That’s what you’re talking about on the message boards. Let’s see what y’all had to say:
“Ok. So I’m one half of a twin. I want to know was it really bitchy of me to tell my best friend she couldn’t go out with my brother? They’d be a cute couple, you know, if it was my brother. I also kinda feel used, like she only became friends with me to get to my brother.”
“I don’t know how you could tell her that she can’t go out with your brother. I mean it’s up to him if he wants to date her.”
“I think if they want to date each other, let them. I understand it might be a bit awkward, but if you think they would be a good couple, why would you want to get in the way of their happiness?”
“Don’t worry! I felt exactly the same when my best friend was close with my cousin. So many people tend to call him ‘gorgeous’ and they often talk to me about him, which gets annoying. If you don’t like the idea of them getting close, why not talk to your friend? You might also just be paranoid at the fact that your friend is using you. Speaking your mind may be the best way at the moment, but don’t be too harsh – you don’t wanna lose friends. If they’re happy, then leave them be!”
I totally get that you feel weird about your friend and your brother (especially your twin) dating. I have an older brother, and it always made me uncomfortable if my friends told me my brother was hot or that they were interested in him. On one hand, I liked the idea of my brother dating one of my friends because I knew they would be good for each other. But on the other hand, if they broke up it would have made things really difficult for everyone.
The bottom line is that you cannot control who people date, even if it’s your own flesh and blood. If your friend and your sibling want to date each other, that’s not up to you. And it’s really not fair to tell your friend or brother not to date. If you liked your brother’s friend, you wouldn’t want him telling you not to date his friend, right?
The only thing you really can do is express your concerns to the both of them. Let them know that you don’t want their relationship to affect your relationship with either of them. Tell your friend that you still want time with her, even if she’s seeing your brother, and that you don’t need details on their dating life.
What do you think? Can you tell your friend not to date your sibling? Tell us in the comments!
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