Unfortunately, I could talk to you for days about rape culture and how messed up it is. For some reason, we are constantly being told how not to get raped instead of teaching everyone how not to rape. I’m all for being vigilant and aware of your surroundings and having knowledge to defend yourself, but when it comes down to it, rape is always a rapist’s fault.
But some people can’t seem to understand that, which is incredibly frustrating and quite frankly disgusting. Victim-blaming is NEVER okay under any circumstances. Rape culture seems to be more prevalent now than ever, which makes me really sad. No one (male or female) should walk outside with the mentality of “I should avoid getting raped today.”
Prepare to be enraged by some of the stupidest things people have said about rape. Sadly, this isn’t all of horrible things people have said. I’d be here all day if that were the case so I’m going to stop myself before I blackout from anger.
Most recently, Whoopi Goldberg had some victim-blaming things to say about rape. This comes on the heels of "journalist" James Taranto's Wall Street Journal article about how women need to take more responsibility if they are sexually assaulted. On The View yesterday, Goldberg said, "My opinion is, if you don’t want this kind of attention, don’t get poop-faced. Do not get poop-faced. Do not become so drunk you don’t know what is happening. When you say ‘x, y, z happened,’ you have no way of proving it. So both parties, if you don’t want the agitation, do not become so drunk you can’t figure out what the hell you’re doing." Um, no. If you are that drunk, you cannot give consent. This is another gross example of victim-blaming that needs to stop.
Barbara Walters defended Woody Allen on The View while discussing Dylan Farrow's sexual assault allegations against her father. She said, "I don't know about Dylan. I can only tell you what I have seen now. That it's a good marriage, and he's a loving, caring father. I think that has to be said." Sherri Shepherd explained that seventeen is not of age to which Walters responded, "But it was mutual. To condemn this man now is unfair." No, it's not unfair. And just because someone is a "good person" in your eyes does not mean they aren't capable of doing something terrible.
Serena Williams had some really gross things to say about the Steubenville case during an interview with Rolling Stone, "Do you think it was fair, what they got? They did something stupid, but I don't know. I'm not blaming the girl, but if you're a 16-year-old and you're drunk like that, your parents should teach you: Don't take drinks from other people. She's 16, why was she that drunk where she doesn't remember? It could have been much worse. She's lucky. Obviously, I don't know, maybe she wasn't a virgin, but she shouldn't have put herself in that position, unless they slipped her something, then that's different." Going to a party and drinking does not in any way, shape or form excuse what happened to the girl. Whether you are intoxicated or someone puts something in your drink and you are raped, it is still rape. It does not matter how rape happens.
In a 2010 interview with Elle UK, K-Stew likened fame to rape. When asked about the paparazzi she said, "What you don't see are the cameras shoved in my face and the bizarre intrusive questions being asked, or the people falling over themselves, screaming and taunting to get a reaction. The photos are so... I feel like I'm looking at someone being raped. A lot of the time I can't handle it." She came under major fire for this comment and later apologized. Fame is a choice, rape is not.
Remember this guy? Former U.S. Representative Todd Akin of Missouri had some interesting thoughts about rape during an interview. When discussing rape and abortion, he said "First of all, from what I understand from doctors, that’s really rare. If it’s a legitimate rape, the female body has ways to try and shut that whole thing down.” You know what legitimate rape is? Rape. Your body does not "shut that whole thing down." That is not how biology works. Akin later said that he "misspoke," which caused even more collective disgust.
You might know her better as Prudence from the popular "Dear Prudence" column on Slate. She wrote an entire victim-blaming column titled "College Women: Stop Getting So Drunk" on Slate back in October. She says she's not victim-blaming and yet this is another "Don't get raped" advice piece. The entire thing is pretty horrifying, but this line is the worst, "If I had a son, I would tell him that it’s in his self-interest not to be the drunken frat boy who finds himself accused of raping a drunken classmate." She doesn't say if she had a son that she would teach him NOT to rape. She says she would tell him not to get accused. EW.
Judge G. Todd Baugh
This one really got to us. 49-year-old Stacy Rambold was charged with raping his 14-year-old student, Cherice Morales. Before the case went to trial, Morales committed suicide right before her 17th birthday. Rambold admitted to one of the rape charges, but Judge Baugh decided he had "suffered enough" and that Morales "looked older than her chronological age" so he ordered Rambold to just 30-days in jail. Still trying to comprehend how anyone thinks that is okay.
What do you think about these comments? How do you feel about rape culture and victim-blaming? Tell us in the comments!