To put it simply, gender roles suck. There is nothing good about them. Gender roles encourage males and females to act specific ways just because of their gender – they are restricting, and are the reason for so many unfair stereotypes about both guys and girls.
Gender roles are the reason that stupid, lame joke exists about how women exist just to make men sandwiches (seriously? Why is this still a joke?). Gender roles explain why so many men feel like they can’t express emotion, something us girls frequently get frustrated about. In a perfect world, there would be zero gender roles. We would all be able to do whatever we want, without worrying about getting made fun of. Unfortunately, that world doesn’t exist. But we can dream, right? Here are 15 gender roles we REALLY wish didn’t exist, thanks to this amazing Reddit thread.
Men Always Think About Sex, Women Never Dophuck: All that men think about is sex. NeverQuiteEnough: or that women think about it less. I'm pretty sure that is completely made up. I think we're all beyond sick of both of these. Men aren't robots who just think about sex every second of their lives, just like women aren't bitter prudes who hate having sex. It's ridiculous that some people still think this stuff! Source: ShutterStock
Girls Can't Like 'Guy Stuff'ajmstorm: Being a tomboy just because I know how to fix bikes and like to climb trees. I like makeup and dresses as much as anyone but I feel like I either have to explain myself for not being quiet and sedated or guys see it as a quirk like "how cool is this chick for being like a dude!" Can't I just be me without being like a guy or a girl? Love the last sentence! Exactly! Source: ShutterStock
Guys Can Have A Lot Of Sex, Girls Are Sluts If They Doofelia_loves_tseliot: I could list quite a few, but these are the two of the ones that bother me the most: A young man has a high sex drive and has lots of premarital sex with multiple partners: "Good for you, bro!" A young woman has a high sex drive and has lots of premarital sex with multiple partners: Will be constantly called a "slut", assumed to have an eating disorder or a history of mental health issues, and possibly be slapped with an undeserved and degrading psychiatric label. Oh, slut shaming. Make it go away, please. Source: ShutterStock
Boys Play With Blue Toys, Girls Play With Pink ToysMolyismycagename: Gender specific toys. There has been many a time another girl has remarked to my daughter that something she has is a "boy's toy." If a girl wants to play with a truck or a boy wants to play dress-up, let them be kids and have their fun instead of being a joy destroying douchebag. And if your kid says this and you don't correct them, you're a lousy parent. I mean, just let kids play with whatever toy they want to play with. Stop making them think it's not okay
Women Are Frail and GentlePandaexperiment: That women are some frail hopeless creatures that can not be expected to lift heavy things. My manager at my current job firmly believes that the women at our work place should not be lifting anything over 5/10 pounds. I'm sorry but in our job description we are required to lift 50 pounds and up. I happen to like lifting and moving heavy things. I can also lift more that most of the men working there. I'm only 5'0, so whenever I used to have to lift heavy things at my old job, male coworkers would rush to help me. When I would brush them off and tell them I could handle it, I always got surprised looks and shocked reactions. It annoyed me so much! Source: ShutterStock
If A Girl Makes The First Move, She's Desperatecoffeeblossom: Being "a bitch" and/or "on my period" if I get angry, even if a man being angry about the same issue would be considered to have righteous anger. Being a slut if I dare to acknowledge my sexual side...or a prude if I don't. Having to always be the caretaker, regardless of whether or not I actually fit that role or want to pursue it. Having my worth as a human being be determined by how I measure up to an ideal of beauty rarely found outside of magazines. Having to worry about whether I'd come across as "desperate" for making the first move. Being a "gold-digger" if my boyfriend/husband makes more money than I do...or a "ball-buster" if I make more money than he does. All of these. Everything. Yes. Source: ShutterStock
