with the fact that we fart and poop. It's kind of gross, yeah, but it's intrinsic to our existence: we've had to dispose of waste matter since the dawn of life. Someone farts? Everyone grimaces and gets really mad internally. Someone farts audibly? Quiet snickering or totally ignoring it while the person responsible feels incredibly ashamed and embarrassed. Need to poop? "I'm just going to the bathroom!" Rush it so you aren't gone long enough that people think you're pooping. We've developed this whole polite vocabulary around the issue to avoid addressing it directly. Passed wind. Popped. Fluffed. Tooted. But then most people, even those who really buy into the whole shamefulness of it, have relationships in which it's okay to fart around each other and talk about having to poop, and reaching that stage is an indicator of a very close relationship. But also there's this huge aspect of humour surrounding it! And it's regarded as immature and crass and juvenile to acknowledge or derive any kind of fun from it, yet most people, even the more prudish types, can find toilet humour pretty funny. Whole damn movies and books can pretty much be based on fart and poop jokes. And then peeing: also disposal of waste matter, just a different kind. But it's far more socially acceptable to discuss! I've had older female teachers in school address a whole class with "I'll be right back guys, just need to have a quick pee. Carry on with your work." And so on. The thought of the same person excusing herself to go poop or fart is unthinkable. Source; ShutterStock
That Men Can't Have Handbagsdancing-turtle: That carrying a small, convenient bag of items you'd like to have with you day-to-day is somehow feminine and worthy of derision when men do it, unless it falls in some narrow subgroup that's been deemed acceptable for some reason, like "messenger bag" or "briefcase". I was just thinking about this the other day! Why do women get to carry bags, but men can't? Wouldn't it be more convenient for dudes if they could? I don't understand how this became so feminine. Source: ShutterStock
Saying We're 'Good' Even If We Aren'tweeitsvi: If we answer anything other than "good" to "How are you?" then we are caught off guard. I kind of understand why we do this: if it's just a quick social interaction, there's no need to dive into what's really happening in your life. But at the same time, it's weird that "good" is the automatic response we all have for this, even if it's not true at all. And if you say anything else, people think you're odd or you talk too much. Why can't we just be honest about how we are? Source: ShutterStock
How We Have To Wear Different Clothes Every DayI_hate_Mr_Silks: The constant need to look different everyday. If you wear perfectly clean clothes two days in a row your treated like a social pariah. This is pretty weird, when you think about it. If your clothes are clean, what's the big deal if you wear them twice in a row? Source: ShutterStock
How We Say Goodbye On The Phonehundrdsofpeople: saying "okay" before we say bye, on the phone. if you didn't and just said bye people think you're mad. I've never thought about this before, but now I definitely am. Why do we do this?! Source: ShutterStock
Open-Casket Funeralsmeepits: Open casket funerals. What the actual f***. We sew their eyes shut, glue their mouths shut, pump their body full of colored fluid, dress them up, and put make up on them?! What!? Just so we can see them one last time? Or, the shell of what they used to be? Gross. Morbid, creepy, gross. Yeah, this is pretty weird. Source: ShutterStock
That We Rarely Interact With StrangersMiniappolis: Everyone of us just goes about their business. Think about it. You walk in the city, you see thousands of people, but they never question what the other is doing and they don't interact unless predetermined or necessary. It's a curious thing, how we just ignore everyone else. Here you have millions of people, each and every one unique, but we only interact with a select 200 or so in our daily lives. Of course, if we were to greet every one person that we see, it would be quite an exhausting life. But I find it fascinating that we ignore others so easily. This is so interesting to think about. Why DO we do this? Source: ShutterStock
Which of these social norms do you think is the weirdest? Which do you think is fine? What did we forget? Tell me in the comments!