I don’t know about you guys, but I have never been a big fan of first dates. Sure, the idea of going out with someone new is exciting, but it’s also really scary and nerve-wracking. First dates can quickly go from okay to totally awkward to what the hell just happened in a matter of minutes.
And trying to figure out whether or not you’re going to get asked on a second date? Forget about it. My anxiety goes through the roof. Sometimes, a first date is so bad that you just know you two will never be hanging out again (like that time I went out with a guy and our date ended after 20 minutes. 20 MINUTES) and you’re happy about it. But sometimes, a first date experience can be a little tricky. Unfortunately, just because you had a good time doesn’t mean he did. So, how do you know if the first hangout sesh sucked? Here are 10 signs he’s not going to ask you out again:
There Are A Lot Of Quiet, Uncomfortable MomentsA good first date should also include good conversation. If there are a lot of quiet, awkward moments, that usually means there is little to no chemistry. Unless you're both really shy, a ton of uncomfortable moments probably means there will be no second date. It's a sign that he's not having a good time or doesn't feel like he can open up to you. Source: ShutterStock
He Barely Asks You About YouAnother sign the conversation means there will be no second date? If he spends the entire time talking about himself and doesn't once ask about you. Yes, there's a chance he could just be nervous and can't stop talking, but most of the time when a guy is really interested, he wants to get to know you! He will ask you questions about yourself and he'll really seem interested in your responses. If he doesn't seem like he cares, it's probably because he doesn't. Source: ShutterStock
He Talked About His Ex... A LotTalking about an ex on a date is a big no-no. If he brings up his ex once, because it makes sense with the convo, I'd let it slide. But if he manages to bring up his ex more than once when he really doesn't have to, that's a big sign that he isn't over her just yet. And that means he might not ask you on a second date. Unless he's rebounding, in which case, stay away. Source: ShutterStock
He Never Makes A Point Of Saying He's Having A Good TimeWhen a guy is having a good time, he'll tell you! Unless he's uncomfortably shy, he'll want you to know that he's enjoying himself. Any good date I've had, the guy has made a point of saying, "I'm having a good time" or "This is fun!" Any one-time-only date I've had has never included a phrase like that. If he doesn't say it, he probably isn't thinking it. Source: ShutterStock
His Body Language Is OffYou can tell a lot by paying attention to body language. If a guy isn't having a good time, he'll be closed off - sitting with his arms crossed, not facing you, not making eye contact, etc. If he's having a good time, he'll be leaning into you, staring into your eyes, smiling and maybe even trying to casually touch you. If his body language is off, it's a good indication a second date is not just around the corner. Source: ShutterStock
He's On His Phone A LotUnless he's just plain rude, a guy who is enjoying his first date a lot isn't going to be on his phone. When my BF took me out on our first date, I watched him turn his phone off completely. Once, on a bad date, I literally sat there for five minutes while a guy texted. It was basically him saying, "Eff you." Source: ShutterStock
The Whole Date Feels RushedA good date should feel easy, like you guys are having fun and neither of you wants to end the night. If he ends things abruptly right after the movie or right after dinner or whatever, that means he's not interested in doing anything else. If he makes up an excuse to end early, that's even worse. If he wants to keep hanging out with you, he'll try to prolong the date. Source: ShutterStock
He Never Made Legit PlansWhen a guy really wants to see you again, he will lock that ish down. Seriously. He will say, "I want to see you again," and he'll try to make legit plans and tell you when he's free. If he's just like, "We should do this again sometime," he might just be trying to be polite. And if he says NOTHING? Warning, warning! Source: ShutterStock
You Don't Hear From Him For A While AfterwardsAfter a great first date with a guy who is interested in you, he will text you probably right after to tell you that a) he had a great time and b) he can't wait to see you again. I promise. He will. Not hearing from him at all that night is a big sign it's not going to happen again. And if you don't hear from him for days? Yeah, kiss that second date goodbye. Source: ShutterStock
He Ends It By Saying 'I'll Call You'He's not going to call you. This is a dude's lame way of trying to end things on a nice note while being totally and completely vague. He's not TRYING to lead you on, he's just trying to be nice. But he's lying. He's not going to call you. Source: ShutterStock
Have you ever experienced any of these things? Do you agree or disagree with me? Tell me in the comments!