8 Reasons Why Having A Rebound After A Breakup Is A Terrible Idea

Today, I read about one of the worst ideas ever. There is a company out there called Rent-a-Rebound (seriously) that makes it look like you’re in a new relationship so that you can make your ex jealous. No, really, I’m being totally serious.

It’s not cheap, either: you have to spend a couple of hundred dollars in order to have a fake person post pictures and messages to your social media accounts so that your ex thinks you’re dating someone new. This is one of the most ridiculous things I have ever heard of. First of all, why do you need to make your ex jealous? Oh, right, you don’t. Second of all, rebounds are not a good idea, even fake ones.

Sometimes this is what rebounds are about.

Sometimes this is what rebounds are about.

Which brings me to my point: rebound relationships are usually a terrible idea. People get into them for different reasons. Sometimes, it’s to get over an ex. Sometimes, they’re doing it without even realizing it. Sometimes, they just want to be with someone. Rebound relationships are okay if you go into the situation truly believing that it’s a casual and fun thing that will help you get over someone. They are not okay if they quickly turn into a complicated, emotional mess that can prolong the moving on process.

Still not convinced? Here are 8 reasons why having a rebound after a breakup is a terrible idea.

Have you ever been in a rebound relationship? Do you agree or disagree with me? What do you think? Tell me in the comments.

 

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  • Willow

    My boyfriend of 9 years
    and I just broke up. This was a long distance relationship which had given us a lot of things against us-because we only saw each other 2 x a month and his effort diminished coming up to see me (75 miles each way) so I was the one doing all the traveling the last few years. We have been having a power struggle for awhile now things were really good then sour then good (asked me to move down there and when I started to look for jobs poof not mentioned again, then he wanted to buy a house together near where he was being hopefully transferred and then poof he did not get that promotion so poof went the house-commit phobic too) I was honestly working on the things with us changing how I react to things etc.. but really the only one working on the relationship-he had a huge emotional block, was in contact with an ex girlfriend that he was with for 5 years (20 years ago) hiding it from and just a lot of things not right with us but, not things that could not be fixed as it was a lot of lack of
    communication. I love him deeply flaws and all (we both have them) or I would
    not have stayed in the relationship with him so long. I’m devastated over the
    break up but know the reality of our power struggles we had with the entire
    relationship.I have been moving forward and taking care of me and getting back
    to the emotional state I need to be for myself and anyone else in my
    life-friends, family etc. I had a feeling that my ex had moved on before my stuff was even out of his house-and I just found out that my feeling was right!
    He hired a pet sitter that we both knew from going into the local pet store
    near his home which he was honest about-things happened so quickly April 20th she started as he was doing a lot of 12 hour overnight shifts – April 23 we had a fight that was HUGE accused him of cheating on me with the ex he is still in contact with (Turns out he was but with the pet sitter) and we did not talk to much and he decided to end things cowardly after 9 years and kind of on the phone the 3 rd week of May. On June 7 I went to get my things and asked him not to do this-he hesitated and said he had too that it was all the fighting and “its not that something just came
    up” (but it was) and I also saw something hanging in his house she hung
    along with all our 6 plus pictures still up of he and I around the house. Now I
    just found out for sure 100% they are seeing each other! He is 47 and she is
    27…..this is in my eyes a total rebound I have known him 30 years and he is
    not this insensitive-but it is him I believe not wanting to deal with the pain
    of our breakup and this young thing is making him feel good which is just what most men need all the time! Also maybe it is a mid- life too? I’m angry, devastated and confused but still going to do what I need for myself.

  • taylor

    It took me 2 years of celebacy from my ex before and occasional dating to really be ready for a relationships, and I met whom I thought at first was a wonderful guy this summer. We were together 7 months. He wanted to rush things where I wanted to take it slow. He was very needy to the extreme. I’m 39, he’s 49. After we broke up, I wanted nothing to do with him, cuz towards the end he was playing mind games and I couldn’t take it anymore. 2 weeks later, he started seeing someone and it devastated me. I’m confused that I may have been a rebound from his previous relationship that ended 6 months before we started dating or is he rebounding? This truly broke my heart and I hate myself cuz I swore after my last break up that I’d kept to my guns and never date again. He fooled me, my family and even my friends, which took his side and left me behind in the end like he was the victim. I should’ve known our summer fling was too good to be true and should’ve known better 🙁

  • Jillian

    The guy I really, really like…I think his girlfriend of over a year was a rebound. He started dating her right after he broke up with someone. I don’t know if that is a good thing or a bad thing.