Few things are more cringeworthy than people who try too hard, especially when it comes to dating or relationships. It’s frustrating to deal with someone who is just a little too clingy, needy, and available, because we all need some space sometimes. But even though this is something that annoys everyone, it’s also something that we are all guilty of doing at one point or another.
When it comes to dating, sometimes we try too hard because we really like the person and we don’t want them to slip from our grasp. Sometimes, we don’t even realize we’re doing it. It’s not a crime, and it’s not something to be ashamed of – trying hard means you’re passionate! But it can definitely turn some people off, which is exactly what you’re trying not to do. Think that’s happening to you? Here are 10 signs you’re trying too hard.
You're Constantly Searching For Your Soul MateIf you're on the lookout for your next partner everywhere you go... stop. Searching this hard for someone is never going to give you good results. Going out somewhere and focusing on only trying to meet someone cute is going to make you miserable. You won't be able to pay attention to anyone else because you're so busy wondering if your next BF is standing just a few feet away from you. I know it sounds cliche to say "it'll happen when you least expect it," but seriously... it will. I used to hate when people would say that to me, but then I met my current boyfriend walking through a parking lot to buy shrimp. So... yeah. Source: ShutterStock
You Can Never Relax Because You're Always Trying To Make A Good ImpressionIf you're always on the lookout for your next soul mate, then you're probably also always alert about how you come off to other people. If you put on an act any time you go everywhere just to try to attract people, you're trying too hard. You need to just relax and act like yourself - that's the only way you're going to attract people who you actually should be dating. Plus, going out and being so fully aware of yourself is not healthy. Source: ShutterStock
You Initiate EverythingIt's absolutely fine to be the first one to text. It's 100 percent okay to make the move and ask if he wants to hang out one day. In fact, I encourage everyone to do those things. But when it comes to dating, you shouldn't always be the one initiating everything. Every once in a while, let the other person do it - you need to create a balance. If you text him the second you wake up every day and then throughout the day even when he's not really texting back... relax. If you ask him to hang out every single day before he even has the chance to, just calm down a little. Again, initiating things is great, but don't go overboard with it. Source: ShutterStock
You Have No Standards At AllI always say that it's not good to have standards that are too high - but at the same time, it's also not good to have absolutely no standards at all. We should all have at least a few guidelines on who we want to date. It's what helps us pick the people who are best for us. I definitely encourage going out of your comfort zone and giving others a chance even if they don't seem like your type. But you shouldn't date or hook up with someone you aren't really interested in just because you want someone, you know? Source: ShutterStock
You Don't Believe In Taking Things SlowI am a firm believer that taking things slow is the only way to build a lasting relationship. When you jump into things and everything goes by super fast, you don't give each other enough time to really get to know one another. If you're the kind of person who jumps into every relationship, taking things super quickly and not giving anyone time to breathe, stop. It's okay to let things progress slowly and naturally. Source: ShutterStock
You Always Make Yourself AvailableIf you literally never say no to a date or hangout sesh, you're trying just a little bit too hard. If you change plans around just to hang out with your crush, you're trying too hard. Making yourself too available and planning your life around the person you like is trying too hard. It's also not fair to you! It's okay to say no to a date once in a while if you're too busy or already have plans. That's not going to turn the person off... in fact, it's probably going to intrigue them, because it shows that you have your own life. Source: ShutterStock
You're Always Anxious and StressedBeing so incredibly focused on finding a partner or soul mate will make you stressed, anxious, and constantly on edge. Trying too hard can easily become an obsession. If you find yourself thinking of nothing other than how you can stop being single, chances are, you're trying too hard. You need to focus on yourself in order to be in the right frame of mind to find a boyfriend. Source: ShutterStock
You Don't Have Your Own Identity Around Guys You LikeThink about how you act when you're around your crush. Do you pretend to like everything they like so that they think you two have so much in common? Do you agree with all of their opinions so that you can avoid anything awkward? Do you always do what they want to do so you can be around them? if you do this stuff, you're not establishing your own identity, you're just trying to make yourself what you think that person wants you to be. Don't do that! Acting fake like that is transparent, and no one likes that kind of thing. Just be yourself. Seriously. Source: ShutterStock
People Have Told You You're Too ClingyIf you've been told from a few different people that you act too clingy and needy sometimes, maybe it's time to make a change. If people are telling you that, it's good to take the very strong hint and try to do something about it. Being clingy isn't just frustrating for others, it's also not good for you. Again, learn to focus on yourself before focusing on others. Source: ShutterStock
You Fall In 'Love' QuicklyI have a friend who falls in "love" with literally every guy she has a crush on. And it doesn't take weeks for it to happen - all they have to do is hang out or flirt once, and suddenly all she can do is gush about how in love she is. Then she jumps into everything too quickly and ends up absolutely devastated when things don't work out. She does this because she's desperate to be in a relationship, and she's trying too hard. Falling hard fast does just happen sometimes, but if it happens to you with literally everyone, you need to take a step back and calm down. Source: ShutterStock
Do you think you try too hard when it comes to dating? Do you know anyone who acts like this? What signs did I forget? Tell me in the comments!