15 Things You’ll Only Understand If You’re An Extrovert

I’m an extrovert, which is not particularly shocking if you know me in real life. Even though I suffer from anxiety, I’m still an extrovert. People don’t seem to understand how that works, but I promise I’m living proof of it. Extroverts are often though of as shallow, attention-seeking and unintelligent. I don’t know about you, but I don’t really like those identifiers too much because they’re not true. As an extrovert, I’m pretty put off by a lot of the stereotypes against us.

My dad and I are extroverts while my mom and brother are introverts, so I understand both sides of the spectrum. I get why my brother doesn’t want to hang out with me sometimes because my extroverted energy can be really overwhelming to an introvert. Last week, I was working from home in Atlanta and was losing my freaking mind. I’m used to coming into an office and being around people so sitting by myself made me super stressed out. Introverts would love that, but I did not. If you’re an extrovert, you’ll definitely understand these things:

1. You get your energy from being around other people.

You don’t even have to do anything. Just being around people makes you feel better.

2. Being alone makes you feel sad.

When us extroverts are left alone, we get upset. It’s very draining to be by ourselves.

3. You can do things by yourself, but you prefer not to.

I don’t even like going to the grocery store by myself! I just want someone to hang out with me all the time and do things with me 24/7.

4. People always rely on you to make plans.

To be fair, you always make good plans! But sometimes this can stress you out because everyone looks to you to figure things out for the weekend.

5. Not being busy makes you feel uncomfortable.

Most people would rejoice in not having anything to do, but you think something is wrong when you’re not busy.

6. You don’t understand the concept of doing nothing.

What do you mean I’m supposed to just sit around and be lazy? I don’t get it.

7. You come on a little strong.

Extroverts are like puppies who are really excited all the time.

8. You like attention.

You love being the center of attention, although sometimes you get thrown into it unwillingly. You have to be careful though because on occasion, people just assume you’re doing things for attention.

9. You can’t really stop talking.

Sometimes you talk just to talk.

10. You always feel the need to be “On!”

Everyone just sort of expects you to be a source of entertainment.

11. You have too much energy.

You get a lot of stuff done, but sometimes you don’t know how to turn yourself off.

12. You’re expected to be positive all the time.

You feel pressured to entertain, but you also feel pressured to spew rainbows out of your mouth.

13. People think you don’t get upset.

You’re an extrovert! You don’t get sad!

14. Or that you can’t possibly be anxious or have other mental issues.

People almost never believe me when I say I have anxiety because I don’t seem like I have anxiety. It’s really frustrating.

15. Everyone thinks you think you’re a big deal.

Extroverts are typically confident and outgoing, but it doesn’t mean we think we’re the best thing since sliced bread.
Are you an extrovert? Do you deal with any of the above? What else would you add? Tell us in the comments!

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  • Celeste Tuman

    I’m an extrovert and I always feel like adding to the conversation and have to be careful not to interrupt or talk too long. In addition, I can’t stand being in the house for too long.

  • HonestReality

    ALSO: They all think you are always talking because you are needy of company all the time…. But it is actually that you just feel like doing it.!!! You go home… you see something in the tv, you just take the phone and text! You do not constantly have the need to feel someone with you, you just DO send a message, or talk without reason 😛 I have hadd this conversation with people manyyy times in all my life 😛
    Introvents really get tired with us…. after a while… and for a while..

  • Carriza

    Well then, i just figure out how crazy extroverts are .. haha!! Lol!! Just kidding .. i love some of my extrovert friends even though im an introvert one^.~

  • Crystal Senne

    I appreciate your openness about anxiety and being an extrovert. I am the exact way but I never tell anyone because I know it isn’t believable. I’m a very excitable person and always seem joyful and bubbly, but I have suffered with bad anxiety since I was about 5 years old. It is also frustrating because when you talk about anxiety, people tend to think you mean the depression and anxiety that teenage girls deal with, when they feel like they are depressed and anxious because their grades, family or social lives aren’t where they want them, or the kind of depression you get when someone dies or hurts you. It is so hard to make people understand that this is the true anxiety where you don’t know why you feel the way you feel, or why you are afraid of everything and anything for no reason at all. You just do. It’s the kind that you are born with, and simply I feel like I’m a broken object because I don’t respond the way other people do. So really, I depend on my joy, and my extrovert personality to make me feel normal again. I appreciate this post.

    • HonestReality

      This is so true… also because extroverts tend to give much energy and much love to people they really care about and really fast in the relationship(friendship or erotic) it is sooo hard to not know if the way you are is making the other person suffocate or if you are not tiring. Extroverts give so many feelings and they get sooo excited at moments that it is reallyyy killing them the difference in the prespective that they have with other people….
      It is SO tiring and anxious to always have to wander: Did I do good to say that? Was it too much? Did I talk too much? Was it bad that I did this “too good” gesture? Did I acted too excited?

  • Yesenia

    I agree 100% on this list! And I suffer from an anxiety disorder and depression. People were shocked when they found out because they said I’m too “happy and hyper all the time.”

  • nerdx

    as an introvert with ADHD, I can connect with all of those

  • AnotherNoFace

    God, i just barely understood 2 of the list. I feel bad for extroverts .-.

    • Crystal Senne

      Lol, please elaborate.

  • Khaleesi

    Yea, but the truth can be little unexpectable…. They all think that you are perfectly normal, but inside you are mad psychopath O.o
    You are silent just for a minute, starring to nowhere, and they are all asking you what happened to you. You just smile on them and say ‘nothing’, but in that moment you are maybe planning their murder in your mind 3:-)

  • Haleigh

    I’m an introvert and most of these things apply to me hahaha.

  • Hantz

    I can relate to all points except these about doing stuff or being alone etc. I would call myself an extrovert when im with people and introvert when not…This is really metal lol.