Is Something Wrong With You If You Can’t Orgasm?

It’s pretty common for women to have difficulties achieving an orgasm during sex, but what if you’re having trouble in the self-love department? Surely, you should be able to make yourself orgasm, right? Well, that’s easier said than done.

Sometimes you might have trouble getting an orgasm when you masturbate. That’s what you’re talking about on the message boards this week. Let’s see what y’all had to say:

stephmalone asked:
“I was 12 when I discovered masturbation. I told my mom what I did, and she said ‘Girls do not touch their peep ever, that is only for going to bathroom.’ Well I am 16 now and had sex 7 times and never had a orgasm, but I got to the point then it was over for me. I have all the toys for masturbation, and I still cannot have a orgasm. Went to doctor and did tests, and I am a healthy female. Any solutions to my problem?”

fading said:
“I think you need to spend some time really exploring your body. Find out what turns you on. Vibrators are the best, I 100% recommend them. If you want to, watch porn and find out what turns you on. You can also learn new methods of masturbating from that. Try different positions.

Also, what your mom told you when you were younger may be subconsciously making you guilty. Just remind yourself that masturbation is healthy and natural and not bad. You should never let other people make you feel guilty for doing what makes you happy.”

crushesinwv said:
“Exploration down there is needed, but if you’ve been masturbating for 4 years you should have found out how to have an orgasm. You say you have all the toys, but do you lube them up first? Try porn along with masturbation and see if that helps.”

del677 said:
“Are you taking any medication? Sometimes medication can interfere.”

One of the most important things to remember about sex and masturbation is that it requires a lot of exploration and experimenting. It might take you a while to figure out what works for you and what doesn’t, and that’s okay! Also, not everyone has the same personal preferences so what makes one person orgasm might not make you orgasm.

My best advice is to spend more time with your body in a calm and relaxed environment. A lot of times, it’s likely not a physical issue as much as it is a mental one. There might be something in your mind, whether it’s your mom telling you masturbation is wrong or something else, that’s making it difficult for you to orgasm.

You might just need to spend a little more time experimenting with yourself before you figure out what works. Try different toys, methods and positions, and try to be in as relaxed state of mind as you can!
 
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  • Caramel

    I’m 14, and I’m afraid to have a orgasm. ;-;

  • chanel

    I’m 14 years old and I’ve been masturbating for 1 year and i don’t feel anything down there. I’ve tried different things. Porn- all kinds /Positions- nothing /Objects- no emotions. I don’t have any stress during that time. I ask my guy friend and he doesn’t know either. I only get that rush when I’m with or if a guy touches me but besides that nothing. I mean porn or the vibrator helped for a second but soon after nothing. I don’t know what to do should I just stop trying???????? And is it bad that I cant ask my mom?
    Please Help

  • Nicole1234

    I agree with all of you guys . Majority of the time you just need to sitback and literally explore yourself . I use to think I had the same problem , like I was some type of Alien just because I did not catch an orgasm . Thing is that with boys , not all boys will make you catch an orgasm and even sometimes you need to help them out and with masterbation you just need to be open minded to finding out new things for yourself