Relationships can be complicated for a lot of reasons, but one thing is for sure: you should only be in one if you really, truly want to be, and if you genuinely like and care about the person you’re dating. Unfortunately, it isn’t always as simple as that. A lot of people get into relationships for the wrong reasons, whether they mean to or not.
Things get confusing from there, because once you’re in a relationship, it’s hard to end it, even if you’re not sure it’s right for you. But if you’re dating someone more for some sort of personal gain rather than because you really want to be with them, that’s not fair to anyone. So, should you break up with your boo? Here are 10 signs you’re in a relationship for the wrong reasons.
You Just Really Want A BoyfriendProbably the most common reason people enter the wrong relationship is because they just want to simply be with someone... anyone. When you get to that point where you just REALLY want a significant other, you're more likely to settle for someone who isn't right for you, or who doesn't make you happy. That kind of desperation is not a good thing! Relationships are not the most important thing in the world, and if you're in one just to be in one, you need to end it ASAP. It isn't going to make you truly happy, and it's also not fair to the person you're dating, who might actually be into you. This isn't worth your time. Source: ShutterStock
You Felt Bad Saying NoSay this guy has been chasing after you for months, maybe longer. He really likes you, everyone tells you that you should give him a chance, and he seems nice enough... you're just not into it. But finally, you agree to a date, and the next thing you know, he wants to make things more serious, and you suddenly feel like you have to agree... mainly because there's nothing wrong with him, and you feel guilty. This happens ALL the time. But it's not fair to you! If you don't really want to date someone, you shouldn't do it just to make them happy, or because you feel like you owe them something. Source: ShutterStock
You're Denying Your SexualityUnfortunately, this happens all the time, and it's pretty sad. Maybe you're denying your sexuality to yourself and you don't want to admit what you're doing... or maybe you're denying your sexuality to other people by pretending to be straight to keep up an appearance. Either way, this isn't fair to anyone. Please don't feel like you have to pretend to be someone you're not to please others. Even if you're not ready to come out, never feel like you have to fake it. Just be you! Source: ShutterStock
You're Trying To Make Someone JealousWhether you're trying to prove something to an ex or a girl you hate, dating someone to make someone else jealous is a terrible idea. First of all, it's mean, petty, and immature. Second of all, it can easily backfire. Third, if your partner doesn't know what you're doing, it's pretty selfish. Instead of focusing on making someone else jealous, just focus on enjoying yourself and doing what you want to do. Source: ShutterStock
You Don't Want To Be The Only Single FriendThis is another really common reason that people end up in the wrong relationships. It's really easy to feel lonely and left-out if all of your friends are dating people and you're not. I can totally understand what that feels like, and I get why you feel like you need to fill some sort of void. But dating someone just so you're not the only single one is basically the same thing as dating someone just to date someone - it results in you settling, which isn't okay. If all of your friends are in relationships, embrace your single status and enjoy yourself! Don't stress about what others are doing. Source: ShutterStock
You're Trying To Get Over Someone Else....Also known as a rebound relationship. I know that moving on from an ex can be really difficult, and in that time, you might crave companionship so that you don't feel so lonely. That's understandable. But rebounds are really emotionally exhausting, and they're not fair to the other person (or you). If you know in you're heart that you're just dating someone to get over someone else, end it now, before things get too complicated. Source: ShutterStock
You Want Someone To Do Stuff For YouIt sounds like something out of a movie, but I've witnessed this happening in real life: girls dating guys because they want someone to buy stuff for them, or do stuff for them. In other words, they're craving security for some reason. Not cool. Don't use someone for what they can give you. You deserve better than that. Source: ShutterStock
You Just Want Someone To Hook up WithSpeaking of using people... don't date someone just to have someone to hook up with. Guys are definitely not the only people who do this - I know girls who have done it too. You wouldn't like this to be done to you, so don't do it to others! Source: ShutterStock
You're Trying To Make Your Parents HappyYour reason for dating someone should only be because it makes you happy - it shouldn't matter what other people think. In high school, my mom really wanted me to date this football player who was interested in me. But I had no interest in him! I briefly considered dating him because I knew it would get my mom off my back and make her happy, but in the end, I knew that would be wrong, and so I didn't. Don't let your parents influence you on stuff like this. Source: ShutterStock
You Just Think He's Really Hot But You Don't Actually Like HimI once had a friend who was dating this very good-looking guy... but they didn't get along at all. They fought a lot, and she was always complaining about him. When one of us finally asked why she was even dating him, she shrugged and said, "He's really hot. I would be stupid to dump him." Um, this is a really dumb reason to date someone. Physical appearance is not the most important thing in a relationship. Date someone you actually get along with, please. Source: ShutterStock
Do you think you’re in a relationship for the wrong reasons? Have you ever been? What did I forget? Tell me in the comments!