But how come doctors need to know if you’re sexually active? That’s what you’re talking about on the message boards. Let’s see what y’all had to say:
“Why is it really that important for doctors to know if you are sexually active or not? I know they say it affects your health, but I’m not sure why. I’m scheduled to meet with a new doctor about birth control pills. I am sexually active, but we’re both safe partners. I have no pain, no discomfort. I don’t see how it would be different if you were or if you weren’t?”
“One reason they ask women is that if you are sexually active then there is a minute chance you are pregnant, and certain medications and x-rays could be a problem for that.”
“If you can’t be totally honest with your doctor then the doctor can’t help you and you might want to try a different doctor, or go with a supportive friend who’s not so afraid to talk about these subjects. If you’re sexually active the doctor will know what common STIs to look for. Believe me you’re not the only one who’s sexually active! If you say ‘No’ the doctor might actually be surprised! If you say ‘Yes’ that’s the answer the doctor expects to hear.”
“Telling your doctor that you are sexually active is a way for them to check your health additionally. Just because you don’t notice any symptoms doesn’t mean that there is a 100% chance that you don’t have anything. Also, it’s not just for checking STDs, but the health of your cervix, ovaries, etc. Not to mention it’s good to be honest with your doctor so that they can help you to the best of their ability!”
“There are a number of reasons why telling your doctor if you’re sexually active is important. First of all, sexual activity comes with its own category of risks and medical conditions. For example, someone who is not sexually active (and has never been sexually active) is unlikely to be pregnant, have STDs, etc. Someone who is sexually active may be pregnant, they are more likely to be taking contraceptive pills, they’re more likely to have an STD, and knowing a patient is sexually active gives the doctor an idea of what can and cannot be done. There are a number of medications that cannot be taken if there is even a chance the patient is pregnant. Studies like xrays, scans with contrast dye, etc. cannot be done (or really shouldn’t be done unless it is absolutely necessary) if the patient is pregnant, or suspects that they may be pregnant. STDs frequently do not show ANY symptoms in women until the infection has spread and turned into Pelvic inflammatory disease (PID).”
It’s really important to be super honest with your doctor because they’re dealing with your health. I understand not wanting to tell them everything, but they’re not asking about your sex life because they want to know details. They’re asking because having sex does affect your health.
Having sex puts you at risk for STDs and pregnancy, no matter how careful you’re being. Medications and procedures, should you need any, can be affected if there is a possible chance of pregnancy. Many STDs don’t show symptoms either so it’s important to be honest and get tested because you could have an STD without even knowing it.
They’re not asking for fun, they’re asking for medical purposes. In general, it’s just best to be honest with your doctors about everything whether it’s about your sexual activity or not. They are there to help you, not judge you. Lying to your doctors could potentially harm your health, and we definitely don’t want that. Don’t be embarrassed to talk to your doctor. Trust me, they’ve heard it all.
Do you think it’s important to tell your doctor if you’re sexually active? Have you ever lied about it? Tell us in the comments!
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