Should You Ask Your Mom If You Can Buy A Vibrator?

We all know that masturbation is totally normal and nothing to be ashamed of. Seriously, don’t ever let someone make you feel weird about it! It’s also something that’s really private. We love talking about it here, but it’s also our job and we do it for you! Talking about masturbation with people you know can get a little awkward.

That said, would you ever talk to your mom about masturbating? Or would you ask her if you can get a vibrator? That’s what you’re talking about on the message boards! Let’s see what y’all had to say:

BeccaBlue asked:
“I’m 17 and my mom and I are very close. She says I can talk to her about anything but I feel sooo awkward bringing this up. Lately, I have really wanted a vibrator. I’ve been using the showerhead or my fingers, but it’s getting kinda boring. I couldn’t get one myself because I don’t have a car, and this isn’t something I’ve ever talked about with a friend. I just don’t know how she would react. What do you think I should do? How should I bring it up? And I don’t think she knows I masturbate.”

__quuuue said:
“I’ve never been through this, but I’ll give my best advice. Masturbation is something very private, and I don’t know how close you and your mom are, but I wouldn’t tell her if I were you. That’s just my opinion because she’ll look at you different and probably even walk in on you if your using it. I hope this helped.”

ChristineRW said:
“I believe that if your mother and you are as close as you believe, then perhaps you should ask her for one. Bring it up like you would any other serious topic. Just try not to jump out at her with it. Work up to it, or possibly see if she comes to the conclusion herself. Trust me, the whole conversation won’t be as mortifying as you might think.

A great deal of teen girls masturbate. I don’t think she’ll be too surprised to find out that you do. And anyway, it will also make it far less likely for her to walk in on you doing the deed, because she’ll know you do it and will most likely respect your privacy. In the end, it’s up to you. You can still try your friends, or you can try other methods with what you have. But your mother is a good option, so why not at least ask?”

stillanlg said:
“It’s all up to you. Lots of girls own vibrators, it’s just it may be embarrassing if someone finds out about it. I know a lot of girls who have them and a few of them get bullied for it. You may want to think this through, and it’s your own opinion if you tell your mother or not.”

lucidkitty said:
“You could just buy one yourself you know.”

My mom is one of my best friends in the world. I talk to her about everything, sex included. Personally, I’ve never felt comfortable talking to her about masturbation and could never see myself asking her for a vibrator. But it’s totally up to you what you’re comfortable talking to your mom about!

However, getting a vibrator isn’t something you need permission for or even something you have to go to a store for. You can order one online. Plenty of online stores ship in unmarked boxes! If you’re worried about your parents being curious about a package, you could always have something shipped to a friend’s house. Or get a friend to take you to a store and make a fun day out of it.

I don’t think your mom will think differently of you or judge you if you decide to talk to her, but this isn’t something you have to discuss with her, you know? If you want to talk to her about it, by all means, go ahead! It’s completely up to you, and you know your relationship with her better than anyone else.
 
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  • maggie

    me and friends talk about sex and masturbation all the time. probably too much tbh haha. my friends mom bought her a vibrator, but theres no way i would ever ask my mom. it really just depends on the relationship.

  • Faith

    If you can’t get a ride to a store, you could walk. Electric toothbrushes are the same kind of thing. Ask your parents for one and get two heads for it using the excuse that it’s “for whenever this one gets frayed”. Use one to brush your teeth and the other for your own activities. I would do it when no one is home, as some make quite a lot of noise.

  • Stacey

    Don’t masrtubate on your period. Stuff your bra. Drink your leftover orgasm. It’s white, clear and oh so good fresh from the vagina or better not the penis…

  • Sunny

    I masturbate sometimes but not too much as I’m quite young. I don’t think I’d feel comfortable at all talking to my mum about it to be honest! If I was you I’d try going out yourself to get one, and if you don’t drive you could get the train into town or something. If you really can’t get out and don’t wanna ask, you could always use an old electric toothbrush..

  • Hannah

    my mum bought my first one for me, didn’t even have to ask

  • Charlotte

    When I got a vibrator, my Mum paid for it and even then, it was a very cheap one. The story is that I knew about vibrators and stuff and my Mum knew that I was masturbating so I just asked her one day if she knew where the back massager was because I just wanted to try it out. Turns out my mother isn’t stupid and after a Facebook chat, she bought the small cheap one and whilst it does the job, I am wanting to get an upgrade soon!