A lot of people believe that girls mature faster than guys, so is it okay to date a younger guy? This week on the message boards, you’re talking about what to do if you like a younger guy but worry that he might be too immature.
Let’s see what y’all had to say:
“I said to myself I’m only interested in older guys, but I’m falling for this guy who is 2 years younger as I’m 17 in school. I really like him and can’t stop thinking about him, but it’s super hard to talk to him. My brother suggested that he will introduce us. I’m worried he will be too immature. Should I continue liking him or let go before it’s too late?”
“I think the best idea is to get to know him first. He might be really mature for his age.”
“Age doesn’t exactly equal maturity. I’ve dated older guys, like 5-8 years older than me, who were immature. I’ve dated a younger guy. This was a while ago, who was not bad. Now my boyfriend is 6 months younger than me, and he’s the most mature boyfriend I’ve ever had. I would just get to know him and see how he is, and it will make it easier to decide.”
“Nope. No younger guys. They are ummmm just a bunch of idiots!!”
“Yeah, nothing wrong with dating a younger guy. It actually makes me kind of mad that teen girls are obsessed with only dating older guys. Trust me, through all my years from my teens into my ’20s watching teen girls dating older guys has lead to nothing but trouble. My first boyfriend was 13 months younger than me, and we dated for over 3 and half years. My current and second boyfriend is 8 months older than me. I think the closer in age a couple is at any age, the better really. Age has nothing to do with maturity.”
I’ve only dated older guys (from one year to four), so I can’t really share any personal experience about dating a younger guy. However, Jess’ boyfriend is younger than her and they are literally the cutest couple ever and have a great relationship. Honestly, the older guys I’ve dated have proven to be way more immature than younger guys in my life.
My best best guy friend is younger than me, and he’s the most mature friend I have. (And, no, we’re not going to date. I don’t know what I would do if I lost that friendship.)
The most important thing to remember is that you have to make your own judgment calls. The myth that girls mature faster than guys isn’t science. It’s case-by-case. So this guy could be really mature! Or he could be really immature. You’ll only be able to tell if you take the time to get to know him. And if he is a little immature, so what? As long as he treats you like you deserve to be treated, that’s what really matters.
What do you think? Have you ever dated someone younger? Were they too immature for you? Tell us in the comments!
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