I’m panicking right now. My boyfriend and I had sex. Even though we used a condom, he pulled out before he finished anyway just to be safe. We both didn’t realize that when he pulled out, the condom got stuck inside of me. He didn’t ejaculate in the condom, so he started freaking out asking if anything got on me. When I said no, we both started freaking out. He ejaculated on his bed, but I was lying close to it AND he was out of the condom for a second. Is it possible that I could get pregnant form that? And what should we do if it happens again?
I just want to start this off by saying: good job using condoms! It’s great that you guys were trying to be extra safe by pulling out before ejaculation. While condoms are very effective, they aren’t 100 percent effective, so it’s always a good idea to have a backup form of birth control, especially if you’re already nervous about having sex.
Now, onto your questions. I don’t want to freak you out here, but yes, there is a small possibility that you could get pregnant from this. Even though your boyfriend didn’t ejaculate inside the condom, there still could have been pre-ejaculation in there that could have leaked out into you – and that’s enough to get you pregnant. And there’s no telling whether any of the ejaculation got inside of you while it was in the process of happening, since the condom obviously wasn’t on his penis.
The good news is that if you act fast, you can try to prevent anything bad from happening. Although it’s a slim chance of getting pregnant, you should still take the morning-after pill. You can take it up to 72 hours after sex, although sooner is better. The morning-after pill has a few annoying side effects, but if it stops you from getting pregnant, it’s worth it, right?
The next time the condom breaks, be prepared so that you don’t have to be this freaked out. Once you realize it’s stuck in there, lie on your back, relax, and gently try to pull it out yourself. Or you can try squatting or putting one foot up to get a better angle. You’ll probably need your boyfriend to help you so that you don’t hurt yourself. One of you should carefully pull the condom out – and if you can’t, head to your gynecologist or the emergency room immediately. A condom isn’t going to get lost in your body, but it still shouldn’t be stuck in there for a long period of time because it can cause an infection.
If you want a backup birth control plan, I would suggest trying something other than pulling out. As you can see, that can backfire. Instead of doing that, consider going on the birth control pill or using an IUD. These will protect you even more, so you can enjoy yourself instead of worrying. And be careful when using condoms: typically, they fall off if they don’t fit right, so make sure your BF is buying the right size.
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