Trust is one of the most important parts of a relationship – without it, it’s really difficult for things to actually work. But that doesn’t mean that it’s easy to develop complete trust in a person. In fact, it’s the opposite of easy… it’s really freakin’ hard, especially if you’ve been hurt and/or betrayed in the past.
Putting your trust someone is essentially you making yourself more vulnerable, and a lot of people have trouble with that. I’m one of those people. I’ve been burned pretty badly in the past, by both close friends and romantic partners, and it has caused me to be extremely cautious about who I trust now. I know that a lot of you are in the same boat. But when you meet someone who you really like, you want to trust them… it’s just that there’s always this nagging voice in the back of your head asking if this is really a good idea.
For those of you who are stuck in this situation, here are 10 surefire signs you actually can trust him. Now take a deep breath, and learn to let go of the past!
He's There For You Whenever You Need HimIf your BF is always there to lend a shoulder to cry on or even just to listen to you vent, that's a good sign that you can trust him. A guy who is there for you - who will help you when you need help, no matter what - also deeply cares about you. If you can't rely on a guy for anything, that also means you can't trust him. Being there for someone goes hand in hand with trust. Source: ShutterStock
He's Open and Honest With YouHow does your BF act around you? Does he talk about his emotions or what's going on in his life? Does he confide in you when he's upset or angry? Or does he keep things very secretive and act very closed off? I know I can trust my boyfriend because he is very open and honest with me - he talks to me about everything, and values my opinion. If your BF never talks to you about anything, that's not good. But if he is willing to open up to you, it's a good sign that he's trustworthy. Source: ShutterStock
You Feel Safe When You're With HimReally think about how you feel when you're with this guy. Do you feel nervous, like you can't really be yourself or like you don't know what is going to happen next? If someone is trustworthy, you should feel safe and secure when you're with them. You should feel like he'll protect you if you need it, and you should also feel like he won't do anything to purposely hurt you. The next time you're together, really analyze how he makes you feel. Source: ShutterStock
He Never Tries To Hide AnythingIf a guy has something to hide, that's not a great sign. I'm not saying he has to let you go through his phone whenever you want, but if he makes an effort to keep his phone away from you... that's a bad sign. However, if he's totally cool with leaving his phone around you, or he doesn't act weird about social media, that's a sign that he has nothing to hide. If he's trying to hide something, you'll usually get a sense of that. Source: ShutterStock
He Has Happily Introduced You To Everyone In His LifeIf a guy is untrustworthy, he's probably not going to want you to be involved in every aspect of his life. But if he's someone you can trust, he'll have no problem at all bringing you around his friends or introducing you to his family. Why would he? If your BF brings you to hang with his friends a lot or invites you to family things, or readily introduces you as his GF... these are all signs you can trust him. Source: ShutterStock
He Never DisappearsI once casually dated a guy who I didn't trust. I knew I could never trust him, because he was always disappearing. I wouldn't hear from him for days, and then he would text me like nothing happened, with no note of where he had been. However, I know I can trust my boyfriend now because he never pulls crap like that. I always know where he is, and it's not because I'm demanding an answer, it's just because we communicate and he's open with me. If your BF is just as open with you, that's great! Source: ShutterStock
He's ConsistentTrust and consistency go hand in hand. Is he always there when he says he will be? Does he call when he says he will? If he never blows off plans at the last minute, always shows up on time, and consistently acts like a standup guy, you can trust him. However, if he acts like he loves you one week, and the next week is totally cold... well, there's a reason he's being so inconsistent. Source: ShutterStock
He Backs Up His Words With ActionsThis is a really important one. I firmly believe that trust is earned - so has this guy earned your trust? If he's all talk, no action, that's not good. One of my friends is dating a guy who always makes all sorts of promises, but then never follows through with them. Don't trust a guy like that! If your BF backs up his words with actions, that means he's more trustworthy. It shows that he's not just all talk. Words mean nothing if he's not following through with them. Source: ShutterStock
He Trusts YouSometimes, a big sign that you shouldn't trust someone is that they don't trust you. A lot of times, guys who cheat project their feelings onto their partner and end up accusing their partner of cheating. If your BF trust you, it shows that he cares about you and loves you - it also shows that he has opened up enough to be vulnerable with you, meaning you can do the same. Source: ShutterStock
He's Just Never Given You A Reason Not ToIf your boyfriend has never cheated, never lied about anything big, never ditched you a bunch of times in a row, and never did anything to betray you, then why wouldn't you trust him? If you don't have a reason for not trusting him, it might just be your own emotional issues getting in the way of things. But if he's shown you that you can trust in him, give him a chance! Source: ShutterStock
Are you dating someone right now? Do you trust him or her? How do you know when you can trust someone? Tell me in the comments.