Shy guys are pretty hard to figure out, unsurprisingly. They’re shy, so they’re probably also kind of quiet and awkward… not just around you, but around everyone. So how are you supposed to know if that kind of guy likes you and is just too shy to say anything, or if he’s not interested at all? Things can get confusing fast.
I’ve been on the other side of this situation: I’m a shy girl, and I know that guys have had trouble in the past figuring out how I felt. Although everyone deals with shyness in different ways, there are still some telltale signs that a quiet dude is into you. It’s just more difficult, because a shy guy isn’t going to tell you how beautiful you look, or just approach you and ask you to go out on a date. He’s also not going to openly flirt with you or try to get you to sext. So… is he really shy, or just not interested? Here are 10 signs a shy guy likes you (even if it doesn’t seem like it).
You Catch Him Looking At You, Then Looking AwayI know this is a sign, because I used to do it all the time myself. If you have repeatedly noticed the dude staring at you, then immediately looking away when you look at him, this could definitely mean that he likes you. Especially if he acts super weird afterwards, by which I mean avoiding your gaze entirely, walking away, or acting like you don't exist. That probably means he's super embarrassed that you caught him looking at you and doesn't know how to deal... other than avoiding you. If it happens a lot, it's a good sign that he's staring at you for a reason. Source: ShutterStock
He'll Text and Message You, But Won't Talk in PersonThis is another telltale sign. A lot of shy guys (or shy people in general) just don't feel comfortable talking face-to-face. It's much easier for them to talk through a screen, like through Facebook messaging or texting. If a shy guy likes you, but is too nervous to approach you in person, he'll likely message you online or text you. He'll probably have full conversations with you because it's so much easier for him to show his personality this way. Don't get discouraged if he doesn't chat in person - he's likely working up the nerve to do that, but it may take a while. Let's put it this way: he's not just talking to you online for hours for no reason. Source: ShutterStock
Or He'll Flirt Through Texting, But Act Weird In PersonWhen talking through Facebook messaging or texting, a shy guy may be able to open up enough to start flirting with you. But then, just as you're sure he likes you, you see him in person and he acts like the flirting never happened. Sound familiar? This happened to me in college. A really shy guy would flirt with me for hours online, but when I saw him in class, he could barely make eye contact, let alone speak. I eventually stopped talking to him because I didn't know what his deal was, and I later found out he had a crush on me the whole time - he was just shy. If he's flirting with you online, but acting weird in person, it's really possible that he's just embarrassed to continue that kind of flirty relationship face-to-face. Source: ShutterStock
He Hangs Around You, Even If He Doesn't Initiate ConversationI used to do this all the time with my crushes: I would find reasons to hang around them, even if I would never open my mouth. Shy guys do the same thing. If he pops up everywhere you are, or always sits near you in class, but doesn't speak to you, it could mean that he's too shy to make the first move, so he's hoping you will. He's purposely putting himself in situations where you can talk to him so he doesn't have to do it. Try starting a conversation and see what happens. Source: ShutterStock
He's Different Around YouPay attention to how he acts around his friends versus how he acts around you. I'm shy, but when I'm with people I'm comfortable with (like my friends), I open up a lot and can be really outgoing. But around my crush? I clam right up again. If he seems talkative around his friends, but nervous and quiet around you, it could mean that he likes you and just doesn't know how to act. Source: ShutterStock
He Seems Intimidated By YouA shy guy will most likely be intimidated by you, and that might make them afraid to approach you, talk to you or flirt with you. You can get a vibe of when someone is intimidated by you, so pay attention to his body language, and again, notice how he is with other people. Source: ShutterStock
He Always Seems Nervous Around YouAgain, focus on his body language when he's with you. Does he fidget around? Does he do nervous habits, like cracking his fingers or scratching his neck or something? Does he stutter a little when talking? If he's nervous around you, there's a reason. It doesn't ALWAYS mean he's into you, but usually a guy isn't nervous around a girl he's not at least a little interested in. Source: ShutterStock
His Friends Tease Him When You're AroundDudes are always giving each other crap for something or other, especially if they know their friend likes a girl. Pay attention to how his buddies act when you show up. Do they make little comments about the two of you? Do they tease him? Do they walk away when you get there to give you two alone time? It's possible that they're trying to push him towards you in their own way. Source: ShutterStock
He Seems Annoyed When You Talk About Other GuysIf this shy guy in question is your friend, pay attention to how he reacts when you talk about other guys to him. Does it seem like he always has a problem with another guy you're discussing, even if there's really no reasoning behind it? That could be because he's jealous. Does he discourage you from flirting with other guys? Does he get annoyed when he sees you doing it? These are all signs that he's into you. If a guy is just your friend, he honestly will not care what you do or say about other dudes. Source: ShutterStock
He Does Random Little Things For YouDon't expect a big romantic gesture from a shy guy, but focus on the little things. Does he remember stuff you've said before, even things that you barely remember? Does he offer you things, like pieces of gum or food he's not eating? He could be trying to start conversation. Does he try to help you in the classes you have together? Stuff like that. Guys don't just do stuff for girls they're not interested in. Source: ShutterStock
Are you crushing on a shy guy? Do you think he likes you? What other signs did I miss? Tell me in the comments.