10 Signs A Shy Guy Likes You (Even If It Doesn’t Seem Like It)

Shy guys are pretty hard to figure out, unsurprisingly. They’re shy, so they’re probably also kind of quiet and awkward… not just around you, but around everyone. So how are you supposed to know if that kind of guy likes you and is just too shy to say anything, or if he’s not interested at all? Things can get confusing fast.

I’ve been on the other side of this situation: I’m a shy girl, and I know that guys have had trouble in the past figuring out how I felt. Although everyone deals with shyness in different ways, there are still some telltale signs that a quiet dude is into you. It’s just more difficult, because a shy guy isn’t going to tell you how beautiful you look, or just approach you and ask you to go out on a date. He’s also not going to openly flirt with you or try to get you to sext. So… is he really shy, or just not interested? Here are 10 signs a shy guy likes you (even if it doesn’t seem like it).

Are you crushing on a shy guy? Do you think he likes you? What other signs did I miss? Tell me in the comments


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  • Coco Crippen

    So, there is this guy that keeps staring at me. I actually had a convo with him only once, and it was by pure incident. Whenever I look up and catch him staring at me, I am usually the one who blushes and breaks contact, but he’s always staring!!! I used to find it sorta… creepy-stalkish? Now, after 2 and a half weeks of this, I’m sorta used to it. At lunch I was talking about my ex crushes and the mishaps, and the guy’s table was in front of us. While in the middle of explaining what happened, I caught him turning behind to look at me. Idk what to do… I sorta want this to stop, but I can’t be all that mean, I sorta broke his best friend’s heart because I didn’t show up to the dance when he asked me to go. Everywhere I turn, he’s there with his best friend (the one I rejected), and 2 other boys. Last Thursday, I was hanging out in the gym, and the staring guy was there, filling his water bottle. His brother was there and I overheard him say “Why are you filling up a full water bottle?”

  • Yonique

    He gives me mixed signals. In class he always finds a excuse to talk to me by asking me for help with a class assignment or homework when theres clearly a smarter girl beside me thats good at the class. One time he asked for help and we ended up having a deep conversation. Him being shy I never expected it, but the way he looks at me its like were in love his eyes are so intense! he left in a hurry saying “um! I better go back to my seat” haha I just wanted him to stay and talk longer.

  • Emily Castro

    My crush shows 5 of out of the 10 signs and I took a bunch of quizzes online and they all said yes but I’m not quite sure if he likes me or not….

  • disqus_NMASKPtAKM

    I am in 7th grade and I like this boy and we have some things In common . But he is homeschooled and I’m not. I only see him at church on Sunday morning and at youth on Sunday evenings and on Wednesdays at church. My brother told him I liked him and I tried to explain but he was acting weird and acting like he was embarrassed. He is shy . Idk what to do. I really like him. I’m afraid he thinks I’m weird. Me and him are friends though. I catch him looking at me sometimes and I always have to be on his team for everything.

  • Carolina Ribeiro

    Does the zodiac signs affect something?
    I am a Sagittarius(#Fiery) and he is a Virgo (#Earth).
    Sometimes he is pretty quiet and I don’t know what to do, ’cause I fear invading his personal space or scaring him.

  • Jen

    Ok so there’s this guy I like at my church and he seems kinda shy but it’s hard to tell he’s always talking with other girls and all these guys but he seems awkward and never talks to me like he’s walked over and stood there for several minutes then walked away we don’t really talk that much but I’m shy so I’m not very good at starting conversations but he stares at me a lot and he’s bumped into me a lot idk if it was on purpose or not though plus his friends brother likes me so if anyone can help

  • Anongirl

    I got 7 outta 10. Does this mean anything? I’m 16

  • Mia

    So, there is this guy at my school and I always catch him staring at me and then he strokes his hair. I mean I like him, but he does not really talk to me. My friends are like “I think he likes you” but I don’t really know. One of the only times he has said anything was during a track race. I was ahead of him and we are both very competitive. So, in the middle of the 2 mile race he decided to say “Good job, you are doing great” and then he ran past me. So thoughts??

