A casual hookup can be a great step into understanding your sexuality; your limits, your turn ons, your turn offs, etc. It’s just a good time between you and somebody you’re into, except you get to kiss ’em and touch ’em and all that good stuff.
But it’s not all dandy. Seriously, I’ve learned the hard way that if you go into it or out of it with unrealistic expectations, you might end up with a bruised ego and a bruised heart. There’s no surefire way to avoid getting your feelings hurt–or potentially hurting somebody else’s–but here are 7 things you might want to keep in mind before jumping head first into your first casual hookup.
Don't Go Into It With Super High ExpectationsThis is so hard to do. So. Hard. But it'll protect you from potentially getting your heart stomped all over. Keep it cool, play it cool, and know that this isn't of life or death importance. It's just a guy/girl you're going to swap spit with. Source: Clueless/Paramount
Keep It LightWhether you're barely making it past second base or you're doin' the full monty, keeping things light, fun and friendly is a pretty safe way to go with a casual hookup. That way, whether it turns into something more or stalls, you both know that you had a good, fun time, regardless. Source: Submarine/Channel 4 Films
This Doesn't Mean That A Relationship Is On The HorizonGreat news if you're not looking for one. Bad news if you're going into a hookup in the hopes of things developing into a change of relationship status. Look, things might progress but this could also be a purely physical venture for the person you're fooling around with. Unless you both talk about what you want from this hookup, prepare to potentially have different wants and needs from your hookup. Source: Skins/E4
Be Honest With Yourself AND Your PartnerBe honest during your hookup and after your hookup. Let them know what feels good, what doesn't, etc. Don't let them do anything that you're not comfortable with! And afterwards, If you weren't feeling that hook up, that's okay! Just be honest about your feelings. When that someone texts up a storm, let them down gently (or not so gently if they don't understand that no means no). Rejecting them might hurt their feelings, but it's better than no response at all or leading them on out of guilt. Source: Shutterstock
Don't Obsess Over Texts/CallsIt's so easy to fall victim to this, but it will seriously drive you up the wall if let it take control of your life. If they don't text you back immediately, don't worry aobut it. They might text later. Or in a few days. Who knows, remember, this was casual. They aren't your BF or GF so you can't give them the same level of expectations. Get your mind off of your phone by doing a really distracting activity or physically moving your phone to a different room in your house. Little things like this can really put your mind at relative ease. Source: Vevo
It's Okay To Be A Little DownYou could try to go in with the lowest expectations and still end up hurt if you don't get that text the next day. It's natural, it's normal, but it'll stop feeling so crappy in no time. Seriously, time might not heal all wounds but it heals quite a few of them. Source: Shutterstock
It's Not The End Of The WorldIf you start to develop unrequited feelings for your casual hookup, you aren't alone. So many of us have been there! But don't take it too personally. Seriously, one person's opinion of you doesn't mean that you're some ugly troll who is bad at making out and will never hook up with somebody ever again. Relax! This is super cliche but, hey, it's true: There are a million other fish in the sea. Source: Some Girls/BBC
What lessons have you learned from your casual hookups? Do you have any disaster stories? Tell us in the comments!