At some point in our lives, we will have some sort of an awkward hookup. Whether it’s terrible sex or just a truly awful and weird kiss, we will all experience some kind of hookup moment that leaves us cringing and wondering if we will ever be able to face that person again. It’s even worse when that person is a good friend of yours – how can you go on with a platonic friendship once your tongues have been in each other’s mouths… and it didn’t feel great?!
Once, a few years ago, I hooked up with a friend of mine from high school. Things happened really quickly, and immediately afterwards, we both felt uncomfortable, but obviously didn’t know how to deal. The only way to describe the whole experience is to say that it was super awkward. That’s why I’m writing this post. I know that feeling that way after a hookup really sucks… and it can lead to a lot of confusion and mixed emotions. So, if you’ve had a bad hookup, here is how to deal:
Make An Excuse To Get Out Of There If You're UncomfortableIf things are REALLY weird right after, and you don't feel comfortable at all, just make an excuse to get out of there. I've done this a few times, because I've had more than a few awkward hookups (#embarrassing). You can say whatever comes to mind. If you can use your parents as an excuse, do it! My go-to excuse is saying that a friend needs a ride and I have to go get her ASAP. It may not be the nicest thing to do, but sometimes, you just need to get out of a situation. You can follow up in a few days, when things cool down. Source: ShutterStock
Use Humor To Get Out Of ItIf you're with a friend or someone who you're normally pretty comfortable with, use humor as a way to make the situation a little less tense. Joke around a little bit. If you're bold, call out the awkwardness. Sometimes laughing and joking around can make both people feel a little bit better and erase all of the weirdness. Source: ShutterStock
Give Things TimeIf you just hooked up with a new crush, or your first kiss with someone was awful, don't be SO ready to give up on things. If you feel have feelings for that person, just give things time. Maybe you both took things a little too fast. Maybe the timing just wasn't right. A lot of things can make a hookup go from great to awkward. Let things settle down before you try to talk to the person again, but don't always assume that a bad hookup means no relationship. Source: ShutterStock
Don't Avoid Him CompletelyThe easiest way to deal with an awkward situation is to just avoid the person 100 percent. But that's also mean - and since when is the easiest way the best way? Don't avoid the person you just hooked up with if they're trying to get in touch with you. How would you feel if someone did that to you? Plus, avoidance usually just makes things even more awkward. Source: ShutterStock
Be Honest If He AsksIf he's trying to talk to you, but you're no longer interested, be honest (instead of avoiding him!). You don't have to be like, "that was the weirdest hookup of my life," but you can say something like, "You know what, I don't think this is going to work out." If he presses you for a reason, say you just didn't feel a spark. It's better to be honest than lie or make up a lame excuse. It's hard, but it's still better. Source: ShutterStock
Talk To Your Friends About ItNot sure how to feel about your awkward experience? I've always found that dishing to close friends about what went down makes me feel so much better. Sometimes after an awkward hookup, you might feel a little ashamed, and you shouldn't. Opening up about it to a friend will probably make you feel better, and lift a weight off your shoulders. Plus, it makes a GREAT brunch story! Source; ShutterStock
If You Want To Try Again, Try AgainIf you really like this person, and you think you both deserve another chance, go for it! Try to hang out again and see what happens. Like I said before, a lot of things could make a hookup weird. Try to forget about and let go of your last encounter and focus on making this one better... but also, relax. Source: ShutterStock
Laugh It Off!In the end, the absolute best thing you can do about an awkward hookup is to just laugh it off, forget about it, and get rid of that stress. Like I said, bad hookups happen to all of us, not just you. They can make for some pretty great stories if you're willing to see the humor in the situation. And, looking at it even more positively, you can learn from these crappy experiences! Source: ShutterStock
Have you ever had an awkward hookup? What happened? How did you deal afterwards? Tell me in the comments!