  • What am i even

    There is this guy I became friends with. One day, he found out my number and started to text me every single day. In person, he never talked to me often but always say “hi” or “hello”. And I have ask his friends if he text them often too. I found out that he doesn’t text a lot of people and he texts me everyday. I don’t even know about him much. I think of him as a friend, what should I do to tell him I am not interested but not hurting his feelings ?

  • luna

    I have the same problem with a boy I like who works in a local shop, everytime I go in he’ll stare at me & then look away again when I notice & in the past when I’ve spoken to him he’s either given me a slight but sweet smile or he’s mumbled at me when he’s tried to speak back, yet he’s had no problem talking to my mum.
    He touches my hand when he hands me shopping, he moves out of my way to let me walk by & he even hands me shopping baskets
    However when I interact with his workmates ( especially boys)he ignores me & if I don’t notice or acknowledge him he gets grumpy & sometimes he gets clumsy & drops or breaks thinggs.
    Though just recently he has started to speak to me…..also sometimes when I go in there he just appears from nowhere when he isn’t supposed to be there.

    • Kuronekisa

      Ahh, that means he really likes you. I’ve done some research myself, and the boy you describe fits all of the criteria. Try talking to him more often 😉
      And I know that this was a year ago.. so..

  • luna

    I am getting this problem with a boy I like who works in a local shop, everytime I go in there he’ll stare at me & then quickly look away when I catch him.
    And in the past when I’ve tried to speak to him he’ll try & speak back but ended up mumbling but he had no problem talking to my mum.
    he’d also get grumpy if I failed to notice him & he’ll touch my hand when he hands me shopping, he also gets clumsy & drops or breaks things, though just reccently he has slowly started talking to me…..what does this mean?

    Also sometimes rather than mumble he’d just give me a slight but sweet smile.

  • YeahNo

    I like this guy I work with and he doesn’t speak english perfectly so he’s really shy. Im shy too but I figured I probably would be able to overcome my shyness faster than him….I got him to talk to me and out of everyone else that works with us (minus the other Chinese workers) he makes jokes anf laughs when he’s around me. He’s also really nice to me like helping me lift things at work when he gets a chance to (like the little things that people would do for someone who looks like they’re struggling). He’s really only like this with me. The only problems are I don’t know how to continue from where we’re at and I’m not 100% sure that he likes me. I just don’t know how to let him know that I like him without just being upfront with him (And that’s not gonna happen) or how to tell if he likes me without straight up asking him (which is also not gonna happen). Any advice?

  • No name

    If he continues starring at you I don’t think he is shy

  • No name

    If he looks at you a lot he definitely likes you, try to get him to talk to you…say hi to him.

  • No name

    I’m a 17 year old boy, (I am using this site because everywhere else I feel like it’s a bunch of guys commenting. Anyway I have had anxiety and ADD since fourth grade. 8th grade I finally learned to control my anxiety and it is very hard to tell. I am just like everyone else but I still have social anxiety. I am super social and laugh and smile with my teammates, which are my only friends. I am not friends with a single girl and I am a senior in high school. When I am in group work I almost never talk. I’m super humble and very rarely answer questions in class. I have been told by many people that I am a good looking guy, (5’9” blonde slightly fair skin blue eyes barely any acne 6 pack…swimmer body). the articles info is completely correct. When I see a girl I like I can’t help but look at her if she sees me looking at her i immediately walk away. When I talk to remotely attractive girls I can barely look at there eyes because they are so beautiful I lose confidence. now I have a question. Do girls care what a guy looks like? I have heard numerous times stunning girls hooking up or dating guys that are slightly chubby or have acne. Also a girl I thought was literally perfect ended up dating a guy who has hooked up with half the girls in my grade,(he is a good looking guy). I’m so confused and mad at myself for never having a relationship with a girl.

    • ur cute


  • xanthe lockyer

    I’m in year 7 too and I have a crush on this really hot bad-boy, I like him butI think he likes another girl, that all the boys adore. Any adice?

    • No name

      just so you know guys like that only do things with girls to get laid. A relationship won’t last long or be emotional it will just be sexual