Does Taking Birth Control Mean You’re Easy?

I’m all for birth control because even though it has some scary side effects, it has some great benefits like, you know, preventing pregnancy. I find that to be very important. Taking the pill and using other forms of birth control means you’re being responsible, but there are still some really dumb stigmas attached.

I’ve been called slutty for carrying condoms, which made no sense to me. Apparently, you can be seen as easy for taking birth control. That’s what you’re talking about on the message boards so let’s see what y’all had to say:

chrissi393 asked:
“I’m starting birth control – I have a boyfriend. My mom knows this, and when I brought up that the best time for me to take it is lunch time (noon) she completely freaked out on me. She said that it would ‘be an invitation for boys’ if I take it in front of them (I sit with my girl friends at lunch in the hallway where no one cares about anyone). She told me that what worked well for her was to take it before bed because it’s right there beside her light. Well, that’s what worked for her. I’ve tried doing that before with vitamins and what ended up happening was I’d forget to take them.

I don’t want to forget my pills so that’s why I thought lunch would be best. I honestly don’t care what others think. It’s birth control, big whoop. Maybe I have bad acne instead. I’m not going to let other guys get in my pants or whatever because that’s reserved for my boyfriend. Tell me what you think. Is my mom right? She’s (as she said) ‘trying to teach me how to be a lady,’ and I know she’s concerned about me but I don’t know why it’s such a big deal. She’s 50+ so I think it’s because she’s older and grew up with different values. Or is it fine for me to take them when I want? In the end it’s my responsibility, so I should take them when I think is best for me, right?”

FlirtatiousFA said:
“It’s your responsibility, you should take them when is best for you.”

docgirl said:
“No, I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. Do what’s best for you.”

bethoney96 said:
“You shouldn’t be worried about what other people think regardless, but no I don’t think they will. It’s your body, you take it when you’re ready.”

the_brooke_chronicles said:
“You seem like you know how to respect yourself so I think you’ll be fine.”

Taking birth control does not make you easy, it makes you responsible! You need to find a time that is best for you to take it so you don’t forget or take it too late. If lunchtime works for you, then that’s what works for you! I will say that birth control (or any medication) is a pretty personal thing so I personally wouldn’t really advertise it in the lunchroom, but even so it doesn’t make you “easy.”

Also, when you take your birth control is not up to your mom or anyone else. I’m sure she means well and has your best interests at heart, but you don’t have to tell her that you take it at lunch. Also, you don’t have to take it at the lunch table if it’s that big of a concern. Just go to the bathroom instead.

When I was taking birth control pills, I kept the pack in my purse so I wouldn’t forget it. I see women taking their pills everywhere from restaurants to coffee shops. I don’t really think it’s a big deal, and I don’t know many people that do. Pick a time that is right for you and keep being responsible!

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  • Cassie

    If you take birth control and sleep around alot you’re a whore. If you take birth control and only have one boyfriend and are of the right age, then it’s fine. Don’t sleep around at 14 and 15 though. THAT is slutty.

    • lauren

      how is sleeping around a lot make you slutty. like if I like knitting then I will knit it’s enjoyable and makes me feel good, so if I like sex and find it enjoyable I should continue having it. now I will practice safe sex, but if I want to have sex i’ll have it. also having sex shouldn’t come with and age your should have sex when you feel both emotionally and physically ready. really ladies when did sex shaming become okay.

      • Beatrice

        While I’d never recommend indiscriminately sleeping around, nor would I recommend having sex under the age of consent (16-18 depending on the state) I agree that it’s not right to judge others for their sexual behaviors, as long as these behaviors are healthy and consensual.
        The concept of sluttiness was created to bring women down, because nobody really cares that much if a guy gets around, and guys don’t face the same consequences for these actions.
        That having been said, sleeping around indiscriminately can put you in dangerous situations and pose health risks. It is also often an indicator of low self esteem, depression, mental illness etc. Always understand why you want to have sex. If it’s because you legitimately want sex, then that’s one thing. If you’re doing it to fit in, be liked, get attention etc. it is NOT the right reason.
        Before you are of age, you also may face legal problems. In California, for example, if two 17 year olds have consensual sex, they can still both be charged with statutory rape because they are underaged. Furthermore, it’s very unwise to engage in sexual activity before you are at least legal because, whether or not you think you’re the most mature person on the planet, your brain is still not fully developed, and you are likely to engage in more risky sexual behaviors, have sex with people you will later regret having sex with, or face adverse psychological effects if things don’t work out (and 99.99% of the time when you’re with someone before the age of 16, even if you think you’re “soul mates” you’re not in it for the long haul, and if you do end up staying together, due to an unplanned pregnancy, or social/religious pressure you’ll likely be unhappy).
        Don’t shame people for being “sluts”, but at the same time, be careful and wise when making decisions about sex.

  • Lissa

    “I will say that birth control (or any medication) is a pretty personal thing so I personally wouldn’t really advertise it in the lunchroom”.

    I don’t really agree with that. Medication is nothing to be ashamed of . I can see the point here but I honestly have no problem taking the pill in front of anyone.

    • Caitlin Corsetti

      I definitely didn’t mean to imply that medication is something to be ashamed of! On a personal level, I just don’t like taking medication in public because people are nosy and love to ask questions about why and what you’re taking. Medication is personal, but I don’t think it’s something anyone should be ashamed of at all!