Girls Who Say No Are Bitcheslaffytaffy89: The "nice girl" role. It drives me nuts when someone calls me a bitch just because I say "no" or stick up for myself. IAmAMagicLion: When used in relation to a woman means someone who will not be silent and obedient. When used in relation to a man it means someone who is not assertive enough. It is a word that purely means one is not conforming to the extremes of gender characterization and for this reason is doubly hateful. I hate when guys get called a bitch for not doing something, because it gives off the idea that women are weak. Almost as much as I hate girls being called bitches because they dared to stand up for themselves. Source: ShutterStock
Guys Should Be Taller Than Girlsmariahwihun: If a girl is taller than her boyfriend, everyone thinks it's weird. Source: I am 5'9", my BF is 5'7". This is frustrating for both tall girls and short guys. And it's not fair! To say that two people shouldn't date because of a height difference is ridiculous. Source: ShutterStock
Dads Have No Idea What They're Doing, Moms Are Horrible3serious: More of a media portrayal than a gender role, but I hate that Dads are portrayed as bumbling idiots or out-of-touch parents in the media. This is especially prevalent in sitcoms; Dad is always a moron who needs to have his hot, often bitchy (which is another rant) wife to bail him out/make him understand how dumb he is being - ie King of Queens, Home Improvement, Modern Family,, so many more. In Pizza chain commercials - "Oh, it's Dad's turn to make dinner, I guess we are having pizza!", because obviously Dad is too stupid/inept to cook a real meal. Turn on network TV for something like 15 minutes, and you will see a similar situation, almost guaranteed. It drives me insane. My dad is an incredible parent and the most intelligent person I've ever met. I think the "Idiot Dad" trope is unfair to him, to other amazing fathers, and to future-me, when my wife and I have our first baby. This makes me angry on behalf of my dad, who is amazing and definitely not a bumbling idiot.
Men Can Never Show EmotionAKimik0: That guys have to be strong and not emotional. I also don't like the fact women feel like they have to try harder to look good. I actually like girls that don't wear a lot of makeup. I like to see their natural beauty. This just stinks. I hate when men get made fun of for crying or showing that they're upset. It's so lame. Source: ShutterStock
Girls Can't Play Video GamesShadowOverMe1: That girls cannot be into video games and comics. I went into GameStop to get the new Metal Gear game. The employees were horrible and tried to get me to buy Cooking Mama for the Wii. Not every girl who plays video games do it to impress guys. For some reason, a lot of people think that girls who are into video games are just trying to get male attention. That's insane! Get over yourselves, girls can like video games just as much as dudes. Source: ShutterStock
Women Can't DriveThatCrumbledCookie: That women can't drive. Who said I can't parallel-park better than my boyfriend? I get that this might be a specific instance. But then again, there's one feminist theory that justifies the alleged lack of confidence among women while driving, and attributes it to years of indoctrination by society. Women are constantly told that men drive better and have a better sense of direction. They were also disallowed from driving for quite a while, and still are in many parts of the world. Don't even get me started on this one. Source: ShutterStock
Men Take A Woman's VirginitySeaDragon29: Women's virginity is something that is "taken" away from them, and guys are the ones who take it. Umm...I'm sorry. I thought we were both having sex together. You probably wouldn't say that one lesbian "took" another's virginity, or that one of them "gave it up" to the other one, so why would you talk about it this way for straight people? (More of a linguistic thing than an actual role, but still.) This is a really great point. You rarely hear people talking about a guy's virginity being "taken." Source: ShutterStock
Women Can't Use GrillsMooskitt: Women are supposed to be good at cooking in the kitchen, but put her behind a grill in the backyard and all of a sudden criminal charges need to be filed. Seriously, what is up with this? Why is it the man's role to grill? Why do people freak out when they see a woman grilling? I don't get it. Source: ShutterStock
All Of Them!Tedwardo_Catbutt: all of them. I'd like to be free be who ever I like. Amen. AMEN. Source: ShutterStock
Which of these do you agree with? Which do you disagree with? What other gender roles did we not include? Tell me in the comments!